Why do people stereotype singles?

[one 4 Christ]

There is nothing more frustrating then when people stereotype singles. They say ridiculous stuff like.

"She/he is single because she/he must NOT be that attractive"

Or what bothers me is when people marry for all the wrong reasons like, oh, what will they think of me if I do not marry?

Here is the thing that drive me up the wall what guys say, "I was told that I was cute so I should get married."

Some people rush into marriage.

Marriage should be for love people, LOVE!!! How that all begins is to ask The Lord to guide you on His path…that is the safest path!

 

[mannysee]

it's like the old song, "Love and Marriage, go together like a horse and carriage!"

 

[JPPT1974]

Don't rush into a marriage that you know won't work. And that it compromises God's plans for your life or lives. And that you should take things one step at a time. And not to marry just to get marry or to have companionship. But to get married in God's time and will. Let His planning work out for your benefit & the benefit of your mate.

 

[wildthing]

Why do people stereotype anybody. It is the total lack of understand that is why we stereotype people. Perhaps it is done out of fear. I don't know.

 

[mina]

People talk negatively about what they don't understand. It could be anything, not just singleness; but a lot of junk gets thrown about in the church about singles.

 

[one 4 Christ]

You all are so right!
It is a shame that people do judge. But in all honesty I have to admit that I have done that to women who look "fake/Wordly". When I see a women look like that I dart the other way....

 

[2Timothy2]

We all do it. We like to have our labels, so everyone is nice and defined. Or we put people into groups, so as to feel more comfortable about ourselves and the world around us. Don't understand something, don't ask, put it/them in a group, it will all make sense then. sheesh Like I said, we all do it. It's more of an effort to find out the truth. Maybe we are all just lazy.

 

[woman.at.the.well]

Why do people stereotype anybody. It is the total lack of understand that is why we stereotype people. Perhaps it is done out of fear. I don't know.

I agree, why DO people stereotype anybody??? Good question wildthing!

 

[ladylike]

We all do it. We like to have our labels, so everyone is nice and defined. Or we put people into groups, so as to feel more comfortable about ourselves and the world around us. Don't understand something, don't ask, put it/them in a group, it will all make sense then. sheesh Like I said, we all do it. It's more of an effort to find out the truth. Maybe we are all just lazy.

That is very true! We put people into categories to make us think that the world isn't really all that complicated, and every one of us isn't different from one another, but that's the untrue part...

 

[Talie]

perhaps because for a lot of people it's true, there are plenty people around - like me - who are single because the are unattractive (and no, i dont' mean that in just a physical sense)

 

[]RiSeN[]

Talie,

I have great difficulty believing that, and i would like to know what compels you to think this way of yourself? Although, runing back and forth from the tv to your pc during commercials while watching Star Trek is quit a strong rebuttle to begin with.(JOKE!)

 

[Talie]

LOL - because i am quick to anger (mostly because i'm exhausted and quality-sleep deprived but the cause is beside the point), I'm judgemental - I'm very often blunt in what I say to people - particularly when I believe strongly about things, because I am not considerate enough of others at times - because I'm argumentative .....THEN.....there's the fact that I can't be physically active - which people consider lazy despite the reasons behind it - I don't have any real hobbies or interests outside my "jobs"..... I won't go into the physical appearance issues becuase that's a given....... should I go on?

I should add that I'm not depressed or down because of any of this - it's just the way I am and after all - it takes all kinds to make an interesting world

BUT, people do NOT find any of these things attractive

 

[Niels]

Unfortunately, it happens to everybody! As singles, we may just be more aware of the stereotypes that apply to singles. I'm sure if/when we find spouses and get married, we'll become more aware of the 'married people' stereotypes... though hopefully those won't be as negative.

But I agree... marriage should be about love! Not for some of those other reasons (like 'what will they think of me if I do not marry?') In cases like that, I say singleness is the better option.

 

[waterbear]

We all do it. We like to have our labels, so everyone is nice and defined. Or we put people into groups, so as to feel more comfortable about ourselves and the world around us. Don't understand something, don't ask, put it/them in a group, it will all make sense then. sheesh Like I said, we all do it. It's more of an effort to find out the truth. Maybe we are all just lazy.

I agree, but I don't think stereotypes are that bad. Stereotypes are understood (usually) as reasoning/modeling on available inputs (e.g. appearance) rather than seeking additional inputs. A model's accuracy depends on two things - having more conditions to satisfy (inputs) and ability to satisfy/recognize the inputs (reasoning). If someone's tested his/her model successfully numerous times, it may not be good use of his/her time to seek yet more inputs, rather he/she should probably work on developing other models yet be aware when his/her tested models fail.

 

[JPPT1974]

Unfortunately, it happens to everybody! As singles, we may just be more aware of the stereotypes that apply to singles. I'm sure if/when we find spouses and get married, we'll become more aware of the 'married people' stereotypes... though hopefully those won't be as negative.

But I agree... marriage should be about love! Not for some of those other reasons (like 'what will they think of me if I do not marry?') In cases like that, I say singleness is the better option.

Marriage should be about love as well as loving and marrying for all the right reasons. But most of all, for the Lord's reasons!