Why did my mother die?

[FTIO]

Hey VinceBlaze,

I can't tell you how much my heart goes out to you ... I couldn't image loosing my mother either. I'm sorry and hope that you will receive the strength and grace that you need to move on.

As to your question of why your mother died, because of sin. Not because of her sin specifically, but because we live in a sin-cursed world. This world is not the same as it once was because of the fall of mankind. Put simply, we live in a messed up world and messed up things happen that we can't explain or that have no particular reason.

However, praise God that He is faithful. He promises that one day when Jesus returns He will do away with death forever and restore this world to its once perfect state. Jesus knows what death is all about, He wept over it when His friend Lazzarus died. Becuase He knows how you feel and has been there, He promises to give us the grace that we need to handle it because He has overcome the world. Call out to Him, He'll answer, and He'll come to your rescue.

Furthermore, He promises that we'll see our loved ones again if they fell asleep in Christ. One song called "Homesick" by MercyMe has a few lines: "In Christ there are no goodbyes / In Christ there is no end / So I'll hold onto Jesus with all that I have / To see you again."

You are in my prayers and thoughts. My prayer for you is that the Lord of peace Himself give you peace [that passes all understanding] at all times and in every way and that you may know that His grace is sufficient for you.

 

[eoe]

Lord have mercy.

 

[heron]

Why her, and not someone else...

In the Christian mindset, death isn't a punishment. It's a chance to move on, out of the world of crime and oppression and sickness.... into a paradise setting. The pain and sorrow stay with the people still on earth, but she is pain-free now.

Your other (less worthy) relatives are given more chances to see where they're headed, and change their minds.

It's normal to have a few weeks where your brain flits around until it resolves its own logic, so just take your time and do what you can... you got through some really dry meetings and paperwork so far... phone calls... it's not easy. Especially when you have those moments, like where you want to tell her who's coming, and suddenly realize you can't.

 

[FallingWaters]

She had me hold her hand before she had me call for the paramedics. I think that she knew that she was going to go soon, but didn't tell me or something.

One of the things I have noticed through the years is how important it is that their loved one was not alone when they died. At least you can have the comfort of knowing she was not alone, that you were there, that she asked you to hold her hand.

I'm sorry she was so young. You seem like a tenderhearted and devoted child (to your mother). I'm sure you were the delight of her heart.

 

[FallingWaters]

Seven months wasn't a very long time I don't think anymore. Thank you for your thoughts.

It wasn't a very long time at all. Some people have a couple of years. I know two women who each lost their husband within 3 months of their cancer diagnosis. They must also have felt like you do now.

I hope and pray that God will be with you in this time of grieving and healing.

 

[BarbB]

I hope that she could sense me there holding her hand when she stopped breathing.

I am so sorry, VinceBlaze. I'm positive that she knew you were there!

 

[VinceBlaze]

Vince,

I am truly sorry for your loss. I know how great a loss it is. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

Thank you. Your concern is truly appreciated.

 

[VinceBlaze]

Hey VinceBlaze,

As to your question of why your mother died, because of sin. Not because of her sin specifically, but because we live in a sin-cursed world.

I think that she was more of a victim than a sinner, although she was extremely strong.

 

[VinceBlaze]

Lord have mercy.

Thank you.

 

[VinceBlaze]

It's normal to have a few weeks where your brain flits around until it resolves its own logic, so just take your time and do what you can... you got through some really dry meetings and paperwork so far... phone calls... it's not easy. Especially when you have those moments, like where you want to tell her who's coming, and suddenly realize you can't.

I sometimes find myself attempting to be quiet in the house, so as not to disturb her with noise like I used to. But then I realize that she's not here anymore.

 

[VinceBlaze]

You seem like a tenderhearted and devoted child (to your mother). I'm sure you were the delight of her heart.

I hope so. I certainly didn't always feel worthy of that.

 

[VinceBlaze]

I am so sorry, VinceBlaze. I'm positive that she knew you were there!

I like to believe so.

 

[heron]

I sometimes find myself attempting to be quiet in the house, so as not to disturb her with noise like I used to. But then I realize that she's not here anymore.

That's a nice reminder, even though it's probably jarring at the time. I used to jump up to call mine about new information, then feel silly that I'd forgotten... a little guilty. It just happens.

 

[Davidnic]

My heart, love and prayers go out to you. I lost my mom at 10 and my dad at 20. The love you have for her will always be in your heart. And love does not die. Somtimes that love will make it hurt more, but eventually it can comfort you.

I believe she knew you were there. Love connects us all. In your love for her and hers for you, she felt you there.

I thought that my grandmother would die first before my mom.

My love and prayers for your grandmother as well. There is great pain in losing a child. I don't know what their relationship was like, but I remember my grandmother and her great sorrow when my mother died, even though she was 74 and my mom 52.

 

[prophecystudent]

Vinceblaze, I truly feel your sorrow and anquish. In the last year and a half my sister passed, and my dad. Both had been failing for some time.

I gather from your posts that your mom was not in good health, hence the hospice.

There just no easy words to remove your pain. I wish it were different but it isn't.

While I was working at a counselling center I took a call from someone who asked that exact question.

I prayed (really hard) for some guidance from the Holy Spirit and I received the answer. It worked then, and it worked when I gave it to my mother when she was so devastated by my sister's passing.

We all pray for healing by God when our loved ones are hurt or sick. Our prayers are always answered, but not always as we would have them answered.

What the Spirit led me to say addressed the prayers of those who remained behind.

When we pray for healing what better, more perfect, healing than to go to be with Jesus? God in His wisdom does what is right. Trust in the belief that you will meet your mom again in a far better place and she will be in her glorified, perfect, body and will never experience pain, sadness, illness again. She is now experiencing the full unbridled love of Christ and you can look forward to sharing that with her when the time comes.

My condolences and prayers to you and all your family. The pain will not soon go away, but it will get less. Concentrate on the positive things you and your mom had together.

May God grant you the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Fred

 

[heron]

Fred, you've had a rough year too. Sorry to hear. It's strange how deaths can cluster like that... I'd like to imagine there's a deep reason.

 

[VinceBlaze]

That's a nice reminder, even though it's probably jarring at the time. I used to jump up to call mine about new information, then feel silly that I'd forgotten... a little guilty. It just happens.

I suppose I will get used to it eventually. I won't have to tiptoe all quiet at night.

 

[VinceBlaze]

My heart, love and prayers go out to you. I lost my mom at 10 and my dad at 20.

That's very young to lose parents. But it must make you strong too, I guess.

 

[VinceBlaze]

When we pray for healing what better, more perfect, healing than to go to be with Jesus? God in His wisdom does what is right. Trust in the belief that you will meet your mom again in a far better place and she will be in her glorified, perfect, body and will never experience pain, sadness, illness again. She is now experiencing the full unbridled love of Christ and you can look forward to sharing that with her when the time comes.

Fred

I was hoping for my mom to get better with proper diet and treatments, but when I saw that they were too difficult for her to adhere too, I became even more concerned. It's like she didn't have the energy to fight the battle against death. When her health suddenly began to plummet (for it was at least stable when she was getting proper diet and treatment), I knew that there would be no healing to come.

 

[DonVA]

Good to see you back online, Vince. How are you?