Why are men okay with no commitment?

[Honoluluwindow]

I don't understand how anyone can be happy alone but so many guys are fine with sex only and that's all they seek. Why don't they need a real relationship like us women? Don't they get sick of hanging with men only?

I rarely have anything to talk about with other women and have little interest in friendships. All I care about is a romantic relationship with one person that I can grow really close to. How come guys don't need that level of connection?

Is there a way I can be just as heartless as men?

Satan uses men because they are more foolish than he

 

[Paul of Eugene OR]

I don't understand how anyone can be happy alone but so many guys are fine with sex only and that's all they seek. Why don't they need a real relationship like us women? Don't they get sick of hanging with men only?

I rarely have anything to talk about with other women and have little interest in friendships. All I care about is a romantic relationship with one person that I can grow really close to. How come guys don't need that level of connection?

Is there a way I can be just as heartless as men?

The male contribution to the next generation is potentially very small . . . it's possible to father a child in a one night stand. So from the evolutionary perspective, males can spread their genes by simply having lots of partners. So what if some of them lack the care a committed father would give?

So that explains how such instincts can survive over the generations.

On the other hand, a committed couple working together give their offspring an better chance. And if the species depends on brains to the point that they do better with an extended childhood of years of learning, that tips the advantage to spreading genes of those who stay together and work together.

So that explains how the alternative instincts can also survive over the generations.

And of course, God prefers one over the other, and that should matter to us all.

 

[Mountain_Girl406]

I think it's important to learn first how to be happy alone, in the sense of not needing a committed partner, before one can succeed in finding happiness inside a partnership.
That's what I've observed and experienced. I went through many happy years as a single person without worrying about marriage, and now am happy in a family of my own. The early years gave me the tools to manage keeping the family together in difficult times.

 

[redblue22]

Why are women okay without commitment?

 

[Angeleyes7715]

<<< this guy right here totally has mono..wait wat?

You must be of the millennial species such as myself -__-. Btw that's my favorite face, you'll see it alot.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Why are women okay without commitment?

Are you following my comments to bash my man bashing lol? Yes, I suppose it's generalizing, why do a fair amount of men not care about commitment? Is that better? *Eye-roll* And we ditch commitment to keep up with you turkeys who stopped carrying first .

 

[Angeleyes7715]

I suggest people like yourself need to make their relationship with God, number one. Unlike human beings, God is never disappointing. I wish I knew this years ago.

I mean he's not suppose to be, but like some others here I have the problem of nothing happening when I ask God for help in my situations or maybe I just don't notice when he's doing something or maybe he said no or maybe other Christians exaggerate about God helping them I haven't been able to figure out where I'm going wrong.

 

[JoeP222w]

The topic of this post is a really bad stereotype and really bad generalization.

 

[Dave-W]

this guy right here totally has mono..

They used to prescribe penicillin for that.

 

[Godlovesmetwo]

I have the problem of nothing happening when I ask God for help in my situations

I think you have to approach, it with, what is God asking from you. God will give us what we need , not what we want. And that may annoy some people because they treat Him like an ATM of endless requests. "oh and God can you please give me this and also can help me with that" instead of :what do you expect of me in this situation?"

 

[Mountain_Girl406]

Why are women okay without commitment?

Maybe for the reasons I mentioned above..it worked for me.

 

[SherahEphraim]

Because men enjoy the hunt. They see women as something to hunt and capture, and consume.
The reason they are happy with nothing but sex, is because that's what women let them have, far before they deserve it. Women have lowered the cost of sex, and it has hurt the security of women and children in society.

If women would refuse to give men sex outside of a real relationship within wedlock, it would do everyone good.

Men maybe most of all.

indeed, happy birthday btw!

 

[SherahEphraim]

I don't understand how anyone can be happy alone but so many guys are fine with sex only and that's all they seek. Why don't they need a real relationship like us women? Don't they get sick of hanging with men only?

I rarely have anything to talk about with other women and have little interest in friendships. All I care about is a romantic relationship with one person that I can grow really close to. How come guys don't need that level of connection?

Is there a way I can be just as heartless as men?

it's the way the world works, they convince people sex is natural and all they want. i know how you feel. men are driven differently but not all men are like that, it's just encouraged just like it's encouraged for women to give in and not wait. our bodies are a holy temple and we should honor them,it is hard in our society. a man who loves a women will love her soul,not her outer appearance. guys will say flattering things if they think they can get in bed with you. it is unfortunate. a lot of men when they are young will act this way,then later want a real relationship,but many will have ruined their reputation cause no women will want to be with them.. especially ones that have had tons of different kids with different people. as hard as it is, wait. wait for the right person,wait to have sex, trust in God above all. put him to be your first,and if someone cannot respect that,they aren't worth the time. i praise God for my best friend i'm dating now..he is very different then other guys,even guys who claimed to be christian. he too has to try though,especially from how his past was how people used him ,same with me.and he is aware of his own lust, we have to be careful not to tempt men either, to dress modestly and not entice them. our society encourages all these things,they are challenging us with sin in so many cases. stay strong.