Lol! You make it sound like a switch that I can just turn off!
Of course I want to get rid of it - but there's a difference between a fiery temper and scorn.
Example, if I do get into an argument with Remi, I'm generally the noisier one - I grew up in a german family where we yelled all the time. Not even in anger! We yelled when we're happy, upset, mad - you name it.
If you're Greek or Italian, you know where I'm coming from.
We were taught to wear our emotions on our sleeves, but also learned to apologize quickly, never hold grudges and accept apologies despite being still angry.
We all have our bad traits, whether it be a sharp tongue, gossiping, lying, cheating etc.
I never claimed to be perfect, and I do ask God for help when I feel myself start to get to the end of my rope.
Understand, I don't anger easily, but its when I do that I get sharp.
I also have never, ever thrown something, hit or broken anything.
Worse, I stomp around a bit.
I would love it if Remi got 'fiery' once and a while and told me how he really felt, instead of bottling it all up and walking away to fester.
I would rather have a yelling match and know whats really going on, then have him sulk for 3 days.
Silent tempers seem to have a long burn out that can last days.
I flare up, and an hour later - I'm totally passed it and ready to keep going and make up. *shrug*
So while I would love to have less of a fiery temper, I would also love to be more gentle, more caring, more considerate, more trusting...etc.
I have a laundry list of goals - I can't expect it to be "fixed" overnight because I decide to.
And its also my wiring. I love chocolate, I hate liers, and I have a temper, that I readily admit to.
Thankfully I married a man who can understand that, love me despite it, and will look past my faults, as I do his.
Peace,
- Niffer