Why do God put desire to get married in people who cant get married?

[KJ91]

Only me who thinks thats weird?

People who cant get married, cant for different reasons. My reason is that im too ugly, im litterly 1 of 10 on the look scale. So me having desire to get married makes no sense. I wish the desire to go away. I been praying about it.

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

I just wanna accept that im gonna be single my whole life and be happy about it.

 

[Mark Quayle]

Only me who thinks thats weird?

People who cant get married, cant for different reasons. My reason is that im too ugly, im litterly 1 of 10 on the look scale. So me having desire to get married makes no sense. I wish the desire to go away. I been praying about it.

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

I just wanna accept that im gonna be single my whole life and be happy about it.

Desire for marriage is like looks —misleading. We all form notions in our mind of what a situation would be like, what it is for, and even assess why we want it, but in the end, the experience is rarely what we envisioned. If you think you won't "be able to", good! Shelve the notion and go on with life. Myself, I think people who aren't focused on that are generally more attractive and likeable.

Oh! But, I have also met couples where one or both are dog-ugly, and are happy together. Well, that, and couples where one or both are dog-ugly and unhappy.

 

[timewerx]

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

Because the world is under the influence of Satan (1 John 5:19) and our world is far too obsessed with marriage to the point of idolatry of marriage, in commerce, entertainment, "elderly wisdom", and everybody else...

Although God put the desire of marriage in us.

The excessive desire of marriage and losing our self-esteem over it, that's clearly the work of Satan. This is the one that causes problems and people get depressed and dysfunctional over.

This isn't your fault but consider the fact, we people of God are under attack all the time by the enemy.

 

[angelsaroundme]

You could likewise ask why does God allow some married people to be attracted to a person other than their spouse? Why does cheating while being married happen? Or why do people get divorced to be with someone else? How come God allows a world to exist where people lose attraction to their spouse and then they are in a loveless marriage?

Not saying this to be rude just showing the other side of the coin. People in relationships can suffer a lot too. They can have a lot of issues, like having two families to worry about instead of just your own, pressure to provide a certain life for your spouse and kids, insecurities that you become more self-conscious of while with someone, etc. I wish I was happier more consistently as well. But I think virtually everyone could use that.

 

[DragonFox91]

KJ!!!! You are putting God into a box, my friend. You need to ask God & see what he says!

You are 31? That is SO Young, dude. You will change, women will change, maybe you nor her will change, you're just waiting. I don't know, but consider it! Be open! See women & yourself as children of God!

Also don't be discouarged by seeing people who want to get married & aren't. This is an issue you can only worry about yourself b/c their story w/ it is NOT the same as yours & has absolutely NO impact on your's!

& so as not to give you a false sense of hope, but turn your frustration to God -> being single is NOT a consolation prize!

 

[Tery]

Desire for marriage is like looks —misleading. We all form notions in our mind of what a situation would be like, what it is for, and even assess why we want it, but in the end, the experience is rarely what we envisioned. If you think you won't "be able to", good! Shelve the notion and go on with life. Myself, I think people who aren't focused on that are generally more attractive and likeable.

The danger of being in love ... with being in love.

 

[DragonFox91]

I believe it is wrong to discourage KJ & other singles who don't want to be single, that being married isn't better I think it's important we singles who would like to get married to realize that, the pros & cons, but I don't feel that's all we s/b told. If you would like to be married, pursue her in a godly way! That's exactly what Paul says.
& yet KJ is praying against it....Hmm.....Maybe it really is something he doesn't want. I don't know. I think you should stop praying against it KJ & pray for God's will, or be open to him about what you would like.

 

[High Fidelity]

Don't be so defeatist. No one's going to give you a second look if you're going to be so negative.

If you ain't selling, no one's buying. Think on that, and work on it.

 

[TheLastGeek]

Only me who thinks thats weird?

People who cant get married, cant for different reasons. My reason is that im too ugly, im litterly 1 of 10 on the look scale. So me having desire to get married makes no sense. I wish the desire to go away. I been praying about it.

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

I just wanna accept that im gonna be single my whole life and be happy about it.

My opinion is that no one is "too ugly" to find love. There are happy couples out there, where I cannot understand how one is attracted to the other at all. Yet they do find each other, and they love each other, and they're happy. So I accept that my personal view is just that; mine and mine alone.

Why would you think Satan is giving people good, wholesome, natural desires, like wanting to be loved and have companionship? There's nothing wrong with that at all.

Rather than fight against and try to deny how you feel, acknowledge it, accept it as a normal, human experience, and give it to God. Trust that He will either fulfill your heart's desire, or relieve you of it in time.

 

[Sketcher]

Only me who thinks thats weird?

People who cant get married, cant for different reasons. My reason is that im too ugly, im litterly 1 of 10 on the look scale. So me having desire to get married makes no sense. I wish the desire to go away. I been praying about it.

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

I just wanna accept that im gonna be single my whole life and be happy about it.

I still remember your picture. Uglier people than you have reproduced with full consent.

 

[DragonFox91]

Don't laugh KJ.

 

[KJ91]

I still remember your picture. Uglier people than you have reproduced with full consent.

i highly doubt its possible to more ugly than me. im at the bottom of the lake when it comes to looks. if you take 1 million guys with my looks, only like 2 of them will ever be in a relationship. so its not realistic, just like its not realistic that i will be the next president of USA..

 

[KJ91]

KJ!!!! You are putting God into a box, my friend. You need to ask God & see what he says!

You are 31? That is SO Young, dude. You will change, women will change, maybe you nor her will change, you're just waiting. I don't know, but consider it! Be open! See women & yourself as children of God!

Also don't be discouarged by seeing people who want to get married & aren't. This is an issue you can only worry about yourself b/c their story w/ it is NOT the same as yours & has absolutely NO impact on your's!

& so as not to give you a false sense of hope, but turn your frustration to God -> being single is NOT a consolation prize!

almost everyone my age had someone they dated, they had some interest in them, someone. im one of the few who lived for 31 years with nobody ever finding me interesting. so its not realistic this would change out of sudden. my looks wont change.

 

[KJ91]

Don't be so defeatist. No one's going to give you a second look if you're going to be so negative.

If you ain't selling, no one's buying. Think on that, and work on it.

whats the point of being positive, it wont change anything.

 

[KJ91]

My opinion is that no one is "too ugly" to find love. There are happy couples out there, where I cannot understand how one is attracted to the other at all. Yet they do find each other, and they love each other, and they're happy. So I accept that my personal view is just that; mine and mine alone.

Why would you think Satan is giving people good, wholesome, natural desires, like wanting to be loved and have companionship? There's nothing wrong with that at all.

Rather than fight against and try to deny how you feel, acknowledge it, accept it as a normal, human experience, and give it to God. Trust that He will either fulfill your heart's desire, or relieve you of it in time.

yeah but take 1 million very ugly guys, only like 2 of them will find someone. so its mission impossible

 

[High Fidelity]

whats the point of being positive, it wont change anything.

Fair enough.

So, you know the apparent reality of the situation, so why post lamenting it?

Either you know it isn’t true and are fishing for compliments or you’re making things worse by not focusing on what is within your control.

 

[returntosender]

Desire for marriage is like looks —misleading. We all form notions in our mind of what a situation would be like, what it is for, and even assess why we want it, but in the end, the experience is rarely what we envisioned. If you think you won't "be able to", good! Shelve the notion and go on with life. Myself, I think people who aren't focused on that are generally more attractive and likeable.

Oh! But, I have also met couples where one or both are dog-ugly, and are happy together. Well, that, and couples where one or both are dog-ugly and unhappy.

Wow,. Right on the mark! You live up to your name:

Only me who thinks thats weird?

People who cant get married, cant for different reasons. My reason is that im too ugly, im litterly 1 of 10 on the look scale. So me having desire to get married makes no sense. I wish the desire to go away. I been praying about it.

Or is it Satan who put the desire in people in people like me?

I just wanna accept that im gonna be single my whole life and be happy about it.

You take away gods choice for you. Your attitude will cause you to reject God's choice. You don't know his plans for you but you seem to have it all mapped out without his input.

 

[DragonFox91]

almost everyone my age had someone they dated, they had some interest in them, someone. im one of the few who lived for 31 years with nobody ever finding me interesting. so its not realistic this would change out of sudden. my looks wont change.

That is in the past. How many women have you expressed interest in? Tell us how your interactions w/ women go.

I've never dated either. & that's okay. Doesn't mean I won't.

You take away gods choice for you. Your attitude will cause you to reject God's choice. You don't know his plans for you but you seem to have it all mapped out without his input.

Correct, yes. He's saying he knows better than God.

 

[TheLastGeek]

yeah but take 1 million very ugly guys, only like 2 of them will find someone. so its mission impossible

"With God, nothing shall be impossible." Do you believe this?

 

[TheLastGeek]

whats the point of being positive, it wont change anything.

Okay, well, enjoy singlehood, since that's what you're declaring and accepting for yourself. And you won't have any need to keep posting complaints about it, right? Good, glad that's settled.