MM,
You have just been the victim of a heartless approach to Christianity where sectarian beliefs become more important than people.
Coincidentally, I have been studying the “Marks of Cultic Behavior.” One of the marks of a “cultic personality” is that very anomaly (see #11 below).
I am not accusing anyone in this forum of being the member of a cult. But, I am beginning to recognize in myself and others evidence of the kind of personality that seems to be most susceptible to cult-like influence. In fact, I have noticed how often we, in P/C/W circles, may often become more cult-like than Christian in our approach to the Faith.
Here is a list of characteristics of cults that I have found in my research that can apply to even Spirit-filled believers. I have found myself in this list and am working to make some corrections in my behavior and values.
1. Exclusiveness of distinctive doctrines which are held to be superior to others’ beliefs.
2. Denounce those who object to their beliefs.
3. Adopt an “Us vs. Them” mentality.
4. Stress, and are well-versed in, pet proof texts (i.e., use the Bible mainly to support beliefs).
5. Teach canned/programmed responses to objections to their beliefs.
6. See Christianity as works-based (i.e., ego-centric), where God's approval or blessing depends on our actions or beliefs.
7. Venerate heroes and follow compelling personalities.
8. Overly-value extra-biblical authority (prophecies, revelations, visions, etc.)
9. Demand loyalty to peculiar beliefs and fellowship.
10. Financially exploit followers.
11. Beliefs become more important than people.
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