Why God does not bless

[bluegreysky]

Why is it that God chooses some to bless and others not to? Is there any rhyme or reason to it or is it just luck of the draw?

God blesses everyone, but its on another frequency that doesn't always match our logic. Sometimes, he will give you what you ask for, when you ask for it- especially if you need it- like a job or money to pay the bills or medical help or even friends...

Sometimes he gives what he knows you need but that you don't know you need (and you weren't asking for anything)- like certain people in your life that you didn't expect.

Sometimes he gives what's called a "blessing in disguise" because really it looks more like a curse but it's actually teaching you something- like that one person who you love but who tries your patience alot, or when you go through something that seems painful but then you can relate to other people.

Sometimes he will give you what you asked for to the letter, but he has its due date set waaaay out into the future because you aren't ready for it yet. This is oft what seems to be happening to those of us who are single and want a spouse... maybe we'd enjoy having one but there's plenty of personal matters that have to be resolved before a marriage is really fair to that other person or even to ourselves.

And last but not least, sometimes you ask for one thing and you get something else that's just as good but not what you expected because he knew you wouldn't be happy or couldn't handle what you thought you wanted (jobs are once again a good example)

 

[hopeless99]

I mean, prioritize. God is available to you now and forever. He should be the most important part of your life, not your spouse, or potential spouse. Whatever problems you have, a spouse is not going to solve them. God will. And if you say, "I will worship you, God, after you give me a spouse," well, that won't work. We cannot put God to the test.

Yeah except I never said any of that, so I don't know what you're talking about.

 

[Willie T]

I suppose if you take everything you have for granted, it might seem like God hasn't blessed you...

Are you alive? Are you safe? Do you have food, clothing, shelter? Do you have access to the Bible? Do you live in a country where you can worship God freely? Do you have at least one friend or family member to spend time with? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you are blessed.

You go, Brother!

 

[Willie T]

Most of them I don't have actually.

You didn't really explain anything though. Why does God decide to actually bless some people with things and leave others with almost nothing?

Oh, Bulloney! Go look up the meaning of this "most" that you claim you don't have.

 

[hopeless99]

Oh, Bulloney! Go look up the meaning of this "most" that you claim you don't have.

You're ignorant, brother. I know what I have and what I don't. I have a country where I can worship God and a Bible, that's it. I have to struggle to get by each day.

 

[motherprayer]

You're ignorant, brother. I know what I have and what I don't. I have a country where I can worship God and a Bible, that's it. I have to struggle to get by each day.

I struggle as well. But I refuse to allow the enemy to make my struggle a heart problem. You do have a choice, my friend, to focus on the things I don't have, or to focus on the things I do have.

 

[hopeless99]

I struggle as well. But I refuse to allow the enemy to make my struggle a heart problem. You do have a choice, my friend, to focus on the things I don't have, or to focus on the things I do have.

Easier said than done.

 

[Strider1002]

Try to think about it like a parent, as God is our Father. If your son takes what he has for granted and always demands more, what motivation do you have to give him more? He has already given each of us more than we deserve, considering that we rebelled against Him.

 

[hopeless99]

Try to think about it like a parent, as God is our Father. If your son takes what he has for granted and always demands more, what motivation do you have to give him more? He has already given each of us more than we deserve, considering that we rebelled against Him.

I do think of Him as such. Which is why I wonder why He does not bless?

 

[Ronel1]

Sometimes we do not realize how blessed we are until we have reached the bottom. Maybe God wants you to be thankful for what you have before he blesses you with more. I have more bills at the end of the month than I do money but I have a wife that Loves me three daughters that love God and that make great grades in college. I have an extensive close family of sisters and aunts and uncles and cousins. I have wonderful in-laws who while not being wealthy are good inspiration. I have a job and my wife is employed. I have fairly good health and am thankful that the few health issues I have are manageable. In other words I know even though to some my curses seem to be many, I am still blessed and try to focus on them more than those things that seem not to be a blessing. Some time tears are healing and sometimes a storm delivers much needed rain to make the flowers grow.

 

[hopeless99]

Sometimes we do not realize how blessed we are until we have reached the bottom. Maybe God wants you to be thankful for what you have before he blesses you with more. I have more bills at the end of the month than I do money but I have a wife that Loves me three daughters that love God and that make great grades in college. I have an extensive close family of sisters and aunts and uncles and cousins. I have wonderful in-laws who while not being wealthy are good inspiration. I have a job and my wife is employed. I have fairly good health and am thankful that the few health issues I have are manageable. In other words I know even though to some my curses seem to be many, I am still blessed and try to focus on them more than those things that seem not to be a blessing. Some time tears are healing and sometimes a storm delivers much needed rain to make the flowers grow.

You sound blessed. I don't have any of that.

 

[motherprayer]

Easier said than done.

That much I know, it hurts me that I have to struggle, and I get angry at God myself. Sometimes my prayers consist of me railing at Him for the mess that is my life! It is okay to give your hurt to Him.

 

[motherprayer]

I do think of Him as such. Which is why I wonder why He does not bless?

What is your definition of blessings?

 

[hopeless99]

That much I know, it hurts me that I have to struggle, and I get angry at God myself. Sometimes my prayers consist of me railing at Him for the mess that is my life! It is okay to give your hurt to Him.

Actually, I'm told by members here I'm not supposed to. Apparently it's also wrong to ask for things, since it makes God a "divine pez dispenser" according to some.

So there's no point asking for anything. I'll just post topics about it instead.

 

[Strider1002]

We keep addressing your questions and you keep repeating your mantra: "God does not bless." You haven't shown that you're even considering our answers.

 

[hopeless99]

We keep addressing your questions and you keep repeating your mantra: "God does not bless." You haven't shown that you're even considering our answers.

Because He hasn't, in my life. Read context of the op. I'm talking about myself and we all know what I am referring to. The fact that people are bringing up money and things shows they're not paying attention to what I'm writing. I never mentioned money once.

 

[Willie T]

Because He hasn't, in my life. Read context of the op. I'm talking about myself and we all know what I am referring to. The fact that people are bringing up money and things shows they're not paying attention to what I'm writing. I never mentioned money once.

Are you writing this from a library, or some place like that?

 

[hopeless99]

What is your definition of blessings?

In this case, probably a good relationship I guess. It can mean a lot of things, but that what I mean here.

 

[Ronel1]

In this case, probably a good relationship I guess. It can mean a lot of things, but that what I mean here.

In order to have a friend you need to be a friend.
It is human nature to want those things that are hard to obtain and to despise those things that are easy to get.

You have to ask yourself are you looking for those things or those people that are good for you or do you only want those things or people in your life that are not good for you.

I had a friend back in the 1980's that thought Tom Selleck was the best looking man in the world and would not have a man who was not as good looking as Tom Selleck. The problem was that she was not a great beauty, was not outgoing and would not get involved in her community or even in her Church. Her hobby was watching movies at home on her VCR or DVD player and playing with her dog in her back yard.

Any Attempt to get her out of the house was met with resistance. I tried to date her but was refused because I was slightly overweight and not as good looking as Tom Selleck. I met and married a wonderful lady and have three beautiful daughters and am happy. I recently friend-ed her on facebook and from what I can see she is still watching movies at home, still single and although she has a new dog she is posting wonderful pictures of her dog in her back yard. I assume she is still waiting for Tom Selleck to come to her door and sweep her off her feet.

Sometimes we are focused so much on what is missing from our life that we can not see what we have. And sometimes unanswered prayers are a blessing in disguise.

What I want to know is what are you doing to make yourself interesting enough to attract a relationship. Are you someone involved in your community? Do you have hobbies or interests that put you out in the world of possible companions? Why would someone want to become your companion? Are you kind? Are you interesting? Are you helpful, do you share the blessings of a life for Christ. Often times a person is most desirable as a mate or companion when he is out doing the work of Christ. How are you spreading the Gospel? How are you working on Christ behalf.

God wants us to be active in our pursuit of him. He has a beauty to unveil he has a mystery that you need to seek, capture his heart and he will know you are ready to captivate another.


Or you could just post reply's to helpful Christians bemoaning your lack of blessings on a Christian Forum. Your Choice.

Ronel

 

[briareos]

Hopeless,

You asked a question, a rather vague and poetic one and then you immediately began scrutinizing and debating with the responses. To those who smile upon you you smile back and lavish them with impossible kindness, to those are less loving you seem to scream at and you bend your mental powers to try to discredit and rebut... but in the end, you've done the telling and everyone else is doing the listening.

So please, really... if you aren't actually wanting to learn something from others then don't act like you are.

I for one rarely actually intend to learn anything from people here because I generally think I know about most things I talk about and don't want or need advice but I'm honest about it and I don't act like a needy bleeding heart when I'm not and what I wont do is bait sincere people into arguments just because I'm a starry eyed emo kid who wants to discuss something or argue something and if do ask for advice it it's because I SINCERELY WANT IT and when it is given I LISTEN and I appreciate those responses, no matter how far off they are. They responded to my request... it is rude for me to retaliate unless they actually tried to offend me.

It's perfectly fine if you intend to establish that God has wrongfully not blessed you and if that's what you want to talk about... thats fine... just say that.

Don't play games with people acting like you want something from them and then immediately begin debating and arguing. Just let people know what you are doing and some people would gladly talk about it with you... but you should be upfront and honest. I think you like to hear yourself talk, you seem like the type who probably reads and rereads your own posts basking in the significance... if so... that's fine, I do to. Just don't be frontin... and don't waste peoples time.

When someone says "Hopeless, I understand, that really means something and I really appreciate what your saying and doing" you glow like a Christmas Tree. If someone says "well maybe you misunderstand something" then you try to cut them and their response down like "what does that even mean?" (in essence a pejorative statement) You didn't even understand her but you responded pejoratively anyway.

Proving... that you want two things from this... affirmation of your own feelings and that you enjoy contention enough to start it without cause.

Just calm down, be honest... there's a time and place for this, just be honest about what you want.