Why would you want Children in this day and age?

[Johnboy60]

Hi, With all the drug problems and gangs and parents these days don't punish their children like they did in the old days. It's a real mess today. Children born in this day and age it takes alot of money to have children with the cost of health care and food and clothes. I think people that do have children are not having over two kids or more because the cost of care and not a safe place to live anymore.
What do you have to say about this subject? Why doesn't people want children for adoption instead of having children?



Thanks, Robert.

 

[Bookman]

Because God gives people the desire for children. It's a natural desire and shouldn't be discouraged. Believe it or not, I remember a similar conversation with some friends of mine nearly 30 years ago! Exact same things were said. But now my wife and I have three adult daughters who are tremendous blessings to us. And that's how the Bible describes children, as blessings. To refuse a blessing from God seems to me to be very foolish.

 

[Child of The King]

Wow! We've been truly blessed with 6 beautiful children. I can think of no reason not to have them. 2 are our natural children and 4 through adoption. Children are a blessing and the money put into them can not compare to the "gifts" they give us in return. I have never been able to put a price tag on my children ( or any other life for that matter). I guess I really don't know how to even react to this post other then to let you know that the best things in life can't be measured with dollars and what may be. The children that God has blessed us with are his. He is in total control over their lives, just as He is in control over ours. I just trust Him to take care of them and protect them from all the "evils" in the world. Do we pass up other blessings because there's a chance we may lose them? No, we accept them and enjoy them to the fullest. Have a wonderful Jesus filled evening and may God richly bless.
Tammy

 

[lucypevensie]

It has never been inexpensive to have children. The money issue has always been there.

I agree with the posts above. God gives people the desire to have children. After all, He did command mankind to be fruitful and multiply.

About your question why don't people want to adopt--I sometimes wonder the same thing. Especially in cases of infertility. Some people spend years and years and thousands of dollars to become pregnant. Yet I wonder why they don't consider adoption sooner. True, adoption can take thousands of dollars and years to finalize too. But yes, I do wonder about that.

 

[joyfulnoise]

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[Kelly]

We need to make some extra lights in the darkness.

 

[selune]

beautiful summation Kelly! What bright lights they are!

 

[retooferab]

Why want God's blessings? Strange question.

To see the miracle of development, birth, growth...
To see the wonder and beauty in the eyes of my children...
They are blessings I am overwhelmed with thankfulness for...

Children are amazing blessings!

Well, hey, I can remember a time when I didn't appreciate kids much (before mine came along). So I can understand that perspective. But you gotta trust God!

 

[desi]

Hi, With all the drug problems and gangs and parents these days don't punish their children like they did in the old days. It's a real mess today. Children born in this day and age it takes alot of money to have children with the cost of health care and food and clothes. I think people that do have children are not having over two kids or more because the cost of care and not a safe place to live anymore.
What do you have to say about this subject? Why doesn't people want children for adoption instead of having children?


Thanks, Robert.

Ha ha. I have five children. They are terrific. This is one of the best times in history to have them. Food is cheap and easy to come by, as are clothes, medical care is free for the poor-which I am until this May when I graduate college and get a job. So long as you raise you children right, according to the Bible, they will turn out well and college financing will take care of itself. My children are in martial arts so they can take care of themselves if a physical confrontation comes up. The Bible says having many children is good because they are 'as sharp arrows to protect us from our enemies.' I pity the fools who choose to not have children or to have few children. They're putting all their eggs in one basket and relying on investments to cover their retirement, trusting in money which is iffy. I place my retirement in God's and my children's hands. Many children is better than few because the more you have the more they help each other and the less they compete for attention. Having a large family is great, I would have it no other way.

 

[karla]

Wow! We've been truly blessed with 6 beautiful children. I can think of no reason not to have them. 2 are our natural children and 4 through adoption. Children are a blessing and the money put into them can not compare to the "gifts" they give us in return. I have never been able to put a price tag on my children ( or any other life for that matter). I guess I really don't know how to even react to this post other then to let you know that the best things in life can't be measured with dollars and what may be. The children that God has blessed us with are his. He is in total control over their lives, just as He is in control over ours. I just trust Him to take care of them and protect them from all the "evils" in the world. Do we pass up other blessings because there's a chance we may lose them? No, we accept them and enjoy them to the fullest. Have a wonderful Jesus filled evening and may God richly bless.
Tammy

AMEN and God Bless you.


I have two children and I couldn't imagine not having them. Yes this world is full of some very terrible and horrific things, but my children are ones that I look to make a difference. Even at such a young age, they make a difference. They have made a difference in my life and those lives that they have been a part of. To look at the world and see all that is wrong is so easy to do, to look at my children and see all that is right is easier. I remember after I had my daughter, people would say "so when's the next one coming" and then I had my son and the same people would say "a boy and a girl - the perfect family now you can be done" Like that was the end all. Children are a gift from God and however much the Lord blesses us I will be thankful. Whether I have no more children or 10 more children, I will praise the Lord for these miracles. As a parent, you raise your children the best you can with what you have, you love them, you respect them, you teach them about the the goodness and the reality of evil, you teach them right from wrong, and above all you pray. Doing all these things, I know that my chldren will make a difference, even if it is just for one person, it is more than worth it.

 

[GraceDancer]

A little over eleven years ago, I decided I didn't want my husband and I to have children. Same arguments as Robert43, especially about how scary the world is and wondering how you could ever be sure they would be okay.

Two weeks later I found out I was pregnant! God clearly had other plans for us, and am I ever glad!! We have a wonderful son, bright, funny, loving. He's in fifth grade now, and facing middle school next year. Am I scared? You bet! Do I wish it had never happened? No way! I realize now just how faithless I was in letting my fears nearly rob me (and the world!) of such a great person as my son. I hope he'll always be great. I hope he'll always follow Jesus and make the right decisions and never give his parents any grief. I more than hope -- I pray that! And we're doing our best to make sure it happens.

And as an added bonus, I'm learning how to trust. Through ordinary childhood illnesses and kidney surgery, through kindergarten and the scariness of the first day of first grade, through friend issues and long-distance moves, we're learning that God is trustworthy. And I highly suspect we'll continue to through first dates and sex education, peers using drugs and whatever other temptations come his way.

There are no guarantees. But God has promised that He will be faithful in doing His part, and whatever choices my son makes in life, be they good, bad, whatever ... he is still my son, and I will still love him and pray for him and know that he belongs to the One who created him and gave him to us.

As for the adoption question -- we considered adoption a few years ago when I thought I wanted another child but didn't want to go through pregnancy again (it was very difficult on me the first time). We talked to several people about it, but the thing that struck me most was what a counsellor friend said. He said that adoption is a calling, not for everyone (same is true of any kind of parenting, I suppose). We didn't feel led to do it. Some folks may be. God knows who's best suited for parenting, whether "naturally" or by adoption. I'm so glad he chose us for this high calling!

Blessings!
GraceDancer

 

[kstam]

I am blessed with 5 children and we are raising them according to God's way. I am sure they will be used by God mightily some day.

Satan doesn't want Christians to have children, especially godly children. He gave us excuses such as too busy, too expensive, bad society, etc. Without godly children, there will be no godly people in the next generation.

When we invest in our children, we are also investing in the future of our society.

 

[mamaneenie]

I have a 2 yo, who is the reason I get out of bed everyday. I love to watch him learn new things and see the innocence and joy he has. I know God blessed me with him, even though I had decided I didn't want kids. My husband and I are trying to conceive our second child. I think pregnancy and childbirth are amazing processes.

About adoption, I don't feel God wants us to adopt children at this time. However, when we are older and our son has grown up a little more, I am interested in fostering a child. I know a couple with adult children, who have been fostering 2 children for at least 5 or 6 years. They are a brother and sister from the same family. If you are in the situation to foster and adopt children, that is a great blessing too (for the children and the foster family)

 

[LiVingSoUL]

hi im new here..nothing just wanna let you know....

anyway about the topic....i dont have any children yet,im still single...but i desire to have one now,,,though i cant really support such commitment,,im thinking to have one becasue its fun and i like children so much especially babies,i like taking care of them...im planning to adopt(but its just a dream,a dream that would not happen)maybe for just few days or weeks then ill return them to the original parents...
many people love their child when he is young,but as years grow and unwanted things happen in the family specially parent quarrel,though the children were not part of it they were the most affected..then the love will begin to fade,, and they will let there children on their own,not disciplining them and not taking care of them....and the child will grow with hatred and bad thuoghts in this world that they carry them when they will have their family.....but things may change when they will see their new born babies and do the things which their parents did not do to them.....(i guess i did not answer your question,,but its realated anyway----about having children)

 

[Pastor_Benjamin]

Kids are a blessing. It is very important that you raise them properly with a understanding and relationship with the Lord.

 

[bigat]

My wife and I put off having kids for 5 years. Why? Money. We were sooo worried about the financial aspect of having kids. My daughter is now 2 and I have to say thus far - I worried for no reason. I don't think having kids is THAT expensive. It is an amazing life adjustment (by amazing I mean wonderful - great - needed ect..). Having kids take the focus off you own selfish desires & forces you to focus on them - the kids.

Children are an amazing blessing! Why did I have kids? Because my life wouldn't be complete without her.