Why are adventists so concerned with marrying other adventists?

[Castaway57]

thats the point bro, thats the point... while adventists may not say it out loud, people who are non-adventist are regarded as different, not having the full light etc. I even came along the expression philistines... philistine girls etc. that will draw you away from the truth...

Ahhhh John. You must be regarding us a "different" and "not having the full truth" or you would not have said such clamorous sentiments. But don't worry; we love you anyway.

Start Counting man! I want to see how high you can get!!
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[mmksparbud]

So I guess you are saying all Christians other than SDA's are unrighteous and unbelievers, but Adventists aren't. Is this attitude common among the members of your denomination?

Good grief---nobody said such a thing--there you go again, exagerating!!
Being unequaly yoked goes further than not marrying a non-believer. This statement, of course, was made to Christians not marrying pagans. But they didn't yet have 400 denominations! Marriage is hard enough between to Christians of the same faith, anything that will cause ripples in the pool is best not done. A catholic and an SDA are christians, but the views each hold will only add stress to the marriage. Marriage is supposed to be a little picture of the love that is between God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit and their love for us--a place of refuge, a place to come to at the end of a long hard day at work and enjoy each other--not argue over what the bible says. I've known Jews who married catholics--the marriages lasted, but there was much contension and the kids grow up confused. I really can't believe that you do not understand this, and tend to assume that you are just trying to create a little mayhem--Let's not!

 

[JohnMarsten]

Ahhhh John. You must be regarding us a "different" and "not having the full truth" or you would not have said such clamorous sentiments. But don't worry; we love you anyway.

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Thanks bro! THas was really uplifting...

No honestly, I was just referring to what I have experienced...

Regarding you as different? Well... Everyone on earth differs somehow from another person... thats what makes us unique...

Especially SDA parents are very concerned about their children marrying somebody from outside of the church... Correct me if that is not the case... so children are brought up this very special way...

Another aspect are the unique differences between SDAizm and some other churches (you may call them mainstream).

Just tell me btw, what was wrong with my post in the first place? Didnt if respond correctly to the thread?

 

[Stryder06]

Good grief---nobody said such a thing--there you go again, exagerating!!
Being unequaly yoked goes further than not marrying a non-believer. This statement, of course, was made to Christians not marrying pagans. But they didn't yet have 400 denominations! Marriage is hard enough between to Christians of the same faith, anything that will cause ripples in the pool is best not done. A catholic and an SDA are christians, but the views each hold will only add stress to the marriage. Marriage is supposed to be a little picture of the love that is between God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit and their love for us--a place of refuge, a place to come to at the end of a long hard day at work and enjoy each other--not argue over what the bible says. I've known Jews who married catholics--the marriages lasted, but there was much contension and the kids grow up confused. I really can't believe that you do not understand this, and tend to assume that you are just trying to create a little mayhem--Let's not!

 

[Castaway57]

Especially SDA parents are very concerned about their children marrying somebody from outside of the church... Correct me if that is not the case... so children are brought up this very special way...

"especially," and "very special" seem calculated to make us sound like we are different in this respect from others.

If you had a daughter, and she came home one day and told you she was marrying a guy from _______ church; I would love to be a fly on the wall and see the look on your face.

Yes, you may fill in the blank above.

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[ricker]

Good grief---nobody said such a thing--there you go again, exagerating!!
Being unequaly yoked goes further than not marrying a non-believer. This statement, of course, was made to Christians not marrying pagans. But they didn't yet have 400 denominations! Marriage is hard enough between to Christians of the same faith, anything that will cause ripples in the pool is best not done. A catholic and an SDA are christians, but the views each hold will only add stress to the marriage. Marriage is supposed to be a little picture of the love that is between God and Jesus and the Holy Spirit and their love for us--a place of refuge, a place to come to at the end of a long hard day at work and enjoy each other--not argue over what the bible says. I've known Jews who married catholics--the marriages lasted, but there was much contension and the kids grow up confused. I really can't believe that you do not understand this, and tend to assume that you are just trying to create a little mayhem--Let's not!

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

This quote was used to show that Adventists shouldn't marry non-adventists, thus my observation.

I'm a Lutheran and have never heard that we should only marry Lutherans. I have heard we should marry Christians. Just sayin'.

 

[Castaway57]

This quote was used to show that Adventists shouldn't marry non-adventists, thus my observation.

I'm a Lutheran and have never heard that we should only marry Lutherans. I have heard we should marry Christians. Just sayin'.

I had a Lutheran Minister tell me that you guys should only marry your own kind - it's a common sense practice, that a lot of different faith backgrounds would advocate. There is nothing wrong with doing it either. Unless one is just interested in taking pot shots at a given denomination.

Hmmm; maybe you should marry an Adventist? (if you are single, lol)

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[Stryder06]

I think the point being missed here is that harmony that is suppose to exist within the marriage union. If two individuals who are devout to their belief marry and their beliefs conflict, that will bring chaos to the home. One spouce believes one thing, and the other believes another. That can cause serious issues. It just makes sense to marry someone who believes what you believe.

 

[Castaway57]

I think the point being missed here is that harmony that is suppose to exist within the marriage union. If two individuals who are devout to their belief marry and their beliefs conflict, that will bring chaos to the home. One spouce believes one thing, and the other believes another. That can cause serious issues. It just makes sense to marry someone who believes what you believe.

You are totally correct on that.

 

[ricker]

=Castaway57;62144025]I had a Lutheran Minister tell me that you guys should only marry your own kind - it's a common sense practice, that a lot of different faith backgrounds would advocate. There is nothing wrong with doing it either. Unless one is just interested in taking pot shots at a given denomination.

Hmmm; maybe you should marry an Adventist? (if you are single, lol)

Must have been one of those LCMS or WELS pastors. In the USA the ELCA is by far the largest group and I can't imagine any of our pastors saying that.

I'm married to an agnostic, thank you. If she were an Adventist it would be a huge improvement.

 

[Castaway57]

If she were an Adventist it would be a huge improvement.

Are you sure about that?

 

[ricker]

Originally Posted by ricker

If she were an Adventist it would be a huge improvement.
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Are you sure about that?

Are you serious or are you just slamming me?

I consider Adventists to be fellow Christians and saved by grace through faith in Jesus. Obviously I wouldn't think the same thing about Agnostics.

 

[Castaway57]

Are you serious or are you just slamming me?

I consider Adventists to be fellow Christians and saved by grace through faith in Jesus. Obviously I wouldn't think the same thing about Agnostics.

Im sort of teasing you - but it actually could be a serious question in some cases. To explain; lets say I marry an Adventist, because I am one. It still might not be a good idea if she is not the right one - know what I mean?

 

[Stryder06]

Im sort of teasing you - but it actually could be a serious question in some cases. To explain; lets say I marry an Adventist, because I am one. It still might not be a good idea if she is not the right one - know what I mean?

 

[Contented]

Ok, I will explain it very simple in practicle terms. My wifes has a close friend who is also our neighbor, her husband passed away a couple of weeks ago and she suddenly is back in church. So I asked my wife about it and it turns out her husband was Catholic and had not allowed her to come to church, so all these years she suffered not being able to come unless it was a 'special' occasion such as wedding etc.. Can you imagine what a person goes through when they are not allow to fellowship and worship where they choose because of their spouse, think it through and choose wisely I always counsel..

and had not allowed her to come to church,

In a country where freedom is extolled...how could he. Did he place a gun to her head. If she believed that is was better to obey God rather than man she would be in church. Maybe she was AFRAID of him.

 

[amandatea]

and had not allowed her to come to church,

In a country where freedom is extolled...how could he. Did he place a gun to her head. If she believed that is was better to obey God rather than man she would be in church. Maybe she was AFRAID of him.

Sometimes we let ourselves be placed in a prison of other people's opinions. I'm sure that she probably felt that her husband would no longer love her if she went to church regularly. I have been through that with a past bf. Not that particular thing, but worrying about what he thought and letting him influence my decisions to a point.

 

[Contented]

Sometimes we let ourselves be placed in a prison of other people's opinions. I'm sure that she probably felt that her husband would no longer love her if she went to church regularly. I have been through that with a past bf. Not that particular thing, but worrying about what he thought and letting him influence my decisions to a point.

I learned a vital lesson from an elderly woman....She said: NEVER MARRY A MAN THAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF.

When we allow someone to influence us that way, we are pawns in their hands.
My ex "convinced" me to stop working and look after the children at home....he still eventually left his family. Every woman should be able to make a choice in life FOR HERSELF.

 

[Brisket]

It's a fact that Lucifer has taken full control of the other churches, Sister White couldn't have been any clearer when she said that. These apostate daughters of Babylon churn out members who go on to teach apostate doctrines like Sunday Sabbath, the dead don't die and that Jesus didn't come to us in sinful flesh. These types of things are not Christian at all, they are Babylon. The remenant must take wives and husbands out of the remnant. This may sound harsh but it's the way God has ordained it should be.

 

[Castaway57]

It's a fact that Lucifer has taken full control of the other churches, Sister White couldn't have been any clearer when she said that. These apostate daughters of Babylon churn out members who go on to teach apostate doctrines like Sunday Sabbath, the dead don't die and that Jesus didn't come to us in sinful flesh. These types of things are not Christian at all, they are Babylon. The remenant must take wives and husbands out of the remnant. This may sound harsh but it's the way God has ordained it should be.

You don't have to be an Adventist to be "saved" nor is one "saved" by believing correct doctrine. Sometimes "the remnant" has a lot of "I" trouble. That is the best way to close the door to heaven.

 

[amandatea]

I learned a vital lesson from an elderly woman....She said: NEVER MARRY A MAN THAT YOU ARE AFRAID OF.

When we allow someone to influence us that way, we are pawns in their hands.
My ex "convinced" me to stop working and look after the children at home....he still eventually left his family. Every woman should be able to make a choice in life FOR HERSELF.

On, I agree. Inn not saying it's good it's wise to let a guy control you like that. I was just explaining how a woman can be "not allowed" to do something. Some women, including me in the past, are easily manipulated.
As soon as I realized I was seeing controlling behavior in my boyfriend, I moved away from him, emotionally, and broke up with him. Example - we were arguing online one night and we had been arguing for a couple of days. I was emotionally and mentally drained , so I went into my room to pray, leaving my phone and computer out in another room. I fell asleep, due to being so exhausted. I woke up later in the night, around 4:30 to him walking in my door. He had called, texted me and sent messages relentlessly because he thought that I was just purposely ignoring him so he biked for 3 hours to get to my place to ask where I had been since 11:30. That really freaked me out, and I was no longer comfortable around him.