Why is my friend ignoring me???

[Laula777]

Hi
A couple of years ago I became good friends with a guy from my church. We loved hanging out & knew that we could both trust eachother. He always told me that if I needed to talk to him about anything, he was always there. He was close to me & my family. There was a time there where I started to like him & sometimes I thought that he liked me (eg:he once got mad at a mutual friend for trying to set me up with another guy, etc). But nothing was said or done.

And now everything has changed. My friend never talks to me or anything anymore. We would be in a group of friends & he would say nothing unless I say something to him first. And when I do...he acts kinda "weird" and stand-offish. There's been a couple of occasions there whenever I have logged onto msn, he would automatically sign out. Plus he acts normally with everyone else except me & my family. I tried sending him a text asking him how he was. He said he was fine. But the next day it was like I was invisible...again. I know that he is interested in some other chick that he has only known for 2 months as he has told me all about her. I just don't understand why he is acting like this. It's been going on for a month or so & I'm really missing our friendship. So, can someone please tell me what to do & possibly why he is actng so weird?
Thanks & God bless!

 

[GradualMetamorphosis]

Maybe he's one of those guys who can't be "just friends" with a girl.

I think you should definitely just confront him about it. If you're at all like I can be then I understand that confrontations aren't easy. But it's really the only way to find out for sure what's up with him! So just be like "hey..are you avoiding me?" or "how come we don't talk like we used to?"

And good luck!

 

[Laula777]

Hey,
Thanks, I thought that too...but he has heaps of female friends. So, that's not it. Yeah, I don't know about the confronting thing...I may give it a try, lol

 

[GradualMetamorphosis]

Maybe he feels weird because he used to like you and now he's attracted to this new girl? I dunno how recently it was he liked you, though.....

Anyway, I hope it goes well if you do confront him about it.

 

[Laula777]

Thanks! I don't know though if he has ever liked me or not. It was usually mixed messages. Like, there were several occasions where he'd call me sis. Then other times where it seemed like he liked me. So, I don't know...maybe he did or not...maybe he was trying to hide it, not sure, lol.

 

[Mela Monkey]

hmm.. could possibly be that this new girl doesnt want him to talk to you?

 

[Stjernkvist]

It looks like he likes you, and he is frighten for hurting you, or get hurt if you would talk about it or get in to a relationship,

The other option is that he has a girlfriend (or some other friend) who forbids him to be with you or so... jealous or some.

 

[Laula777]

Well, I confronted him. But all I said was "have I offended you?" & we couldn't talk much cos there were heaps of people around & wanting to chat to us & stuff. He said that he thought that I was offended by him for some reason. And that was pretty much it...I'm hoping to maybe talk about it further. Just doesn't make sense as he has been standoffish towards me & my family & ohers have noticed it (so I've learnt). Sooo...hopefully when I do get to talk with him without getting interrupted it will go well...