When u can't sleep

[looksgood]

Never in my life have I loved someone so much. I finaly understand why God makes the 2 into 1. Because a person becomes soo much a part of you! This has happend 2 times to me now. I can't seem to sleep when I don't get a chance to tell my gf goodnight and that I love her. Anyone else ever had this problem? It's like I am not all there and it really messes me up for the next day. Like right now, I havent had much sleep. I tried to take some naps but couldnt cause I kept waiting for her to come online so we could talk. I think it is funny how someone could effect me so much.

And my reason for the post is..."Just to post about how much I love her" hehe

 

[Pope Gonzo]

...again

 

[looksgood]

...again

LOL, sorry, I just thought it would be good to have a thread for people to post in when they are missing the one they love. It is kinda like leting off steam except it is a good steam.

 

[goat37]

I know how it feels when you really miss that person, and all you can really think about is when you are going to see to them again. But one thing that finally dawned on me, that made me much more comfortable... is that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Once we were forced to spend some time apart, and not talk to each other all the time... it made me realize even more how much I do care about her, and it makes the time that we do spend together, that much more special.

For instance... my love is off as a coordinator for a Christian Camp for kids this summer, and so there are many days where we don't get to speak at all... but when she gets a chance, she calls me out of the blue and completely surprises me and it brightens my day up SO much. I could be having a great day as it is, and she does that and it makes things even better... and she has even turned completely miserable days into gold...
If you spend every moment you have with that one person, you tend to start taking that time for granted and not appreciating what God has blessed you with.

While I miss her while she is gone... I am happy to be missing her, because as I said... absence really does make the heart grow fonder.

 

[Daniel_Standish]

I know how you feel. I have felt that way too. Everynight around 11:00 my girlfriend calls me. We both climb in our own beds and whisper to each other over the phone about how much we love each other. If I do not get to talk to her...I feel like I am empty...like I am missing something. I know how it feels. In time the feeling will go away. Keep her in your thoughts and prayers...but let her rest in God's hands...dont loose too much sleep over her...its not healthy for you!

 

[refusethemark]

My bf and I talk for an hour each night (except when one of us is out doing something) cause I have freetime on my phone. Anyway last week I decided to write him a letter. Yes, an actual real snail mail letter. Handwritten and everything. Well after I sent it I realised it wouldn't get there until Monday cause I sent it on Thursday. So from Thursday to Monday, I had to try so hard not to give him hints on the phone that he was getting a letter. Cause I usually can't hold surprises in and give hints and stuff. Anyway I managed and it was so worth it because all weekend and all today (Monday) I kept grinning to myself about what he would say on the phone tonight after recieving the letter. It WAS a surprise and made him all grinny and happy. And I just think that is one of the ways I cope... knowing that because I'm far away, I can send surprises like that that make him happy.

Also, I have pictures of him on the side of my bedside table and if I can't sleep I just look at them and think about us and all the great times we've had when we are together and go to sleep with a big happy smile on my face.

 

[SirKenin]

looksgood: This might sound a little strange to you, but from the sound of your post, it doesn't sound so much like love as it does dependency. There's not enough facts to establish if it's actual codependency or not. Either of these and infatuation mixed together make a brutal combination.

I love my g/f very much, more than myself, but I'm not dependent on her or her calling me in order for me to function normally, such as getting proper sleep. That is a psychological problem that you're hinting at.

I'm really glad that you are happy, and don't want to minimalize that point or anything. However, unless I really missed the mark, you might want to address it. It is a problem, believe it or not.

 

[Living4Him03]

at least you have someone to miss that misses you too! Thank God for blessing you with such wonderful relationships.

 

[Rorschach]

Yeah I know how you feel! Me and my g/f will stay on the phone and talk into the night and we usually sleep on the phone together (as silly as that may sound to some of you, its really cool) Then I'll wake up and we somehow get disconnected through the night and I instantly feel sad and call her back as soon as I can so we could fall back asleep together!

The times that I can't talk to her, I just miss her to death!

 

[BahBahBritty86]

[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]! I get so sad when I can't talk to my boyfriend before I go to bed! We've got a LDR so sometimes we sleep on the phone with each other, just cuz sleeping (and JUST sleeping ...nothing DIRTY) can be a very intimate thing...so being able to sleep with him on the phone is kind of a way to bring us closer to each other! I know...it sound silly! But it's just sooo nice to be able to wake up in the middle of the night after a bad dream and have him RIGHT there to comfort me...just like "regular" non-LDR couples can do! When I'm not able to sleep on the phone with him I just feel kind of sad and I have a hard time sleeping!

 

[KristianJ]

I'm a bit puzzled by this sleeping on the phone thingy...how much of your phone bill does it eat into? I usually just send my g/f an email or pm if she's not online before I go to bed, hoping she has a great day and just expressing how much I appreciate our relationship. Sure I miss her a heap when we can't spend time together and just talk about things, but it just makes me more intent on making the most of the next opportunity we have.

 

[BahBahBritty86]

I'm a bit puzzled by this sleeping on the phone thingy...how much of your phone bill does it eat into? I usually just send my g/f an email or pm if she's not online before I go to bed, hoping she has a great day and just expressing how much I appreciate our relationship. Sure I miss her a heap when we can't spend time together and just talk about things, but it just makes me more intent on making the most of the next opportunity we have.

Good question...lol!! My boyfriend and I both have "unlimited" minuted at night (well I do 24/7, and he has unlimited nights and weekends) so it all works out!

 

[looksgood]

Good question...lol!! My boyfriend and I both have "unlimited" minuted at night (well I do 24/7, and he has unlimited nights and weekends) so it all works out!

NOW I AM CERTAIN I NEED A CELL WITH THAT PLAN!!! I would LOVE to go to sleep on the phone with her!

 

[BahBahBritty86]

You mean you don't have that sort of phone plan?! Wow...I guess I just assumed that nearly all phone plans gave you X-amount of daytime minutes and then after a certain time (ex: 9PM-6AM) you have free/unlimited minutes and long distance! Yeah...you should definitely look into one of those plans!

 

[Rorschach]

Yeah you definitly should get a phone plan like that, its awesome to be able to sleep on the phone with Brittany! It makes me feel closer to her

 

[Fatolia]

drfeelgood is correct. Please be careful about the phone thing. This sort of behavior can sever you from reality if you don't watch it. It's happened to me before, and I just got burned. Protect your heart.

Something I had to accept a while back is to only use the phone for brief exchanges, such as for planning dates or catching up on non-emotional issues. Remote romance stuff doesn't work very well for me; I suppose it is tough for everyone to a degree.

 

[looksgood]

Oh wow, everyone is right lol. I just spent a few hours on the phone just listening to her while she got sleepy and was falling asleep. That was one of the best expiriances of my life.

 

[BahBahBritty86]

Oh wow, everyone is right lol. I just spent a few hours on the phone just listening to her while she got sleepy and was falling asleep. That was one of the best expiriances of my life.

I told you!!! It is a very deep and intimate thing! Well...for me at least! I remember whenever I would talk to my ex I would fall asleep and he would hang up right away! So then when Steve and I started dating...I remember I fell asleep on the phone (not on purpose...just really tired) and I woke up at like 4 in the morning and he was STILL there! To most people it might sound "weird" or "stupid," but to me it meant so much! I mean...I'm weird about people being around me when I sleep (or at least I WAS), and at first when I woke up I started freaking out (lol...just ask him) cuz I was like "[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]! What if I said something stupid in my sleep...what if I snored!?" lol! But then I sat back and thought about it and I realized that it was kind of a "symbolic" thing to show me that he will ALWAYS be there for me! (i.e. when I have problems, etc)...and that made me feel sooo good! It was after that night, and watching the sun come up with him on the phone, that I realized exactly how much I liked Steve! And that "like" soon turned into love and I couldn't be happier!!! It also helped us both to be more comfortable with each other! I mean...you have to admit that in "non-LDRs" after you've slept next to what person (or whatnot) you feel really close to that person! I dunno...there's something very "magical" and intimate about sleeping if you ask me!

 

[looksgood]

All I know is that she sounds sooo cute when she is yawning lol.

 

[Living4Him03]

young love *sigh*