Why I hate Lust

[cedric1200]

Is that in part because you are a fallen sinner?

My beliefs are both secular and religious.

For the most part, I just want to feel like I don't need anyone. And I don't need sex. It would give me a sense of pride to not do what everyone else is doing. I don't know why. But it does. I would just feel more independent. I wouldn't have to worry about someone cheating on me. I wouldn't have to worry about getting hurt. I am technically a virgin now. But I get desires to have someone, and I don't like those desires.

And the other part of me believes that lustful people are destined for destruction. But that's my religious view.

 

[Paradoxum]

I think the reasons you gave are quite fair, but I don't think lust itself is a problem. I'd rather try to have a relationship with lust that keeps the positives, and reduces the negatives.

Considering that you can't get rid of lust, perhaps aiming for a moderated sexual impulse is better?

I totally get that lust can make being single worse, but perhaps those feelings can be controlled.

I can't find any other reasons why. But lust is a cancer. I just have to find ways to occupy my mind.

 

[Neogaia777]

My beliefs are both secular and religious.

For the most part, I just want to feel like I don't need anyone. And I don't need sex. It would give me a sense of pride to not do what everyone else is doing. I don't know why. But it does. I would just feel more independent. I wouldn't have to worry about someone cheating on me. I wouldn't have to worry about getting hurt. I am technically a virgin now. But I get desires to have someone, and I don't like those desires.

And the other part of me believes that lustful people are destined for destruction. But that's my religious view.

I'm going to give you the same advice I just gave another who said "they" "were working" to give up sin, and that is:

You are saved in the moment you turn to him... Don't you find that as you go to HIM more and more, especially in the immediate moments of being tempted, that HE does the work by giving you "relief", and don't you find that the more and more you go/turn to him that the desire for that sin fades, or lessens, or even goes away completely?

My advice... Do not try to combat sin through your own efforts (work) but turn to him and allow HIM to do the work, "yield" to HIS spirit, and let calm and peace set in (when you turn to him)... I think that you'll find that the more you turn to him and the more you go/turn to him that the desire for that sin fades, or lessens, or even goes away completely?

Hope that helps,

God Bless!

 

[cedric1200]

I think the reasons you gave are quite fair, but I don't think lust itself is a problem. I'd rather try to have a relationship with lust that keeps the positives, and reduces the negatives.

Considering that you can't get rid of lust, perhaps aiming for a moderated sexual impulse is better?

I totally get that lust can make being single worse, but perhaps those feelings can be controlled.

Thanks.

And you are probably right.

 

[cedric1200]

I'm going to give you the same advice I just gave another who said "they" "were working" to give up sin, and that is:

You are saved in the moment you turn to him... Don't you find that as you go to HIM more and more, especially in the immediate moments of being tempted, that HE does the work by giving you "relief", and don't you find that the more and more you go/turn to him that the desire for that sin fades, or lessens, or even goes away completely?

My advice... Do not try to combat sin through your own efforts (work) but turn to him and allow HIM to do the work, "yield" to HIS spirit, and let calm and peace set in (when you turn to him)... I think that you'll find that the more you turn to him and the more you go/turn to him that the desire for that sin fades, or lessens, or even goes away completely?

Hope that helps,

God Bless!

Thank you for the advice. I appreciate. I know I need to work at coming to him more & more.

 

[PsychoSarah]

I like your uername by the way.

But you are not wrong, Sarah. I spend so much time just hating myself.

Which you could spend becoming a person you won't hate. True, desire is a part of human nature that can never be crushed completely (and trying to often leads to bad mental issues), but you can put that energy into other things that won't upset you so much. I write depressing, cynical poetry to help with chronic depression. Sometimes, you have to work with your problems to make them not so much a problem.

 

[cedric1200]

Which you could spend becoming a person you won't hate. True, desire is a part of human nature that can never be crushed completely (and trying to often leads to bad mental issues), but you can put that energy into other things that won't upset you so much. I write depressing, cynical poetry to help with chronic depression. Sometimes, you have to work with your problems to make them not so much a problem.

Not bad advice. I can do that.

Thank you

 

[Autumnleaf]

I'm comfortable with my sexuality. I like the fact that sex is a part of my life. I don't actually have sex (see: my user title), but sexual things are totally awesome and healthy. Why try to hide it? What harm does it actually do to admit that, as human beings, we are sexual?

I'm not saying to go have an orgy, but some of this "be super stingy about sex" stuff is really unhealthy and not even biblical. I mean, you're feeling guilty about something that is a natural urge that you can't even stop. That doesn't seem weird to you? Oppressive?

There is a time and place for everything. When people don't do things in their proper time and place problems arise.

 

[Purge187]

I guess I find it the opposite. I find sexual desires more of a curse then a gift.

I was in this same boat for years. When you view your God-given sexuality as a constant source of sin, you open the door to a tremendous spiritual siege. The sooner you get out, the better.

Check your PM's in a few minutes.

 

[BL2KTN]

Follow Jesus' advice and start hacking off body parts. Why is this so hard? It's right there in the bible.

 

[GrimKingGrim]

Stop convincing yourself that a natural biological urge is a sin. Please. It's ridiculous.

 

[cedric1200]

Stop convincing yourself that a natural biological urge is a sin. Please. It's ridiculous.

Yes, I know.

I wrote this a while ago.

 

[2ndCovanent]

You struggle with lust because you haven't decided to share your life with anyone yet.

 

[FireDragon76]

Or, might it be loneliness that is hidden beneath your lust, and lust occupies your mind to avoid loneliness?

Many men would never admit they are lonely.

You make a good point as well, often the issue is being self-centered, which is not a disposition a Christian should aspire to have, even though it is very common.

I would tend to say the focus on lust as the sin is itself a self-centered activity. Lust is so common that it's hardly remarkable, and unless acted upon unlawfully (contrary to divine law), it is hardly sinful, just a temptation to sin. And as far as sins go, I believe it must be objectively judged the least, because it is so much a part of our animal nature. It's just sometimes an animal nature not tamed by reason (hence the common adultery and all the other sexual sins one can commit).

I agree, love is the answer. Getting involved in life in a way that values other people in their own right is a good way to deal with loneliness. If the church has a charity like a soup kitchen or something like that, get involved.

Follow Jesus' advice and start hacking off body parts. Why is this so hard? It's right there in the bible.

Not helpful. And not funny.

 

[Rationalt]

Blame the hormones.The devil is in the hormones and probably in redmeat .

 

[Rationalt]

The nurse of infedelity is sensuality.

And the food, the imagery ,the freedom...the list goes on.

 

[terryjohn]

There is a love we kill for. There is a love we steal for. There is a love we cheat for, but we find such a love does not love us. Imagine for a moment what it would to love the object of your lust and a greater desire will crush the lesser desire. Christ says, if you love me, you will keep His commandments. It is not a struggle to love, for we all willingly want to be in love.God should be giving us the desires of our hearts.

 

[2ndCovanent]

"There is a love we kill for. There is a love we steal for. There is a love we cheat for, but we find such a love does not love us. Imagine for a moment what it would to love the object of your lust and a greater desire will crush the lesser desire. Christ says, if you love me, you will keep His commandments. It is not a struggle to love, for we all willingly want to be in love.God should be giving us the desires of our hearts."

 

[sunshine456]

GOOD valid points and also lust is a pattern by which we undermine GOD's grace of/in wisdom and truth.

Lust is corruptive, because it is defined as a part of the flesh nature. It is one of desires and is tied with gluttony, envy, idolatry, pride and sometimes malice; like when a person doesn't achieve or receive that which they desire then they act in a petty manner and sometimes act malicious towards others.

Breaking the patterns call for reprogramming and time in building resistance; then along with it comes a gradual change and adoption to the spirit rather than the flesh nature. The world is full of that which lust feeds off with demonically influenced appetites and objects that create idolization of things rather than adoration and praise for GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS.

Cast it out I say and ignore it's call. We are to purify ourselves from the stains of uncleanliness. We are to wash ourselves of impurities and stand stead fast in faith and righteousness.

"The devil is roaring around us like lion; seeking whom it can devour."

"Resist the devil and he will flee from you."

We must be vigilant to the schemes of the enemy and it's unholy tactics. The way, the truth and the life is the proper method to obtain a defense against the corruption, and JESUS the son of GOD is that truth.

Praise be to GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS CHRIST forever>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

 

[GrimKingGrim]

Not helpful. And not funny.

I found it tongue in cheek.