Where did you meet your spouse?

[anewday]

I met my husband in a local post college Christian singles group, although neither of us were really looking hard for someone at the time.

 

[LinkH]

People who marry in their culture are more happy in the marriage then people that marry someone from a different background. Only the more different you are genetically the more healthy the kids will be.

Is there evidence that people from different backgrounds tend to be less happy?

My wife is from Indonesia and I am from the US. We are from a similar church background, but her culture is different from mine in a number of ways. I don't think that makes me any less happy. Plenty of people in cross-cultural marriages are happy. My wife and I share a lot of beliefs and values. I think it's easier to get along with someone who shares the same beliefs and values but various other aspects of culture are different than someone from the same cultural background who has different values.

 

[joshua 1 9]

My wife and I share a lot of beliefs and values. I think it's easier to get along with someone who shares the same beliefs and values

Yes that is what I was saying, it is easier to get along when you share beliefs and values.

 

[Navari]

I seem to be having a hard time finding many single Christian girls in my age group. Where did you meet your spouse? Where should I be looking?

Bible study.

 

[LRose613]

We met at work. I was actually engaged to another man at the time. But when I first saw DH I had such strong feelings for him that I knew I had to call off my engagement because no one should get married if they can view another the way I viewed him. I don't see other men anymore. It's like they all fell away. He's the only one I see. We didn't start dating for about 6 months because he didn't want to be my rebound. We got engaged less than a year in, married less than a month after our 3 year anniversary. We're still newlyweds. Today is actually our two month!i couldn't be happier with who God led me a to.

 

[OceanPoet87]

My wife and I were working at Cannon Beach Christian Conference Center on the Oregon coast as summer staff in the summer of 2012. I didn't know her until she slipped a friendly birthday card in my mailbox (listed by alphabet letter). I wrote her a thank you note in reply. This surprised her and we decided to be pen pals every day for the rest of that summer. We never really hung out until the end of summer, but we would always ask each other questions or create games such as connect the dots or word searches. We became good friends after summer, but she went off to Job Corps (fortunately only 40 mins away, though I took the bus and cabs for two hours to visit). One visit, I gently took her hand as we crossed the street in Astoria and the rest was history. Fast forward another summer and year and we were married April 12th of 2014. I love her a lot!

Christian conference centers are places to meet others, but neither of us were actively seeking a spouse. We were called there by God and without knowing it, met our wife/husband there. We were not the only ones and many of the salaried staff have similar stories too. There is also a bible school onsite and MANY parings happen there too.

 

[Curtis Fleming]

I met my wife in my denominational church in her country - Peru. I'm from Australia and travelled for holiday and found a wife. I looked for many years for the right woman and found it also difficult to find a good decent Christian lady who was single or interested.
I advise lots of prayer, more than we think we need and to just be yourself and put yourself out there and meet other young people in social groups. Try not to look needy or desperate, but make yourself available and helpful to others and always be friendly. Don't forget to shave and take care of yourself and to dress good. Girls LOVE a guy who takes care of himself.

All the best and God bless,
Curtis Fleming

 

[ChristGrl]

I met my husband at my church at a singles bible study and he continued to come and at my put-up-Christmas tree party cause i hurt my shoulder in Kuk sool won ( korean martial arts) i couldn't lift my arm over my head so i gathered my friends and have a put up Christmas tree party thing and he asked me out and it was history from there! I would say a Church group or a single group that meets up and does things. There is also single cruises too.

 

[joshua 1 9]

Is there evidence that people from different backgrounds tend to be less happy?

thoughtcatalog.com
Interracial marriages have a 41 percent chance of swirling out of control. Compare this to a 31 percent chance of divorce among same-race couples.

 

[meyerjd]

My wife and I are high school sweethearts. We married after finishing college. We have really grown up together. That said I don't think either one of us would choose this same path if presented with the option of doing it all over again. We've been married over 17 years and the distance between us grows each year.

 

[LinkH]

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thoughtcatalog.com
Interracial marriages have a 41 percent chance of swirling out of control. Compare this to a 31 percent chance of divorce among same-race couples.

Interesting. I wonder what the breakdown of what constitutes an 'interracial marriage' is.

I read a post on a forum from an American who'd married a Filippina. He said that some people said Filippinas who married men from abroad wanted a greencard and would divorce the man and take his stuff--that they are scammers. But he said 25% of such marriages end in divorce, and about half of marriages with American women end in divorce. Then he asked who the real scammers were.

My wife is Indonesian, and I would be curious to know the percentages of interracial marriages between Amercians and individuals from abroad as opposed to 'domestic' interracial marriages. But I do not know if they collect these statistics.

Being from differen races and cultures could add more stress and there could be some issues related to social acceptance. But I would imagine if the husband or wife were from a culture where divorce was not easy and socially accepted as it is in the US, that the divorce rates for such couples might be lower.

 

[OK Jeff]

I knew her in school. She was three grades ahead of me so she doesn't remember me at all. Years later she worked at a place I did farm business. She also clerked for an auctioneer. She called me one day concerning business and asked if I'd be at the auction on Saturday. I had no such intentions but was suddenly interested. I went, we met up, chatted a good while, I asked her out, the rest is history. Funny thing was, I had a smooth talking rap with the ladies. But with her I was shy, awkward, tongue tied, quiet. I just couldn't get my "game" on. Basically I was myself. For some reason she liked what she saw.
Disclaimer....we weren't Christians at the time.

 

[PeachieKeen]

I met my husband at work

 

[mama2one]

at work, also

 

[Dave-W]

Interesting. I wonder what the breakdown of what constitutes an 'interracial marriage' is.

I guess it would depend at least in part as to how you define "race."

 

[Saricharity]

My youth group at church and he also went to the same high school.