I've been doing the therapy thing ever since my first suicide attempt. It's alright, but it doesn't change much.have you considered therapy?
I don't get teased or bullied per se. About every single guy I've ever met had a had at least one girl like them or think they were attractive. I haven't gotten this once in my life. Also, there's been excessive amounts of times I've overheard people talk about how ugly I was. Or times where people see my face, then quickly look away in disgust or irritation.Other than not having the girls fall all over you ... are you teased.., bullied ? What gives you the impression that you are unattractive?
Because that's all I see. That's all I've seen in my entire life. Movie directors seem to think the same, since all their movies have the exact same thing - the main good-looking character getting the perfect girl at the end, while the main character's not-as-good-looking friend (who usually liked the girl WAY more) ends up with nothing. Want example movies? The Sasquatch Gang and all 3 Spider-man movies.
Pretty much all my friends are better looking than I am, so I watch them get attention from all the girls while I'm standing in the back. That also ties in with the time my best friend got the girl I wanted. I won't elaborate on that because I've already mentioned it a hundred times. Even my own parents are examples of what I'm talking about. I am the offspring of the very thing I question.
Middle school and high school - watching the better looking people get carnations on Valentine's Day, most of which got them just for their looks. Now, the people who gave the carnations may have been shallow, but at least the people who got them knew they were interested by someone. Anyone got a good answer?
I don't get teased or bullied per se. About every single guy I've ever met had a had at least one girl like them or think they were attractive. I haven't gotten this once in my life. Also, there's been excessive amounts of times I've overheard people talk about how ugly I was. Or times where people see my face, then quickly look away in disgust or irritation.
That would be a huge blessing.
I don't get teased or bullied per se. About every single guy I've ever met had a had at least one girl like them or think they were attractive. I haven't gotten this once in my life. Also, there's been excessive amounts of times I've overheard people talk about how ugly I was. Or times where people see my face, then quickly look away in disgust or irritation.
Have to say that made me laugh. While looks is a big part of attraction, there is far more to it than that. A lot of it really is personality and interests as well. For instance, knowing guns totally increases a girl's sexiness. To me, showing her love for God is a very attractive feature in a woman. I've known girls that aren't super pretty, but they're super attractive.
thank you for your nice responses, my sensitivity toward this subject is what caused my attitude
I hope it doesn't, the slump that people get into over "the beautiful people" is one that's best accepted as one of those things. There are people who many would not describe as beautiful who find companionship with someone, the only difference between themselves and the beautiful individual may be that for the ordinary folk it took more time and less wheat sorting. It's not something that can be easily changed so thinking about it is rarely a good thing, it can hinder your life view to the point where you can't see the wood for the trees.
I hear what you are saying,...unfortunately I can relate. I don't have time to tell you now, but keep checking back from time to time in the next week.. if you don't mind , I have some personal experiences that I would like to share that I think may help you, or maybe not,... but you are not alone in the way you feel,
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i know that I said I was going to share some of my experiences with you but then I started to read the other posts here and I think I would agree with them , for the most part. I also think that my intial accessment was correct... your issue is may not be so much with being unattractive but the fact that you don't have girls tripping over themselves to get to you!
However, I know all too well the torment that you feel at times because I myself have been there, It is not fun too feel like everyone around you are more attractive and accepted than you and that you are the the outsider.
As some have said I think that you need to change your negative attitude..I know that it may not be easy , but it is a start, like I said I use to be just like you but then I made a effort to be more positive and oddly enough people seemed to be more accepting, and I think in part it was because I was more approachable. I am not saying that everything is perfect and that I have as many friends and popularity or even treated as well as " pretty boy" is , but things are better.
Personally, I don't think it matters. What matters is what Jesus said: seek first the kingdom and His righteousness. Who cares about getting a little bit of attention from girls? If anything, doesn't that just feed arrogance and vanity? Attaining the kingdom is eternally more important!
Personally, I don't think it matters. What matters is what Jesus said: seek first the kingdom and His righteousness. Who cares about getting a little bit of attention from girls? If anything, doesn't that just feed arrogance and vanity? Attaining the kingdom is eternally more important!
Don't ever tell a single dude who is lonely for the companionship of a woman that he should forget about it and just love Jesus instead. That is a cruel and perverted thing to say. We both know darn well that it ain't the same. It's like telling a guy who is starving to forget about his hunger and enjoy spiritual communion with Christ instead. Hogwash!
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