When one lives in a suppressed situation many things are sin or lead to sin much easier. Personally its been detrimental in my personal life as well as beneficial.Yeah but so can going to the local swimming pool on a hot day - and we don't ban that prior to marriage.
I guess I want the why's.
God didn't make/create sin.Are you asking me Why God made that a sin?
I dont know.
I know that he has our best interest in heart.
He created humans, he knows how we think/feel/act..
He didn't make this a sin just because he felt like it,
there is a reason behind it, that reason, Is one that God knows.
Im not mentally fit to understand each and every one of Gods ways.
He is far too divine for that.
I am wondering why you are asking this question, however, being a Married catholic?
Maybe because of a daughter.Why would being a married Catholic prevent one from wanting to know?
Thank God I'm not a priest.It is my assumption that a question such as this would come from someone who
wasn't married and Was struggling and wanted to see if it was really a sin..
Or someone who wanted to debate about why they dont think its a sin.
this isn't the case, she's a married woman and a catholic.
It just surprised me because If you're catholic, you believe thats a sin, correct? I was just curious as to why she would ask why its a sin.
I didn't mean to insult anyone.
God didn't make/create sin.
For those who believe that pre marital sex is a sin - can you please explain why?
I don't need verses claiming it is sinful - I want to know why it is sin. For example - is it sin because it harms someone in a very specific way? How is it inethical? Specifics required.
This might seem sarcastic, but Im not trying to be,
But if God says something is a sin, then its a sin, plain and simple.
I feel maybe, God prohibits some things in order to protect us...
Thats all ive Got.
For those who believe that pre marital sex is a sin - can you please explain why?
I don't need verses claiming it is sinful - I want to know why it is sin. For example - is it sin because it harms someone in a very specific way? How is it inethical? Specifics required.
For those who believe that pre marital sex is a sin - can you please explain why?
I don't need verses claiming it is sinful - I want to know why it is sin. For example - is it sin because it harms someone in a very specific way? How is it inethical? Specifics required.
So isn't sex within marriage an act of lust? And sex outside of marriage is often also love, not just lust.Premarital sex is ALWAYS an act of lust. We may believe otherwise, because we LOVE our boyfriend or girlfriend; but if we truly loved them, we wouldn't do anything to put them at risk. Since Christians know that fornication is something that God hates; and sin puts us at risk of damnation, then obviously pleasure is more important than our friend's well being.
Many of these things also happen within marriage.Then you throw in the fruits of premarital sex, I.e. Abortion, STDs, children growing up without a full family, hedonism, homosexuality, men and women seen as sex objects instead of people, inappropriate contentography, rape, child abuse, and on ind on.
As stated before, going and speaking to a priest about this is good advice. But I will put my 2 cents in.
The simplest answer I can think of is God calls us to be more than animals. We are called to rule our passions and not allow them to rule us.
Premarital sex is ALWAYS an act of lust. We may believe otherwise, because we LOVE our boyfriend or girlfriend; but if we truly loved them, we wouldn't do anything to put them at risk. Since Christians know that fornication is something that God hates; and sin puts us at risk of damnation, then obviously pleasure is more important than our friend's well being.
So premarital sex is always an act of selfishness.
Then you throw in the fruits of premarital sex, I.e. Abortion, STDs, children growing up without a full family, hedonism, homosexuality, men and women seen as sex objects instead of people, inappropriate contentography, rape, child abuse, and on ind on.
When my wife and I make love, I know that at that time I do not put her soul at risk of damnation. If we weren't married then I not only put my own soul at risk, but hers as well. Thus I choose pleasure over mine and her well being. Thus my pleasures rule me to the point, that I no longer care for my or her well being. How then is this love?So isn't sex within marriage an act of lust? And sex outside of marriage is often also love, not just lust.
If a couple has sex one day before they marry, and then have sex on the day they marry, what happened in-between, other than a ceremony? Did they not love each other the day before they married? Do they not lust for each other on the wedding day? Or did their feelings do a full 180 degree change for some reason.
Many of these things also happen within marriage.
And I don't think that homosexuality has anything to do with sex before marriage, so I'm confused about that link you made.
When my wife and I make love, I know that at that time I do not put her soul at risk of damnation. If we weren't married then I not only put my own soul at risk, but hers as well. Thus I choose pleasure over mine and her well being. Thus my pleasures rule me to the point, that I no longer care for my or her well being. How then is this love?
God has provided one environment where sex may be participated in, where self destructive pleasure is not the ruling factor, and that is marriage. Outside that institution it is always self destructive.
When my wife and I make love, I know that at that time I do not put her soul at risk of damnation. If we weren't married then I not only put my own soul at risk, but hers as well. Thus I choose pleasure over mine and her well being. Thus my pleasures rule me to the point, that I no longer care for my or her well being. How then is this love?
God has provided one environment where sex may be participated in, where self destructive pleasure is not the ruling factor, and that is marriage. Outside that institution it is always self destructive.
But nobody is talking about one night stands. Some people are in a long lived relationship where they have sex, but chose not to marry. That's not a one night stand. Those people are standing by each other.More sex, and after the sex someone who cares about you and stands by you and helps you through difficult times, and shares life together. Much better than a one night stand.
It is circular reasoning. The only reason her soul is at risk of damnation prior to marriage is because you assume it is a sin prior to marriage. You can't prove it is a sin by assuming it is a sin.
I'm after some clues about why it is sin.
We also know that all sex outside of marriage is a selfish act of pleasure, that is always self destructive. No good comes from it, except a few minutes of pleasure.
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?