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Why Stop?

JillLars

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Thank you Oldominion for a well thought out response. I haven't been trying to twist the word to get what I want, I am simply looking for some answers. I think that my boyfriend and I may have a small ceramony or something to make our marriage offical. I wish that we could get married right now, but it just is not a good time, I know that may sound ridiculus, but if you knew my circumstances right now, you would probably wait as well.

I'm sorry Cammie for making it sound like your marriage certificate had no meaning, I do understand that many people still take the institution of marriage very seriously. I just tend to think that God looks more at the relationship itself than the piece of paper. Many people really don't care too much about that anymore. I am glad that you do Cammie, and I wish you and your husband the best of luck.

I am not some sex-crazed lunatic as many of you would think. I waited a long time to have sex, just not till my wedding night...so for those of you who would imply that Cammie worked harder than me, take a look at our ages and realize we probably worked about the same. I do have some doubts in my mind, but I have to make sure that I stop for the right reasons. Like I have mentioned before, I have stopped before and totally for the wrong reasons. Will I stop, I don't know for sure. If I don't, I certainly hope God will forgive me and realize that my boyfriend and I love each other very much and plan on spending the rest of our lives together.

I am still searching for answers, and I still have a hard time accepting "because God says so" when I see it vaguely portrayed in his word. I think that God will forgive me for my skepticism as its a hard thing to overcome when you're new at Christianity.

Thank you all for your replies, they are appreciated!
 
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One thing i would say; if there is some doubt in your mind, don't you think it would be better to give the "generally accepted christian thinking" the benefit of the boubt? It would be hard, no boubt at all to stop now, after getting into the habbit/routine, whatever you want to call it, but on the off chance that you are infact upsetting God, i personanlly would stop, until i found something implicitly saying that it is ok.. - but thats just me! because i don't want there to be any doubt in my mind that i am pleasing God...

I'm glad you are atleast considering stopping, and i pray that the Lord will "show you de way" (jamaican stylee, hehe) ;)
 
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I am praying that God will have me stop because he wants me too, when I stopped before I was so proud of myself, and was telling everyone what a better Christian I was being, ok, that's not good either, and when I realized I was just stopping to gain the approval of the majority of Christians I felt worse than I did for sleeping with my boyfriend in the first place. I just have to get it right, I think I will eventually, and I hope God will stick by me while I make all these mistakes, once again, thanks for the replies everyone!
 
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Today at 05:44 PM JillLars said this in Post #83 (http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?postid=689896#post689896)

I am praying that God will have me stop because he wants me too, when I stopped before I was so proud of myself, and was telling everyone what a better Christian I was being, ok, that's not good either, and when I realized I was just stopping to gain the approval of the majority of Christians I felt worse than I did for sleeping with my boyfriend in the first place. I just have to get it right, I think I will eventually, and I hope God will stick by me while I make all these mistakes, once again, thanks for the replies everyone!


Glad to hear that Jill (taking that's your real name right?)

Oh, and God sticks with us through thick and thin ;)
 
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