When it doesn't work out

[Seraphim19]

I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend for about 4.5 months now. We were together almost three years and its a really hard thing. I spent that entire time, even in the last year when everything was falling apart and I knew, thinking I would never exist without this person in my life. It really sucks losing someone you invested so much time in. I broke up with her, and even now when I see her something inside really hurts. I've realized how much I have needed to grow as a person and how that wasn't possible when I was with her. Sexual temptation was constant, and every time we messed up I felt like my relationship with God took another step back. It's only been recent that I'm finally getting back on track with God and it feels wonderful. My passion and fierceness as a man is coming back and I didn't even realize how much it had been sapped by being with her. So why am I feeling blue? I don't know. I am where I need to be right now. God is sovereign and perhaps showed me how much we needed to be apart so I could get back on track.

Anyone have similar stories or a break up he/she wanted to share?

 

[The Nihilist]

I had that kind of break up last year. It sucks pretty bad, and different people have different ways of dealing with it, but it takes time. You'll be ok.

 

[dmhforJesus]

Yes I think we have all been here before - some more recently than others. Believe me when I say no one is worth your soul and if you are in a relationship that is not honoring God then get out of it. You are blue because obviously if you were with her 4.5 years then you had deep feelings for her and those don't just go away. But time will heal the wounds. Keep walking close to God and drawing yourself closer and closer. Sometimes satan uses innocent by standers to draw us away from God without them or us ever realizing that its happening. Hang in there......

 

[eatenbylocusts]

4.5 months isn't that long when you're trying to get over a serious relationship.
I just told my "un-bf" on Sunday that I had to move on. Things changed when he became a full time dad. He had said I was the one, but he's been saying for a while that he doesn't know when or if he will marry now. Unfortunately he had also decided that there wasn't a reason to hold off on sex since he might not get married and he couldn't imagine doing without.
I feel that God really answered my prayer for direction and peace with my decision and was just about dragged up to the altar on Sunday when the pastor announced that some people needed to make a decision today.

I want my kids to experience a Christian father-figure before they're all grown up so I can't afford to wait around for a maybe. But, still I miss him even though I think God made it clear it needed to be done. He was taking me for granted and I was feeling some resentment towards him. I'm sure part of it was that he was tired with his new responsibilities and extra driving, but he could've been doing a bit more. I didn't need the temptation and it sounds like he's going to work on his relationship with God.

I miss the phone calls.

 

[Holy Warrior]

Seraphim, that sounds scarily familiar.

I was in a relationship with a girl for almost 3 years too. It came to the point when it was clear I had to make a choice between my love for this girl and my faith in God. I kinda went off the rails a bit afterwards, and became rather depressed, which messed up my academic progress no end.

Thanks to God's faithfulness, I got back on track and, a few months ago, I met this most amazing girl at church. I'm pretty sure she's the one.

What I'm trying to say is, yeah, it's hard, but God is good. You'll find your perfect mate in His time!

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I had a bad breakup but we weren't together for as long as you and the other girl were. It was tough to get over, but I did, and it made me stronger, and prepared me for the real deal - the marriage that I am enjoying now!

 

[Manda_24]

I just went through a breakup a couple of months ago and I'm just now slowly getting over it. It's not easy, especially if you were with the person for a long time. It still hurts when I see him, it's summer now and we're two hours apart instead of a block apart so that helps a little. I don't really have anything helpful to say since I'm in pretty much the same boat you are. Just look back on the relationship and learn from it, learn what was good and what wasn't so you know what to do or what not to do next time. For me, while it hurts so much now I wouldn't change anything, I truly loved him.

 

[allthatisgone]

good for you. i think everyone should break up.