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Why don't we listen?
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Sorry, but I feel I do listen well to others unless they are abusive toward me and then I get away from them. I was taught Active Listening. You listen intently to the person and look in their eyes and see what they mean by how they act and seem to feel. It takes practice but is worth it because then you have more meaningful relationships. You can do a search on it for more information. Active Listening is a learned skill. I'm sorry you have troubles with your kids listening.Thanks for the idea dayhiker.
WHY don't we listen? Is it because we don't want to? Is it because we don't value what others have to say? Is it just because we talk to much?
It's funny to me, kind of, because one of the things I have always thought about others is that "they just don't "get" me". I feel like sometimes I talk and yeah people hear me talk and appear to be listening but really they don't hear much of what I have to say. And sometimes I do the same to others. I don't listen because either I've heard it before (so I think) from them, or the topic is really boring or so about them, so I think we are ALL guilty to some degree. My kids don't listen to me, otherwise they would put their dishes away ALL the time. Or they listen and don't really CARE what I want, which I guess I could be guilty of as well. What about you? WHY don't YOU listen?
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Well it's more like they DO listen, and they DO hear me, they just don't DO what they heard me say. I think we could all use a course (well maybe not you, cuz you already learned it, but most people) in Active Listening.
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How could you use Active Listening on the phone or could you? I have a step daughter that rambles on and on and she mostly just talks about herself and her problems. She lives out of state so that's why we talk on the phone.
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