Widows & Widowers

[KeilCoppes]

So if you marry somebody 15 years yonger than you, the likelihood that she'll live twenty years past your death is pretty high. Are you going to be selfish enough to want your wife to be alone for that long?

I had a curious thought - the idea of marrying a widow or widower seems to have dropped out of American society as something to not be contemplated. And yet this was very common in the early Americas and before, and marrying across age differences seemed to be moderately prevalent among the founding fathers.

• Are our reactions today the romantic ideal affecting how we think?
• Is our wondering about widowhood because our families have become so disintegrated that we have no practical togetherness to fall back on for emotional support?
• Or is it because many of us live so financially close to the bone that she may have no support or no possibility of remarrying? Do we not work to leave our wives and children an inheritance?
• Or do we simply believe that youth is the only way to find a wife or husband and our wives will be unable to remarry?

People are still created the same way they've always been... what is it the difference? Why is it significant?

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I think you're trying to over analyze it all. It has never occurred to me to marry a widower due to the fact that I've never met a man that I was romantically interested in that had lost his wife. Does that mean I would have never consider it? No.

I think for the most part it isn't an option for many people due to the fact that they haven't met anyone who was a widow/er. Plus, statistically speaking, you're more likely to find a higher rate of widow/ers the older you are. Anyone in their 20s probably are going to meet very few, if not zero.

 

[Sketcher]

I think for the most part it isn't an option for many people due to the fact that they haven't met anyone who was a widow/er. Plus, statistically speaking, you're more likely to find a higher rate of widow/ers the older you are. Anyone in their 20s probably are going to meet very few, if not zero.

Exactly why I don't really consider widows. There aren't any my age.

 

[Tink]

I'd marry a widower, if I found one to be interesting. :shrug: I agree that you may be worrying too much, Keil. LOL

In Christ,
Tink

 

[Xen_Antares]

Ive only met one widow that was my age, she lost her husband in a car crash. She was more intrested in making ends meet and take care of her daughter more than dating. Though she did mention she had begun to think about getting into the dating game but she wasnt wanting anything too serious. But all the other widows I know are old.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Actually, it was the concerns on age difference that struck me, and the worrying about things out at the end of life if a spouse were to die earlier. Not any worrying going on here at all. :^)

ps - I think that most of today's widows are called divorcees and single parents.