Why God and no one cares

[sea5763]

What does it mean when every single time you pray, beg, plead, etc., and you never get anything back? I really feel like God has forsaken me. Everyone I know is turning against me, telling me it's my fault. I don't know what to do anymore. I simply feel like I've lost the will live anymore.

Who is blaming you and for what? I really think you need to look for a church to join. You obviously need some face to face interactions with people. Even if you don't see any single women around your age there, you need people in your life. I go to a church sometimes with my parents where almost everyone there is in their 60's and older, basically almost everyone there has grey hair, but its nice having a community to be a part of. I think you are so lonely that you could use any kind of interactions with people in your life. Even if the people seem fake to you or have shortcomings, I think that unless the people at church start harassing you or something you should consider joining one.

 

[sea5763]

You both are still proving my point. Nothing that we do here really matters, to the point of the individual, but rather all related to His plan and nothing else. That's what I struggle with. Why are some people blessed with everything they could ever ask for, and I don't mean material or wealth, and others are required to suffer alone. I'm not saying it has to be equitable, I'd just like to understand the reasons why. I'd never commit suicide, I just wouldn't, but right now I feel like if a bus was coming right at me, I'd have to think long and hard whether or not to get out of the way.

I know its been a long time since you posted this but are you ok? You sound so hurt and sad. I hope you are feeling better now, but it sounds like you've been suffering with loneliness for a long time.

 

[NW82]

I know its been a long time since you posted this but are you ok? You sound so hurt and sad. I hope you are feeling better now, but it sounds like you've been suffering with loneliness for a long time.

About the same

 

[sea5763]

About the same

I'm sorry to hear that. I was hoping maybe you would have had more luck with friendships and relationships, or that maybe your family would reach out to you. I think you are very strong on the inside to be able to hold down a hard job while struggling with so much loneliness. I know that God loves you, but unfortunately talking to Him face to face and in person is difficult outside of dreams like King Solomon had or the prophets, and even then it is not an everyday occurrence. I know that Christians are supposed to fellowship with each other, but making connections can be difficult. I don't think I could do it. I think I would just break if I was that lonely.

 

[NW82]

I'm sorry to hear that. I was hoping maybe you would have had more luck with friendships and relationships, or that maybe your family would reach out to you. I think you are very strong on the inside to be able to hold down a hard job while struggling with so much loneliness. I know that God loves you, but unfortunately talking to Him face to face and in person is difficult outside of dreams like King Solomon had or the prophets, and even then it is not an everyday occurrence. I know that Christians are supposed to fellowship with each other, but making connections can be difficult. I don't think I could do it. I think I would just break if I was that lonely.

When you're forced into the position by others that you've reached out to, you learn to accept and deal with it as best you can. I've started to accept I'll be alone the rest if my life. I'm not happy about it, and it's been the single most fear of my adult life, but God doesn't care about that. Not sure what to do about it anymore. It's why I've pretty much given up.

 

[sea5763]

When you're forced into the position by others that you've reached out to, you learn to accept and deal with it as best you can. I've started to accept I'll be alone the rest if my life. I'm not happy about it, and it's been the single most fear of my adult life, but God doesn't care about that. Not sure what to do about it anymore. It's why I've pretty much given up.

I'm sure you've tried everything, but I'm just curious if you could give going to church and online dating a try? I've only hung out with one guy once from online dating, but my sister found her fiance through online dating. They both seem really good for each other. I know that churches typically only meet like twice a week at most, but it's better than complete isolation.

 

[the iconoclast]

I've come to the conclusion that no one including God really cares about the individual.

Hey hey friend.

I care and so does God.

Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it. And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home.

Love you.

 

[NW82]

I'm sure you've tried everything, but I'm just curious if you could give going to church and online dating a try? I've only hung out with one guy once from online dating, but my sister found her fiance through online dating. They both seem really good for each other. I know that churches typically only meet like twice a week at most, but it's better than complete isolation.

Done both, nothing changed.

Hey hey friend.

I care and so does God.

Suppose one of you has a hundred sheep and loses one of them. Doesn’t he leave the ninety-nine in the open country and go after the lost sheep until he finds it. And when he finds it, he joyfully puts it on his shoulders and goes home.

Love you.

I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm sorry... you don't, not really. No one really cares, because if I got hit by a bus tomorrow...who would it actually affect? You're not going to care. You're not going to even know....hence it doesn't matter. Platitudes sound nice but they have no substance. I've got no one person I can have a real connection with. Even my own twin brother....doesn't contact me unless he needs something. My parents focus on my nephew, and by extension my brother....but I'm the failure because my ex wife cheated and left. Not sure why I get treated like I'm the horrible one. I never wanted money, power, prestige. I've only wanted one thing...for one person to actually truly care...and they don't.

So....I have to accept I'll be alone for the rest of my life. Not happy about it, but I'm tired. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of being sad. I'm tired of being tired. But somehow people tell me it's my fault, and I just don't get it. How is it my fault?

 

[sea5763]

Done both, nothing changed.



I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm sorry... you don't, not really. No one really cares, because if I got hit by a bus tomorrow...who would it actually affect? You're not going to care. You're not going to even know....hence it doesn't matter. Platitudes sound nice but they have no substance. I've got no one person I can have a real connection with. Even my own twin brother....doesn't contact me unless he needs something. My parents focus on my nephew, and by extension my brother....but I'm the failure because my ex wife cheated and left. Not sure why I get treated like I'm the horrible one. I never wanted money, power, prestige. I've only wanted one thing...for one person to actually truly care...and they don't.

So....I have to accept I'll be alone for the rest of my life. Not happy about it, but I'm tired. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of being sad. I'm tired of being tired. But somehow people tell me it's my fault, and I just don't get it. How is it my fault?

It’s not your fault that you are alone. Bad things happen and the world can be a cold and cruel place. A lot of people are alone. In our society it seems easy to get in a downward spiral. If you are depressed people don’t want to talk to you and if people don’t talk to you you get more depressed. There is a place on reddit called suicidewatch where people talk about their lives and what drives them to want to commit suicide, and a lot of those people feel completely alone and there are so many people like that that it is overwhelming. I don’t think it’s your fault these things happen.

 

[the iconoclast]

I appreciate the sentiment, but I'm sorry... you don't, not really. No one really cares, because if I got hit by a bus tomorrow...who would it actually affect? You're not going to care. You're not going to even know....hence it doesn't matter.

Hello brother.

Even though we are not familiar with each other, you and i are family. You are my brother in Christ.

It is true, I may never know if you live or die but that does not stop me from having concern for you.

Platitudes sound nice but they have no substance. I've got no one person I can have a real connection with. Even my own twin brother....doesn't contact me unless he needs something.

I can assure you brother it was not just a remark or statement, especially one with a moral content, that has been used too often to be interesting or thoughtful.

I seek to establish communication with someone, with the aim of offering friendship.

I may be delayed from msging, however you can talk to me anytime.

Relationships with family can be difficult. An Interesting person is interested. Have you tried to meet your brother on his ground? Sometimes we have to make the effort ie regular contact.

If you want to get someones attention i can assure you, making the effort can yield good results?

My parents focus on my nephew, and by extension my brother....but I'm the failure because my ex wife cheated and left.

You are not a failure. You are someone wanted and needed. You are one of us.

Fractured relationships can be fixed however it does take time and effort. It may not be your fault, sometimes it is better to grit your teeth - make the effort, you water the seeds, you take the burden of creating the relationship.

So....I have to accept I'll be alone for the rest of my life. Not happy about it, but I'm tired. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of being sad. I'm tired of being tired. But somehow people tell me it's my fault, and I just don't get it. How is it my fault?

Brother you are never alone. You have Jesus anytime you want. This will make you stronger than you could ever imagine.

Do you believe you have lost faith and hope?