why do people always make fun of virgins

[ahmunmun]

I just find it difficult to believe that the JoBros haven't done anything sexual.

(That is in no way directed at you, ahmunmun. I just quoted your post.)

Even though you aren't directing your comment at me, let me ask you. Do you believe that I haven't done any of those activities you mentioned? I haven't. That's why I don't find it hard to believe if someone else hasn't either. My brother, who is older than me, hasn't even been with a girl his whole life. There are also about three guys who I can think of in my group of friends who haven't been with any girl either. I just don't get why it's so hard to believe that there are people out there, yes, including guys, who are clean cut. I think because we live in a world full of sins and temptations, someone who comes out and says that he/she hasn't committed any sexual sin is somehow considered a "suspect". It's not fair. Just because some people may be weak, there are those in this world who can really rely on the Lord for strength and successfully fight sexual temptation. Unless if you have some type of evidence to show that we have done what you mentioned, I wouldn't go around and say what you said.

 

[JonMiller]

Outside of a stripper at a bachelor party I haven't done anything sexual with anyone. And I really regret that instance, I should have stuck with my previous position of saying no to lap dances. At least since than I have stayed away from strip clubs or other sorts of places (and this was during the time I felt pornography was not bad).

JM
(I would like to be clear that I am still a virgin in more than a technical sense, but still I did touch her body.)

 

[yam]

There is the other end of the spectrum though and that's when you have somebody that is highly proud of their virginity and loves for everyone to know it. They will look down on others that they think aren't as pure as they are and their virginity becomes their identity. That person makes their virginity into an idol when you think about it. Those people I think run into real problems when they get married because then they are faced with losing the one thing that they've held up on a pedestal their whole life. Suddenly they aren't as pure in their own mind as they once were and they've lost their identity. Unfortunately I think that some churches, groups, and organizations foster and push this type of thinking among young people and it certainly doesn't do them any service in the long run. It can cause a person to become very puffed up with Pride and cause them at least some degree of sexual disfunction later in life. I think the right message to give out is that virginity isn't something to be either ashamed or proud of. It's a state that God expects us to be in until we get married. Before marriage it serves you but after marriage it is no longer of any use to you.

Agree with u , These are some of the reasons why I never went to youth groups neither do i go to small groups. The pastors boast about their kids being virgins in sunday school. how about they talk about all the other types of sin beside virginity and dressing modest. The funny thing is most of the ones in these youth gropus are the wrost. You should see the way the behave.

 

[JonMiller]

It is known that pastor kids often have problems.

JM

 

[jpcedotal]

I have a deep respect for young people that decide to wait until they are married before having sex. To me, that shows a maturity beyond their years and it gives the glory to God where it belongs.

I didn't by the way, but I wish I would have. Once that bridge is crossed, then it just becomes easier and easier to just keep on.....keeping on, like a bunch of rabbits.

temptation leads to lust that leads to sin that leads to death

 

[visionary]

It should be prized.. for its sacred purpose.. by all parties.

 

[ethan03]

because they're hilarious

 

[leothelioness]

Even though you aren't directing your comment at me, let me ask you. Do you believe that I haven't done any of those activities you mentioned? I haven't

I haven't either, but I am usually skeptical about people my age being "pure", because it's so rare.

 

[JonMiller]

From Wikipedia... about 30% are virgins, it would make sense that some of those are pure.

I know that some areas everyone is having sex, I might have been the only one my year who didn't at my highschool, but there are other highschools where it isn't so common.

Adolescent sexuality in the United States - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

What I do find interesting:
Religion

Religious adolescents lose their virginity 3 years later than the average American.[152] On average, those with strong religious backgrounds become sexually active at age 21.[152] Many studies have found an inverse relationship between religiosity and high-risk adolescent behaviors, including sexual activity.[153]


While religious people get divorced too much, we do manage to retain our virginity longer and make other good choices. It is just that our techniques (which seem to be similar ones to others.. focusing on love and attraction rather than God) don't give us the right people to marry as often as they should.

JM

 

[leothelioness]

Note to self: Don't make a Jonas Bros. fan gurl mad.

 

[leothelioness]

What I do find interesting:
Religion

Religious adolescents lose their virginity 3 years later than the average American.[152] On average, those with strong religious backgrounds become sexually active at age 21.[152]

Well, I'm way behind, then, 'cause I'll be 21 next week.

 

[Kingssman]

I was shocked to hear that the 25yr old woman i've been dating was a virgin. Not that I am promiscuous or anything and only had sex with one woman for 10 years till i was divorced and this girl is technically my#2. Her being pure for so long actually made me hesitant to continue the relationship because well...... im a guy, kinda horny, and i really didn't want to take a gift that was so special to her.

Well, I'm marrying the gal LOL (despite our year long dating she's not a virgin anymore and that she trusts me and i trust her and she's all that i need to be satisfied and have no interest in any other woman)

To me, a promise ring is supposed to be a mock wedding ring given to those who commit to long term relationships. Course this day in age where serial dating of date as many in the sea while in high school, the "try before you buy" concept when it comes to commitment, as well as all the sex in todays media "thongs for 12yr olds" that I actually applaud a woman's effort to save herself as well as a man's effort.

Sex can be like drugs in society where people burn themselves out over too much and just have sex out of routine because to them there's nothing greater.

I also like to scoff at those who brag their virginity like it makes them better than everyone else like they never been tempted before in their life nor ever succumbed to temptation. it kinda creates envy and jealousy for those of us who didn't save ourselves but now wish we did

 

[leothelioness]

I was shocked to hear that the 25yr old woman i've been dating was a virgin. Not that I am promiscuous or anything and only had sex with one woman for 10 years till i was divorced and this girl is technically my#2. Her being pure for so long actually made me hesitant to continue the relationship

See, I don't get this. It makes no sense to me how being a virgin for so long can actually turn a guy off. I hope to God I don't have to go through that.

 

[LoneSheep]

See, I don't get this. It makes no sense to me how being a virgin for so long can actually turn a guy off. I hope to God I don't have to go through that.

Some men don't want to have to teach you things or are willing to wait until you are "alright" with things. That is how ridiculous the world is these days.

 

[Kingssman]

See, I don't get this. It makes no sense to me how being a virgin for so long can actually turn a guy off. I hope to God I don't have to go through that.

Don't take it the wrong way. Its mostly because a guy who isn't a virgin doesn't want to be "that one" who takes away her virginity. Its mostly out of respect.

Some of us view virginity as a gift and sometimes to deflower another feels like a great sin that is bore upon us.

its much easier for a non virgin and another non virgin to "hook up" because both have already lost that something precious.

(sinners take delight in the company of other sinners kind of approach?)

By all means your virginity isn't something we shun because we feel that you're inexperienced, lame, prudish or too much effort.
Its because your seen as holy, an angel, pure, and valued much higher. That is what freaks guys out.

 

[trentlogain2]

Why does the world glorify infidelity? Maybe because they're just lost?

 

[leothelioness]

Don't take it the wrong way. Its mostly because a guy who isn't a virgin doesn't want to be "that one" who takes away her virginity. Its mostly out of respect.

Some of us view virginity as a gift and sometimes to deflower another feels like a great sin that is bore upon us.

its much easier for a non virgin and another non virgin to "hook up" because both have already lost that something precious.

(sinners take delight in the company of other sinners kind of approach?)

By all means your virginity isn't something we shun because we feel that you're inexperienced, lame, prudish or too much effort.
Its because your seen as holy, an angel, pure, and valued much higher. That is what freaks guys out.

Oh, well that's good to know. Still, guys shouldn't be freaked out by it. I don't get it.

 

[SearcherKris]

Before I was married I was picked on alot but it wasn't because I was a virgin, it was because of how open I was about it. It was a big deal to me, and I was so emotionally and spiritually immature that it was revolting to me that so many other were not.

I brought it up ALL the TIME. So, I got picked on ALL the time.

I've grown up since then.

 

[Kingssman]

Why does the world glorify infidelity? Maybe because they're just lost?

its a product of a "if it feels good, do it" way of thinking,
product of a "free" society
result in a "oh its normal, natural, and anything natural in nature is natural by god (aka humping like rabbits)" mentality

People envy it because its glorified
People tend to think sex is like a scoreboard
The "you only live once so live it up while you can"
The "coulda shoulda woulda"

the "hey its harmless and it feels good. Besides better now than at 50 or never"

and "dont wanna die a virgin do ya?"

But all in all..... people are not so much lost, but just confused. I believe that God still loves them though.

 

[JonMiller]

I know guys who prefer virgin girls, and other guys who prefer engaged girls (even married?).

JM