yes sir, that is the critical question. see I believe addictive sins, and being a carnal christian in the sense of sinning daily but still having shame over ones sins is a sign of life. But the same person if they are homosexual for instance, and is proud of their sin and believes God accepts homosexuality as normal and not sinful (for example), that is not a sign of life. That is why I used that illustration. But free gracers fail on this one illustration because they typically have not diffrentiated between apostate views and carnal christian actions. This is deep theological stuff, I admit. But in the circles I run with they speak of this all the time and it is not uncommon to hear such stuff at any one of our church services. One is 'sinning' and one is 'practicing sin.' God forgives the sin of the ungodly if they repent. However if they practice sin and are proud about it, they have not repented. Even though they believe in christ they are not saved. I just read a verse today, lets see what the Holy Spirit says through this verse:
Then he said to the multitudes that came out to be baptized by him, “Brood of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the wrath to come? Therefore bear fruits worthy of repentance, and do not begin to say to yourselves, ‘We have Abraham as our father.’ For I say to you that God is able to raise up children to Abraham from these stones. And even now the ax is laid to the root of the trees. Therefore every tree which does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.”
Luke 3:7-9 NKJV
again in conclusion, the free gracers that I have read and studied: chafer, ryrie, wilkins, hodges, walvwoord, zuck, scofield. They all adhere to a universal carnal christian view. That means that they have no condemnation of homosexuality, yes they agree it's a sin, but homosexuality does not remove salvation any more than your typical lie, or lustful sin. And that would be where I disagree. See while lust and lying, is a sin, most are ashamed of the sin and repent afterward, even if they are addicted. That is a sign of life, however homosexuality has a movement that is proud of their sin, that is different than shame. And that is not a sign of life. I have seen free gracers mention that such people are not christian, but they have no official way of proving such allegations. Namely if a universal carnal christianity is allowed, then people can ultimately do whatever they want. As they have changed mentally their mind, but they have not yet changed their action, as you admit, may take years or decades. So who is to say they have not yet repented of sin? And that my friend is not in scripture, he who practices sin is of the devil it says in 1 John 3:8, but he who confesses and repents of his sin (as many as they may be) are forgiven: 1 John 1:9