I have recently filed for divorce and now am torn in two, between moving close to my brother or Father. You see my brother needs support at times due to his wife being unstable at times and I need to be there for him and his two daughters, but on the other hand my mom can be mean towards my Father and he needs someone to be there emotionally and psychologically for him too. You see my Parents and my brother live 300 miles from each other and I don't know which way to go!
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You see my father is wanting to institutionalize my mother and he needs my help. We are going to tell my mother were taking her to disneyland, but really take her to the hospital. My father will need lots of support, and I don't know for how long. But on the other hand my nieces are growing so quickly that I'm afraid I will not get to see them much if I move by my father, and I want to be near them also.Violet said:
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As I am writing this, I am wondering if I should even bother myself to respond. I am with Violet on this one. Flip a coin. Other than that, all I can say is that God deals with those who don't honor their mothers and fathers.
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:oIHMFIL said:Thanks Jenna! This is what it boil down to with divorcing my husband due to the issue of, honor thy parents. I am still very sad because I want to be near my nieces also!
You should honor GOD before any human. God's law says to put your husband before others. Divorcing due to letting family members get involved is not biblical.
Somehow.. after reading 1 other thread you posted in, and the responces here, I don't you'll grasp that.
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IHMFIL said:
You (and everyone for that matter) will never get 'purpose' from another human being. Read and apply the book "The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren. Our 'purpose' was created and designed by God and for God.
Maybe God has a bigger plan (that is usually the case) for your parents than for you to solve this problem. Let Him do His work and as far as feeling led to post for advise, no part of me thinks that God wanted you to file for divorce to be near your parents. Really listen to what God is telling you and what you or the enemy are trying to convince your self you hear. Get into your bible and remind yourself what it means to fall under the leadership of your husband. If his (your husband's) direction is wrong he will be accountable to God for it. If you go against your husband's leading you will be held accountable for that and also again what if God has other plans that will glorify Him in a way never imaginable with your parents?
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My husband stopped living out Gods will and his attitude and outlook is so negatvive especially after he developed rheumatoid arthritis. My husband just won't forgive my family for things they have done or said and he is just stuck in resentment and he won't listen to me when I tell him to just forgive them. And my Father is getting old and I know he won't be around for to many more years so I don't want to miss out on what my family has to offer me. And I just feel I can do Gods will better without my husband holding me back.
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What people have a hard time understanding is how great it is to come from a big family. I am one of ten children and there is nothing more wonderful to me when we are all together. Unless you come from a family that enjoys each other like we do everything else falls short of the mark. My husband can't comprehend this either because he is not from a big family and he is not close to his siblings. I do have a sister who never married and moved far away from any of us and she is the proof in the pudding to me because she is absolutely miserable and all she would have to do is move back near one of us and find the incredible joy once again of being part of our family. There is nothing I enjoy more than being around my nieces and nephews. I know my family does not open up to outsiders well but my husband just can't accept that reality and that it is not about him, it is that way towards all outsiders.rainyday said:
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I'm one of 9 ... I understand the family thing. I'll be moving home soon to help my father who's on chemo and pending my divorce I need this for my daughter to establish a relationship with him.
So ... again, what do YOU need more? Weigh and balance the needs for you versus each situation. You cannot be in two places at the same time ... so decide which will also benefit your personal individual recovery more. That is how I'd determine between any of my family members.
So ... again, what do YOU need more? Weigh and balance the needs for you versus each situation. You cannot be in two places at the same time ... so decide which will also benefit your personal individual recovery more. That is how I'd determine between any of my family members.
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Remember this on the day of Judgement...look the Lord straight in the face after His son died an excruciating death on the Cross and say, "Lord the covenant I made between you, myself and my husband, was just enough for me. I needed my family and did the right thing."
Remember Christ cried out to his Father and said, If there be any other way...
He didn't want to die this way but He was obedient to His Father, Our Father and died so we could have life.
At that point do you think it will really matter if YOU think you are right. God knows the truth and I think deep down we do to, we just convice ourselves otherwise.
We are to fear the Lord...do you have that fear?
Remember Christ cried out to his Father and said, If there be any other way...
He didn't want to die this way but He was obedient to His Father, Our Father and died so we could have life.
At that point do you think it will really matter if YOU think you are right. God knows the truth and I think deep down we do to, we just convice ourselves otherwise.
We are to fear the Lord...do you have that fear?
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rainyday said:
Not trying to pass judgement...not trying to make anyone feel guilty...we just have to stop thinking of ourselves...I have said my peace. (Yes shout for joy and elation)
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