It's not a choice. God asked children to be submissive to parents and wives to be submissive to their husbands.
This simple truth has been destroyed by misunderstanding and the enemy's corruption of it. Also, by sinful men that abused it.
The relationship of the wife and husband is supposed to be like the Christian to Christ.
So, as a wife, ask yourself "would I treat Christ that way" "would any Christian treat Christ that way".
Then, as a husband.. remember that Christ came to serve.. eventually.. He died for His Bride.. the church.
So, abusive men who want control.. ask yourself... "would Christ treat a woman that way"? "Would Christ treat any human that way"?
The position as head of a house is not taken. The woman must request it.. Just like you request Christ to take over your life.
Christ wants what is best for the church. Men are to want what is best for their wives.
Women, who have a man like this, will realize that he will make mistakes but is always doing what he thinks is best.
A woman that demands what she is biblically supposed to have.. will only get it begrudgingly. It will then not be out of love, but out of duty.
Men who demand what is right from a biblical woman.. will also not get it out of love.. but begrudgingly and with resentment.
Marriage was supposed to be a pretty simple and natural relationship. In years gone by there were arranged marriages that lasted half of a century. Divorce was very rare. That was "arranged" marriages.
Now.. men and women meet, fall in love, choose each other.. and cannot last 7 years. Not even Christians.