Why are you still single?

[Paul 888]

I am single (29 years old)

Because i am incredibly picky courtesy of having 2 absolutely stunning long term ex-girlfriends, (6 years and 1 year) as such i have a very high standard when it comes to what i'll be physically attracted to, and also what i am attracted to on the inside...... this is frustrating but it is the way it is, and i will not accept anyone who doesn't measure up because well, i have had it before i just wouldn't be happy with anything less and it would not be fair to the girl for me to look at her and think "well you're lovely and all, but i wish i was with my ex-girlfriend who was better"..... see my dilema, i don't think i am a prick but if you've let something great go, then how do you go with something not so good????

Plus I don't advertise myself as a wealthy guy with a great job (which i do have) so a lot of girls probably don't consider me boyfriend material...... Plus i tend to treat girls in the Church different than in say bars/clubs, i know if i was a lot more flirty like i am in bars with girls in Church i'd probably meet a lot more but it just doesn't feel right, so instead i sit back and let all the show pony praise leaders etc do all the chatting up

To be brutally honest, i am probably not ready anyhow, since i have been lazy and disobedient on my walk so God is hardly going to bless me in this area, i just really want to be the best person i can be in the next 2-3 years so that when i hit 32 i can be really together and super-eligible so i can get a great quality girl because if i let God do His work on me, i will be a lot better than i am now so will be able to get a better girl..... that sounds horrible, but what i mean is like attracts like and if i am a self-centered, untrustworthy guy i'll get a self-centered untrustworthy girl and if i am a great super nice guy i'll get a great super nice girl...... i think you know what i mean

 

[Raanan]

To be brutally honest, i am probably not ready anyhow, since i have been lazy and disobedient on my walk so God is hardly going to bless me in this area,

That assumes you can manipulate God by being a "good boy." God isn't a dotard. God is God and he'll bless whomever he chooses because he's the creator. No more of this, I have to do something to earn God's blessing, bull.

 

[Raanan]

Anyway, I'm still single cause I'm only 20 and I haven't met anyone who has peaked my interest and reciprocated. Well, no one I'ld marry anyway.

 

[kiwichristian]

Anyway, I'm still single cause I'm only 20 and I haven't met anyone who has peaked my interest and reciprocated. Well, no one I'ld marry anyway.

Plenty of time to marry. You are only 20, (and Im only 23)

By the way, what do you mean by the word "dotard"?

 

[Lbiagm]

good point kc.

 

[Raanan]

Dotard - a person in his or her dotage

Dotage- a state or period of senile decay marked by decline of mental poise and alertness

I'm not sure where I picked it up from but I've prefered it to using "retard" ever since. It rolls off the lips better

Yeah, I know I'm young. I don't know about plenty of time though. How do we know we have the next moment from now let alone the next day/year/decade? It doesn't matter to me though. My pursuit is Jesus. If someone comes along who wants to share this grand adventure with me, kick ***! If not, well, no skin of my booty.

 

[Lbiagm]

ok raanan.

 

[R.James]

My reason:
I meet a fantastic girl when I was much younger who became the ruler by which I compare all others, and no-one has come close. I've been part of church youth groups and college clubs etc, (no more). No, I shall remain single until I find someone I won't be "settling" for, and I'd rather be a bachelor to the end of my days on earth than to marry the wrong person.

 

[Lbiagm]

neat rj.

 

[Raanan]

Good grief Lbiagm... lol you have the shortest posts on the boards I've seen so far.

 

[kiwichristian]

Haha raanan, Ive noticed that myself

 

[Něco hrubého oprýskaného 1]

I choose to remain childless and single. I date women...What am I supposed to do? Someone slides up next to me in church and says, "can I share your hymnal?" yada yada "wanna see a movie tonight?" Should I break a smoke capsule from my utility belt on the ground and disappear? No, I go out and socialize.

I let them know immediately that marriage is not an option for me. If that doesn't work, I frighten them away with my Czechoslovakian overtones. Both of us are glad for the experience. It's kind of absurd, but I have other, more pressing contradictions to deal with.

 

[strengthinweakness]

Still single at 32... what are the reasons? Well, there are many things that I could cite as reasons... I am shy, I have a physical disability, I am not able to drive, I have had difficulty in finding and keeping employment, and for many years, I suffered with depression, for various reasons. I'm a bit of a geek by some peoples' standards (theological conversations are my idea of a good time, hehe!), I am a passionate Reformed Christian (a Baptist with Calvinistic convictions), and I want a woman who is the same (or close to it), and such a woman can be hard to find. I am not great at making "small talk" with people, I love deep, soul-searching conversations in which I come away having been moved, challenged, or just changed in some positive way (and precious few people are up for such conversations), I have strong feelings about the decadence and moral carelessness of much modern culture (and too many Christian women that I know actually buy into such culture), and I have a quirky sense of humour (which many people either don't understand or don't appreciate). I am such an unusual combination of qualities, compared to most men that I know in my age group. Maybe I'm just too unusual? The confusing thing is, I know other Christian men who have every single one of the above characteristics, and yet they have found and married women who absolutely cherish them! I have had long-term relationships in the past, and I have definitely made some mistakes in those relationships. I have learned from them though, and I know other men who have made similar mistakes in their relationships, and their girlfriends forgave them... I just don't know. Maybe I am called to be single in life... but I definitely don't feel called to it. I guess I have to accept that if I am to find lasting companionship, it will be in God's time, which could be two months from now, or two decades. Oh, to have Paul's contentedness in all situations...

 

[findinghope06]

Honestly, i dont know why im single. God knows. there is a purpose for it and i know i will realize the reasons later in life. im in no hurry to have a relationship. dont get me wrong, i would love to be in one with a man of Faith and love but its just not my time yet.

there is a great quote from a book i really like...i forget which one but here it is. i think its really powerful.

"do you think you are called to singleness"...i believe it was an older woman (not old but older) that was asked that by a friend of hers. and she replies with:
"today i am"...now that is amazing.

 

[intricatic]

I'm only now single, I used to not be single. I blame society!

 

[Everglaze]

What about you? Why do you think you are still single? Has God been working on you? or is there some other reason.

God has already blessed with me with tons of things. I'm content and I'm not interested in relationships. There are two choices, either to stay single or get married...to me, it's a preference like choosing pen instead of a pencil. I'm happy where I am now, and I know I wouldn't be happy if I was married, but that's due to a long list of personal reasons.

 

[TriptychR]

It's a simple answer for me: not that many women have come into my life, and those that do are either 1) nothing I would find attractive or 2) too quick to give me the "nice guy/like a brother" treatment.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

I first think a person has to be open to being with someone, and if you are not then it will not happen.

I have been friends with this guy for almost 2 years, and we talk every so often about how great each other is and then it feels liek it is turning into something more and then next thing we are avoiding each other..

I do think my singleness is everything to do with me and my personal issues such as my self worth complex, my children getting hurt, and just being plain scared..

I do not think being 25 and not married is a huge sign on your forhead you are a loser, it just means you are not with someone. Gosh even at 28 I wish i was with someone but then wonder how much harder things would be..

 

[LadyBlue]

Good Question ... why am I single ... ?

I don't know ...

I think that God has been working on me ... because I know that I have learnt alot ... but at the same time, I think ~ maybe I am too fussy ...

 

[JPPT1974]

I haven't found Mr Right
Also because God is planning my present and future
He knows what He wants for me
And that I love being single
As well as independent and fancy free!!