why are you single ?

Steffenfield · Sep 15, 2010

lunalinda said:
I have no idea why I'm still single. But it sure is frustrating.

I suppose it's not--no, STILL not--my turn yet.

You're still single?

Are you serious?

Okay, that just makes me question everything in this world that is both good and evil.

James(<---- Begins to question all of humanity

lostaquarium · Sep 15, 2010

I'm still single because I have a host of psychological issues, which make me proud and arrogant at times, but intensely insecure at others, and my expectations for a spouse are high, but my ability to attract is somewhat limited.

If I was better looking or more charismatic, or if I had lower expectations, I probably wouldn't be single right now.

lostaquarium · Sep 15, 2010

On second thoughts, what I typed was a little bit harsh. Maybe the right guy hasn't come along yet.

peacechild4 · Sep 15, 2010

PinkSweetart said:
I think I'm single for a zillion reasons. Some of the reasons are, I think I'm very unatractive, and because I don't think I'm good enough for anybody. I'm also very shy at first... it drives me crazy especially because people usually judge me right way instead of taking the time to get to know me and waiting unill I'm comfortable enough to open up.

All that and also, I'm just plain weird!
And you know, I'd like to say I'm waiting on God to bring the right guy.

Aww I just saw your profile pic.. and you are very beautiful.. Shy is hard.. I have been that way most of my life.. but there are patient and kind people out there that love us shy people.. I am very sure you will find a great guy you loves everything about you!!

peacechild4 · Sep 15, 2010

lostaquarium said:
I'm still single because I have a host of psychological issues, which make me proud and arrogant at times, but intensely insecure at others, and my expectations for a spouse are high, but my ability to attract is somewhat limited.

If I was better looking or more charismatic, or if I had lower expectations, I probably wouldn't be single right now.

I think GOD made us each one differently for a reason.. and there is a counter part for us.. the other half of the match out there somewhere that GOD always planned for us.. so many do not wait for GOD but choose their own match.. hence many marriages and relationships fail..

You are made the way you are for a reason and I think having expectations is a good way to find that person..

Just be you.. and trust GOD with the rest..

Deacon · Sep 15, 2010

Steffenfield said:
You're still single?

Are you serious?

Okay, that just makes me question everything in this world that is both good and evil.

James(<---- Begins to question all of humanity

That's what I said James....

lostaquarium · Sep 15, 2010

peacechild4 said:
I think GOD made us each one differently for a reason.. and there is a counter part for us.. the other half of the match out there somewhere that GOD always planned for us.. so many do not wait for GOD but choose their own match.. hence many marriages and relationships fail..

You are made the way you are for a reason and I think having expectations is a good way to find that person..

Just be you.. and trust GOD with the rest..

Thank you I hope you're right.

sister4mercy · Sep 15, 2010

Im incapable of settling for someone that wont treat me right. I haven't met the right person. Also I asked God to match me up with the right person..and do whatever to harden my heart if i get involved with the wrong person. Just still waiting at this point.

Gym · Sep 15, 2010

I'm single because if I wasn't... those why are you still single? you seem like such a good person! questions wouldn't be effective against me

Reborn_in_Christ2003 · Sep 15, 2010

I was asked this by a girl I asked out last Dec who ended up turning me down. I stayed friends with her, but haven't really hung out with her for a while. My reply was, because you said no right before going out with that one loser who cheated on you like I said he would. Now, had you said yes to me, I wouldn't have cheated on you, and more than likey neither of us would be single right now. So wanna go get dinner...She still said no.

Gym said:
I'm single because if I wasn't... those why are you still single? you seem like such a good person! questions wouldn't be effective against me

toastface_grillah · Sep 15, 2010

crispfin said:
I don't think I'm single because I have high standards. I've only ever really liked a handful of people my whole life. It's just those that I've liked haven't liked me. Of course it doesn't help that when I do like someone I'm terrified to say anything about it.

Exact same thing here. Most times, I like a girl That Way maybe once every few years, and when I do, I'm usually afraid of jeopardizing the friendship and taking the risk (yes, I know you totally laid the smackdown about that in another thread, Ethie).
Other reasons: I don't have that uber-outgoing, life of the party personality that brings all the girls to my yard; and I'm not spiritually ready. I feel like I need to mature more and grow closer to Christ before I'm ready for a relationship.

Wren · Sep 15, 2010

I feel like I should give the proper answer of "haven't found the right guy, yet." But, regardless of the trueness of that statement, that's not what popped into my head when I read the OP. I'm feeling open and not like censoring myself, so here goes...

I'm screwed up. I think that when I was GreenHistorian and Historia, people probably thought I was this an intelligent, together, fantastic person. And I appreciate people thinking nicely of me, but I'm sure people are starting to get a much clearer idea of the real me. I've got issues. Yes, I know lots of people have issues and they seem to find someone, but my combination of issues seems to be a deterrent. Of course, I've also not met anyone locally that I've wanted to date in a very long time, but right now I feel like I'm man repellent.

ETA: It's 2 months later and I'm not feeling so much like the above anymore. Now I just feel that I'm single because I've yet to find a guy with a weirdness that is compatible to my own.

lostaquarium · Sep 15, 2010

Novella said:
I feel like I should give the proper answer of "haven't found the right guy, yet." But, regardless of the trueness of that statement, that's not what popped into my head when I read the OP. I'm feeling open and not like censoring myself, so here goes...

I'm screwed up. I think that when I was GreenHistorian and Historia, people probably thought I was this an intelligent, together, fantastic person. And I appreciate people thinking nicely of me, but I'm sure people are starting to get a much clearer idea of the real me. I've got issues. Yes, I know lots of people have issues and they seem to find someone, but my combination of issues seems to be a deterrent. Of course, I've also not met anyone locally that I've wanted to date in a very long time, but right now I feel like I'm man repellent.

Maybe you need to feel "proud" of your issues, because they make you the unique person you are today, rather than feel like they bring you down. I need to do that too.

Marycita · Sep 15, 2010

Part of it's that I'm so picky ...I really can't date just anyone. And I keep getting pickier ( I think that happens with every relationship or even crush I have - the next person I like is gonna have to be it - I can't get any pickier )

and the ones who I actually have liked, either it just didn't work out or they didn't pick me

but mostly because I'm waiting on God for it...and I guess there's still something I have to do or grow in before I find that one.

ceh85 · Sep 15, 2010

I think a big part of it is I was ill for 3 years and pretty much housebound so I didn't meet anyone new. I'm still recuperating so still not meeting many new people!! Another big part of it is I didn't realise what I really want and need in a relationship til quite recently so I'd pick the wrong people and things would go wrong. I do have high standards but I'm ok with that

Blank123 · Sep 15, 2010

yam said:
From my past threads , I notice that a lot of people here are not in a relationship or have never been in a relationship. Why do you think you are single? Is it because you are too picky ,you have high expectations, you are waiting on God time , you are not attractive, or outgoing, All the good ones are married .... why are you single ? LOL

strange. I thought I had posted.

I'm single for a number of reasons. I am picky about the kind of man I date. I dunno if I am very shy. I have my moments, but I'm also not very outgoing, and don't meet a lot of available Christian men in my circles. I am attractive I s'ppose, but attraction is subjective soooo yeah.

I figure that the man for me (assuming he exists) and I just aren't ready yet to meet eachother. One day it'll happen. I just hope its not years from now

penNpaper · Sep 15, 2010

little_tigress said:
strange. I thought I had posted.

I'm single for a number of reasons. I am picky about the kind of man I date. I dunno if I am very shy. I have my moments, but I'm also not very outgoing, and don't meet a lot of available Christian men in my circles. I am attractive I s'ppose, but attraction is subjective soooo yeah.

I figure that the man for me (assuming he exists) and I just aren't ready yet to meet eachother. One day it'll happen. I just hope its not years from now

Aw

Story:

Little Tigress walking down the side walk when a Godly hunk comes her way...

Then on that day...she fell in love...then they get married...and lived happily ever after

The End

God Bless,
Drew

Oddish · Sep 15, 2010

I wasn't really interested in dating at all really throughout my teens. I was on a completely different wavelength to other teenage girls. I didn't start wearing make up till I was about 15/16 years old. At school, I was very quiet especially in the first few years so didn't really talk to that many guys. Maybe I am a little stunted when it comes to the dating scene? I know that I couldn't admit my feelings for a guy unless I know for sure that he likes me back. Some guys have been so obvious about liking me yet I didn't trust it because I kept thinking "why would they like me?", and then when they actually tell me that they are interested I am in shock. lol.

Oddish · Sep 15, 2010

There is this one guy I liked at uni and I often wondered whether he liked me back. But he didn't say anything so it is likely that he doesn't see me in that way which is okay. God has plans for me and I will trust in Him.He is enough .

Ayersy · Sep 15, 2010

Also, because I'm kind of an ass.

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