why?

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

You people who are content without another should praise God for such a gift. There are some that can't stand being alone, and that's a problem.

I think people who have such a problem needing someone to be with SHOULD spend time alone. I think you'll learn a lot about yourself and will be able to grow and learn that you don't need anyone. Except God, that is.

I personally feel that you cannot really be happy with anyone unless you're happy being with yourself first. Does that make sense?

 

[Tuffguy]

Just tell them that you feel sorry for them as married people. LOL
I always make my married friends angry when then ask me what i did last weekend and i'm like,, oh went out w/the guys thurs and friday night, went to the beach sat afternoon, when for a bike ride sat night and had dinner/movie with a date, went to the beach again on sunday, took a nap, then hung out w/my friends some more. They go nuts. They're like,,,i painted a room, mowed the lawn and went to home depot. hahahahaah

 

[caitlincares]

They're like,,,i painted a room, mowed the lawn and went to home depot. hahahahaah

These have nothing to do with being married or single.
I own my own house. I enjoy painting a room.
And if I liked shopping more I would enjoy going to home improvement stores.

 

[Cordelia]

Single people really can be content and happy.

I hear that!! I can honestly and truly say I am blissfully happy on my own. In relationships, even good ones, I've always felt so stifled. I just love waking up every morning knowing I could do absolutely anything, and anything might happen without me having to deal with a SO first!

My family seem really happy that I'm still single, actually...I'm different from my young cousins (some still teens) who are all settling down and reproducing already (aghh!). My friends are the trouble, trying to set me up...Until recently, one of them was on at me to find someone so I can double-date with her and her BF...now they're having 'difficulties' and I'm just dying to say "I told you! I told you, you're too young for this." But that would be horrible and petty

 

[FireRock]

I have a married friend who is trying to set me up with both her brother and a friend of hers who lives in a different state. That's when it gets annoying. Did ya think I'd try 'em for awhile and them pick the best one?? Sorry, I don't work like that. *rolls eyes* Then there's the whole "Well what about so-and-so?" or "Have you ever thought about so-and-so?" *sigh* I get I've never been into boys or relationships all that much in my life anyways, so I dont get why people make as big a deal out of it to me as they do. *shrugs*

I guess married people just don't understand. Sad for them. *sniff* *sniff*

People generally give me creeped-out/weird looks when I tell them that God may want me to remain single for the rest of my life, and that if it's true then I think it'd be awesome! That's just amusing for me to watch. *grin* Even though I don't know for sure yet, why rule out the possibilty?

 

[Blank123]

it can be annoying to have people who are married or who are in a relationship look down there noses at you. I get a lot of people ask me if I have a boyfriend and when I say no they seem like they don't know what to say, so they normally tell me something like "oh don't you worry, one of these days you'll meet someone" I always feel like telling them "yes, I believe I will, when and if God plans for it" come to think of it I should.

Actually my old youth pastor got really annoyed at this to, he had a problem with people at our church trying to set him up, so one time when our head and associate pastors were both out of town he was in charge of delivering the sermon, and he managed to sneak in a few little subtle comments about how much that annoyed him. I thought that was funny.

 

[gsmithcat]

Why does everyone want me to date someone? Can't I be alone in peace?

Yeah, I know where you're coming from. My family doesn't bother me about it much, but I've got a friend (who is also single but dates a lot while I don't date at all) who constantly gives me grief about my lack of dating.

Once (when we were roommates), he asked me to go to lunch with him and some friends (not in advance or anything, just "hey, we're going to lunch now, wanna come?"). Anyway, it turned out to be a secret double date (which I did not figure out till he yelled at me later for my "improper date behavior").

 

[PetraFan007]

man...that's s sick joke...everyone wants to date you and you don't want it? Why doesn't that happen to me??? You should consider yourself lucky dude! lol You're like a rich guy getting mad whe someone offers you a Jaguar!!!

 

[Tink]

Happy Singledom, Remy. And all you other cool cats who're single too.

-Tink

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Why does everyone want me to date someone? Can't I be alone in peace?

I soooooooooo know how you feel. My mum has been bugging me for 10 years (basically since my attempt at marriage ended in disaster in 1993). She tells me I am a loving person or that I have a lot of love to give someone. Well, that may be true but nobody wants it from me. I think I finally got it through to her head (ironically enough it was on the way home from my future sister-in-law's bridal shower!) that I didn't want to be bugged anymore about it because the timing just isn't right. I know she probably thinks I'm insane because I've been single this long so the timing ' should be' right but I know in my heart that there needs to be some serious changes in my life before I can bring anyone else into the picture. God's workin' on me and I'm just not there yet!

Dad says he prays for me that the right man will come along so I won't be lonely.....hey, my house is falling apart so right now the 'right' man would be Bob Vila but I think he's spoken for! lol!!!

Unfortunately, I think there is some truth to tenorvoice's earlier post that people in relationships/married are miserable and can't stand to see us single folks happy.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I think people who have such a problem needing someone to be with SHOULD spend time alone. I think you'll learn a lot about yourself and will be able to grow and learn that you don't need anyone. Except God, that is.

I personally feel that you cannot really be happy with anyone unless you're happy being with yourself first. Does that make sense?

Yes, that makes perfect sense. It's really the point of my previous post....I'm not yet to the point where I'm happy enough with myself and my spot in life. Why make some else miserable?

 

[Nater_Tater]

There is alot of pressure for people "Date".....Some people just don't realize that alot of people haven't reached a stage in their life where they want or need companionship with another person.