why do I feel...?

[soyness]

is it just me or do I feel my Christian friends more judgmental than my non-Christian friends. I think i had more broken relationships with my christian friends than my nonchristians. I feel like we're so judgmental of our fellow Christians. I think we are so much more serious and unhappy. That just frustrates me.

 

[Moodybleu]

Hi there. I believe, and its just my personal opinion, that non Christians are less judgemental, as you say, because they are more open and accepting of everything including sin. A Christain, on the other hand, sees these things happening and knowing they are against the teachings of Christianity, does not want to take part in them nor agree and accept them or it whichever it may be.

I may pray over certain people, events or things but I do not involve myself personally with them if I feel they are against my beliefs as a Christian. I also believe that in this day and age we need to be serious about what we believe in and how we live our lives as we set examples for non-believers everywhere. My Christian friends are happy though.



Have a wonderful weekend,
Barbara~

 

[RSteel]

I read your post. I think Christians are on an ongoing process of self-improvement. It seems sometimes that we as Christians are judgemental. I think that has something to do with Love though. But, often times, our judgements are reflected back to ourself.

Judging Others

1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

When we judge, it's often reciprocated back to us, which is the way it's supposed to be...lol Just don't get confused about it though.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

I do think that Christians tend to be WAY more judgemental than non-christians. It hurts more because they should be more understanding - I wish I knew why they were like this.

 

[greenessa]

I think that what is sometimes misunderstood as being judgemental is actually holding each other accountable for our actions. And I agree with Moodybleu that non-christians are just more accepting of sin and not less judgemental. Vanessa

 

[goldenviolet]

Hey ... great question. my daughter's tell me this too. there is probly lots of reasons this is so... and appears to be so. meaning it is only true with some people.
i think getting along with other christians should be a pirority. because of our beliefs... because God wants us to love and learn from one another.
so i think the best thing you can do is pray about the people and your relationships that you are talking about.
during the times that you feel pressure and judged: try to be very honest with who is making you uncomfortable. maybe it is you can help them learn how to be more compassionate with you... and open the doors to a deeper more sensitive relationship.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

is it just me or do I feel my Christian friends more judgmental than my non-Christian friends. I think i had more broken relationships with my christian friends than my nonchristians. I feel like we're so judgmental of our fellow Christians. I think we are so much more serious and unhappy. That just frustrates me.

Ironic isn't it?
Let's work to make things different.
We've forgotten all about love.

 

[soyness]

Good point cheese.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Very good point cheese. Somebody else said that our non-christian friends are just less aware of sin - which is also a good point.

I also find that there are 2 categories of Christians - the first one being those who are fake, those who pretend to be something they are not and also act like they are sinless, for me these were also the ones who walked away from me in my time of need, the second group are those who dont' pretend, those who know they do wrong and do not try to hide it these are also the ones who stuck by me in my time of need. I am not saying that these people don't repent - they do, but they also don't pretend to be innocent!!!

I am saying this to say that it seems that those who sin and don't try to hide it tend to be those who understand more.

 

[perfection]

You are absolutely right, jesus thought us to forgive and we must understand that we are our own judge in life. We don't need to check upon eachothers errors like the brother who searched for the pin in his brothers eye but didn't notice the piece of wood in his own eyes. Only God knows what truelly lies in our hearts therefore we should love eachother and not condemn eachother. This is something else then being strict and loving, which is necessary at sometimes but we need to give eachother to live in freedom.