Why does God keep us in the same situation?

[aflower4God]

I don't understand why God keeps us in the same stale situation.
For me it is living in this home with my toxic only friend/roommate.
She is toxic cause everything is my fault, she blames me for everything.
It bothers me so badly some days I have to fight the urge to do self harm.
I have been praying so hard to God for a year now to get me out of this situation.
I am trying hard on my end considering that I have depression, anxiety and now I am really addicted to sleep. It makes me feel so much better to sleep.
I am trying so hard to keep my feelings to myself and help others.
I am so let down by God, I want peace in my life AWAY from my only friend.
This has nothing to do with that actor she addores this time. This has to do with how I am tired of her blaming me and she NEVER see's anything that she does wrong.
I have done heavy research on Toxic Friendships and she sure fits the description.
I am SO hurt that God has not come through for me.
I tried emailing a church for more information on how I can become a nun cause the thing I love to talk about the most is Jesus. But that church has not gotten back with me.
Is it possible that this only friend of mine has this "curse" over me (I don't know the right words to call it) like I am never to leave here and I am meant to be her puppet.
WHY IS GOD DOING THIS TO ME??????????/
WHAT DID I DO WRONG TO DESERVE TO BE ABUSED???
I am real sorry for being negative REALLY I TRULY AM, I am trying so hard. Today I just want to give up.
Oh one last thing my latest "hope" is this news about the birds sadly dying and fish sadly dying is a sign that the end is very near. I have been so happy to think that this could be a HUGE sign that God will be taking me home very soon before my 38th b-day. Gosh the thought of that just brings SMILES to me. I can be away from my toxic only friend FOREVER, I can finally ask Jesus WHY did he make me spend all those years wasted with that Toxic friend of mine.
My life is a waste!

 

[plumsink]

Hi Petal:

God doesn't always give us what we want, but more like what we need. Sometimes what we want would destroy us, and what we don't want will save us. There is a reason why.

Jesus also had a bad friend, and even though he was a very bad friend, Jesus didn't betray him, reject him or abandon him. He betrayed Jesus, but Jesus didn't betray him.

His name is Judas, the only person in the New Testament that Jesus called "friend".

Peace Petal

 

[peacechild4]

I will pray for you.. and I have been in the same situation for a very very very long time.. I had to lose just about everything before I looked up.. my marriage.. home.. and nearly my self.. I believe that our only source of help comes from the LORD.. and most times we will not trust HIM completely till everything else fails.. hence why it seems never ending and why things do not change.. HE wants us to look only at HIM..

GOD wants to be our only hope.. And I believe that when we do let go of trying to work it out.. and there really is no other way.. GOD can step in and show HIMSELF strong for us..

Things will change.. but first we have to let go and let GOD.. look at GOD alone not circumstances.. HE will do what we cannot do.. but we need to keep trusting HIM till things change or get easier.. etc..

 

[loved33]

you seem in need of guidance or teaching on what you have , as you, regardless of anyone else.

you appear to not perceive that you have any personal power ...that you are, in your own words ,' a puppet whose strings are pulled'.....by another.

you believe this flower, or you wouldn't say it.


but it isn't the truth.


you have a will of your own and power to personally do whatever it takes to change your situation.

you may not be used to having that power, you may never have been taught you have that power...but you do.

God gave you a will and the power to choose.


i know you have tried very hard.


maybe it is going to take a lot more trying ..and learning about how to be you , and choose well for you and ultimately learn to stand on your own two feet?


you say God has let you down 'cos the people from the church haven't called you back about you request for info about becoming a nun.

maybe this is God's answer tho, to that line of inquiry.


maybe that door isn't opening , cos it may not be for you?

maybe this is God speaking loud and clear....but you are not spotting it ?

it happens to us all.


sometimes when we are in a situation...its harder to see.....

ever hear the expression?

'can't see the woods, for all the trees'



petal, read the book i recommended ,if you can't get to a meeting, it could help you so much.

love you

xxx

 

[power2theweak]

Flower,

(((hugs))) I am getting ready for work now. I will send you an email later. (((hugs))) Love you!

I don't understand why God keeps us in the same stale situation.
For me it is living in this home with my toxic only friend/roommate.
She is toxic cause everything is my fault, she blames me for everything.
It bothers me so badly some days I have to fight the urge to do self harm.
I have been praying so hard to God for a year now to get me out of this situation.
I am trying hard on my end considering that I have depression, anxiety and now I am really addicted to sleep. It makes me feel so much better to sleep.
I am trying so hard to keep my feelings to myself and help others.
I am so let down by God, I want peace in my life AWAY from my only friend.
This has nothing to do with that actor she addores this time. This has to do with how I am tired of her blaming me and she NEVER see's anything that she does wrong.
I have done heavy research on Toxic Friendships and she sure fits the description.
I am SO hurt that God has not come through for me.
I tried emailing a church for more information on how I can become a nun cause the thing I love to talk about the most is Jesus. But that church has not gotten back with me.
Is it possible that this only friend of mine has this "curse" over me (I don't know the right words to call it) like I am never to leave here and I am meant to be her puppet.
WHY IS GOD DOING THIS TO ME??????????/
WHAT DID I DO WRONG TO DESERVE TO BE ABUSED???
I am real sorry for being negative REALLY I TRULY AM, I am trying so hard. Today I just want to give up.
Oh one last thing my latest "hope" is this news about the birds sadly dying and fish sadly dying is a sign that the end is very near. I have been so happy to think that this could be a HUGE sign that God will be taking me home very soon before my 38th b-day. Gosh the thought of that just brings SMILES to me. I can be away from my toxic only friend FOREVER, I can finally ask Jesus WHY did he make me spend all those years wasted with that Toxic friend of mine.
My life is a waste!

 

[power2theweak]

God doesn't always give us what we want, but more like what we need. Sometimes what we want would destroy us, and what we don't want will save us. There is a reason why.

 

[cflittlestar]

What did she blame you at?

 

[aflower4God]

Thank you everyone for your wonderful and insightful advice. I am very appreciative of your advice.
Just want to let you all know that I did NOT self harm myself, I did something as a deversion instead (there is a list of this on the SI section of this board) I youtubed one of my favorite shows "Road to Avonlea". It got my mind off of any thoughts of wanting to harm myself.
AGAIN thank you all. God bless you all and LOTS OF LOVE to you all ((((((((((BIG HUGS)))))))))))))

 

[Criada]

I'm glad you distracted yourself, sweetie.
Sometimes it feels as though God isn't coming through for us - but that's just our percveption. He knows so much better than we do what is for our best, and He is working everything for your best, Flower, even when you can't see what he's doing.
Try to just wait - I know it's hard, but He does have a plan
Praying that you'll see it soon!

 

[miss-a]

Glad you used godly wisdom to get through it!

For you, Flowergirl, but a reminder we all need:

God Is Present in Dark Times
by
Charles Stanley

In this day of "instant" news, we regularly see images of calamity in our world. And on a personal level, we experience seasons of hardship as well. The same is true of friends and family who encounter difficulties with children, job layoffs, and marriage breakups.
As Christians, we have a heavenly Father who has promised to be with us in our troubles. We can rely on Him—He knows what will happen before we do; nothing is hidden from His sight (Heb. 4:13). He sees in the darkness of troubled times as clearly as He does in the daylight (Ps. 139:11-12). Through His Spirit, He offers us the comfort, strength, and wisdom to persevere. The story of Joseph illustrates this truth. After being rejected by his brothers at a young age and sold into slavery, he was falsely accused by his master's wife and imprisoned. But in the midst of those terrible times, the young Hebrew man experienced God's presence and favor.
I doubt Joseph comprehended the Lord's intentions during his slavery and imprisonment. But later on, as second-in-command to Pharaoh, he understood God's purpose in allowing those difficult years. In the end, Joseph testified to what he knew to be true. His brothers had meant to harm him, but God used all the hardship to accomplish His good plan (Gen. 45:4-8; 50:20).
When troubles hit, remember what is true and take heart. The indwelling Holy Spirit has the resources to provide what we need, equip us for the journey, and sustain us with His presence throughout the dark days. Nothing can stop the purposes of our Lord from being carried out (Isa. 14:27).

 

[hope_is_last_to_die]

(((((Flower))))) so glad you didnt self harm, well done precious sister

please stay close to Jesus sweet sister

 

[Winter]

Dear Flower,

Sometimes the Lord steps back. Just like a parent does. Maybe there is a purpose - a reason. Maybe there is a lesson to be learned in all of this. Maybe God is waiting for that lesson to be learned. Ask yourself what you've learned from all of this and how has this changed you?

In the meanwhile, hang in there. You are doing the best you can. Trust God even when He steps back. There is a purpose for everything in life. Even when there is pain.

Praying for you ....

 

[cflittlestar]

Yes, do something to distract yourself. Such as go volunteer to get some work experience and get a job.

 

[nessa9522]

God is with you always just keep praying and believing. He wants to set you free you just have to trust him and surrender all to him. Do you go to church??