Who should do the asking

[enslow]

If a woman has to ask a man to marry her, doesn't that say something about the leadership she can expect from him?

 

[Risen Tree]

I think it simply means that

(1) she wants to be married, obviously, and
(2) she is outspoken and says what she wants.

Remember, leadership comes in many forms, including servant leadership.

 

[enslow]

I think it simply means that

(1) she wants to be married, obviously, and
(2) she is outspoken and says what she wants.

Remember, leadership comes in many forms, including servant leadership.

It can also mean he's not strong enough to take the lead where it's required. I'm sure the day will come when my girlfriend will expect me to propose. If I were too wimpy to do so, I think she'd be very disappointed.
Enslow

 

[Hewitt]

I think it simply means that

(1) she wants to be married, obviously, and
(2) she is outspoken and says what she wants.

Remember, leadership comes in many forms, including servant leadership.

Yes, leadership comes in many forms but that doesn't always make them right. From the beginning in the book of Genesis, Adam was placed in charge because that is how God designed it. This isn't a matter of whether the woman is capable or not, but God assigned the roles and it's not our place to argue.

 

[beetlequeendiva]

I think the men should do the asking - it's nicer in my opinion.

 

[Risen Tree]

Yes, leadership comes in many forms but that doesn't always make them right. From the beginning in the book of Genesis, Adam was placed in charge because that is how God designed it. This isn't a matter of whether the woman is capable or not, but God assigned the roles and it's not our place to argue.

Try not to think of it as an issue of arguing. Rather, it's a matter of discerning perceptions from reality.

 

[Multi-Elis]

My test on how interested and how serious a man is, is whether he asks me out and/or marry. If he's too shy to do it, to bad for him, and to bad for me, because for me that means he doesn't want me enough, and that he doesn't feel comfortable around me enough to speak his mind. It also allows me to know, as others have said, what the relationship will be like.
And when I say "the man asks out" I don't mean asking someone to ask me, because that happened to me too.
But whatever the Bible says, what I stated above, is for me pure logic. (I don't know what the bible says. Didn't Ruth sort of lead Boaz to proposing to her? She did most of the initiating except for the final question, but she was lucky, because Boaz liked her from the start.)

 

[Risen Tree]

Good memory, Multi. Boaz may have followed through and carried out the procedure, but it was Ruth's idea to be married to him.

 

[the_man]

And when I say "the man asks out" I don't mean asking someone to ask me, because that happened to me too.

Hahaha That's funny. He wouldn't be much of a man if he did that now would he.

 

[Buttermilk]

Either or, depends on situation, personality etc

 

[Kaylynn]

I'm pretty traditional, I want the guy asking...and if we're talking about marriage, I not only want the guy asking, but I want him to get my parents blessing first.

 

[stubbornkelly]

I'm a woman, and I say "either." I don't think a man "should" always do the asking, nor do I think a woman "should" always do the asking. They are each at liberty to ask. In other words, I couldn't answer the poll.

When it comes to marriage, I don't need a traditional proposal, nor do I want one. I much prefer coming to a decision together over one person popping it on the other.

 

[stray bullet]

That's why. God told man to govern over women. That doesn't mean men are better, but it's our role to initiate and lead in the relationship.

Call me silly, but I wanna be equal, completely. Maybe it's because I see the story of Adam and Eve being about a rib symbolizing the bond between men and women, we are both from the same source. Women aren't just another beast of the Earth (created completely seperate like the other animals) for man to rule over.