Why Modern Divorce is so Hard

[McScribe]

Personally, I don't think it's because of how the courts work, how custody works or any of that from my perspective. I look at how many people I know who got dumped as though it was junior high school and see that as the crux of the issue. It's not even a threat "We need to change stuff or I'm gonna want a divorce" Its disagreeing and stuff and suddenly, "Well, I'm divorcing you" or "Well I'm in love with someone else."

Personally I think this is the hardest thing...and so you are often dealing with the realities while in a state of shock. Why can't people who want to give up let you know before they do it? Would that be so hard?

 

[dorig59]

I know what you're saying, it's gotten to be that marriage isn't even looked at as permanent anymore. So few marriages last, it is immensely sad. I guess that's what bothers me so much. Like my husband and I have a great marriage and I know he adores me. But because of what happened to me before, there's always this niggling worry or doubt in the back of my mind where I'm thinking, "What if he changes his mind? Sure, he loves me and things are great, but what if......"

 

[Autumnleaf]

Hang in there. Life will get better for you and worse for her as time goes on. Soon she'll be living in a trailer park with a guy who steals from her purse.

 

[McScribe]

Lol AL. I wouldnt want that specially because of the kids but it made me laugh.

And yeah, Dori, that's just it. Like not confronts me with big issues, but just suddenly...I'm done. Bye. See ya later.

 

[Autumnleaf]

Lol AL. I wouldnt want that specially because of the kids but it made me laugh.

And yeah, Dori, that's just it. Like not confronts me with big issues, but just suddenly...I'm done. Bye. See ya later.

Maybe the kids need it as much as you do.