Why do we do what we do?

[BeautifulDestiny09]

I know. It is kinda crazy sometimes. I have been engaged for almost a year and it is another 9 months until the wedding. We have known each other (dating) for 3 years and have been friends since I was in sixth grade. People at church are all up in arms over the fact that "we are too young." It gets me really upset that they would think that. They also for WHATEVER reason, think that we are getting married because we haven't been pure. It's not true, but I know where you are coming from. I can't elope like I want too, because then everyone will think that I am pregnant, when really and truly I just think that weddings are WAY overrated and fussy. But, whatever.

Point is, I understand where you are coming from and I can sympathize.

God Bless,
Renae

I know where youre coming from too...I just got engaged and I'm facing a long engagement, which I'm hating the idea of because it's not exactly easy to stay pure! But our parents think we should wait until we get our degrees in two years (ugh!) and fiance' thinks so too, so he can have 2 years to have all his stuff lined up...not too happy about that...if it was up to me, we'd be married by next year! But its not...so eh, whatever!
I don't understand why we as Christians do what we do either...like my friends who got married a year after we graduated from HS...by then, their daughter (yes, daughter before marriage) was one...so it was ok...but if they wouldn't have had children in the equation, their parents prob would have encouraged them to finish school as well before marrying...why? I think thats a silly reason to wait to marry...

 

[Briseis]

Its not that silly. Parents are just looking out for us. The rest of the church is being nosey, but if its just the parents I understand. Finishing school usually means having a good job and money. If you have that before you are done school than I think it is fine to get married before, but if you dont have a job or are still living with you parents it makes total sense. Where would you live? I dont think you have to be completely lined up for your future, but you have to have a start.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I know where youre coming from too...I just got engaged and I'm facing a long engagement, which I'm hating the idea of because it's not exactly easy to stay pure! But our parents think we should wait until we get our degrees in two years (ugh!) and fiance' thinks so too, so he can have 2 years to have all his stuff lined up...not too happy about that...if it was up to me, we'd be married by next year! But its not...so eh, whatever!
I don't understand why we as Christians do what we do either...like my friends who got married a year after we graduated from HS...by then, their daughter (yes, daughter before marriage) was one...so it was ok...but if they wouldn't have had children in the equation, their parents prob would have encouraged them to finish school as well before marrying...why? I think thats a silly reason to wait to marry...

Honestly, they want the best for us, and I understand that, but many of them were in the same boat as us too, and in that case you would think they would be more understanding. My parents weren't Christians at the time, so there wasn't really the limits that there is now. I understand why people say wait until you're done with school, but just because you're done with school doesn't mean you have money suddenly, even if you find a job right away. So what are couples supposed to do, wait years on end until people view them as financially stable?

 

[Briseis]

Honestly, they want the best for us, and I understand that, but many of them were in the same boat as us too, and in that case you would think they would be more understanding. My parents weren't Christians at the time, so there wasn't really the limits that there is now. I understand why people say wait until you're done with school, but just because you're done with school doesn't mean you have money suddenly, even if you find a job right away. So what are couples supposed to do, wait years on end until people view them as financially stable?

Apparently thats what they think. I think people should get financially stable together. Get married as soon as you can afford it and work uphill from there.