when is it the right time to date?

[andrea_andrea]

hello people!

&nbsp;my mom says iim to "young" to date because i dont understand how hard a realationship can be <IMG alt="" src="http://www.christianforums.com/forums/images/smilies/confused.gif" border=0> BUT she trust me fully and etc.... so wut is the age to date??

Bye and God Bless!

-Andrea

 

[Gerry]

There is never a right age. People should not date at all. Marriages should me arranged by a matchmaker, or parents.

 

[Susan]

Let me say that I'm 18 and have never dated yet. Not really planning to either, at least with the young men whom I have seen around my church: almost all act too immature, more like 4 or 5 than anywhere close to my age.
Of those around my church who actually showed some interest in a nerd like me, one is girl-crazy, another is so immature it makes me want to scream, and the other is mentally retarded. I'm sorry, but I don't want to be divorced 10 years later or considered a "mommy" to a childish husband.

 

[mld3three]

Dating is something that is very serious, yet is not taken that way. The only reason to date is if you are planing to marry that person and you already know that person well. Dating for any other reason is a waste, because with every person you date you give away a little more of yourself that could have been saved for your future husband. Trust me on this, I have been there.

 

[andrea_andrea]

marrage should NEVER BE AGGAED BY PARENTS! we have to find our OWN SOULMATE!!!!!!!!!! Our parents choosing who we should love? thats well just RONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we were put here to feel emotions and one of them is love... our parents cant control that... there not the kid they can't control the child's feeling any attepmt isnt righ ITS NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[forjesus]

My daughters can't date until there at least 35, LOL, I think your parents should set the rules of dating, remember to honor your father and mother, respect their wishes. Don't rush into anything, and trust the Lord with all your heart. God Bless

 

[andrea_andrea]

lol my mom said im too young... its like hey u said when u approve of the guy i can date... its soooooo confusing!!! im not trying to rush into ne thing but its like... its hard to explain

Thanks and God Bless!
-Andrea

 

[Gerry]

Originally posted by andrea_andrea
lol my mom said im too young... its like hey u said when u approve of the guy i can date... its soooooo confusing!!! im not trying to rush into ne thing but its like... its hard to explain

Thanks and God Bless!

-Andrea

May be hard to explain, but it is easy to understand for those of us who have been there. I hope all your dreams come true and very soon!

 

[rookie]

Andrea, I'm going to speak as a mom here. Sorry. I have a 14 yr old daughter. and I think she is too young too date. I have even told her so. I let her have a boyfriend last year and she dumped him 2 weeks later. Why? Because he wanted to talk to her on the phone all the time. She didn't understand that he liked her, that's why he was always calling. So that told me she was too young. I knew better.

I won't let her date until se's 16. And even then it may be too youngs. I also have a 20 yr old daughter who is getting married this year. And personally, I think she is still too young. I was 19 when I married, and I was too young, I was divorced 9 years later. Take your time, enjoy life, enjoy yourself and enjoy your relationship with Christ. And for now, trust your mom.

rookie

 

[Sharky]

I haven't dated yet, I don't know how to date and i don't want to date. I'm 18, act like a strange kid who has strange fits in mid talks and basically creative enough to build a full truck out of pencil shavings. That last bit was a figure of speech . Now, i'd like to see someone come after me! . Heh heh.

Well you'll have better luck than i do. Hope you find that perfect person! Let God help you out, He's probably got someone very interesting for you .

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Heh, arranged marriages. You know, I don't go for the arranged marriage by parents thing. But! The divorce rate is 50 percent. That's pretty sorry folks. Arranged marriages surely would not do any worse than what we've got already. So I'm not saying we should or shouldn't. Not trying to start an argument, just saying that the divorce rate is so bad that arranged marriages probably would do no worse.

 

[GraftMeIn]

While dating looks like fun, and society and friends tell us it's the thing to do, we need to look more to God for the answers to this one. God wants us to place him first in our life, If we start seeking him less, so we can find that other person who we think is going make our life complete, we then risk falling away from him, and he is what makes our life complete.

andrea there's something I think is very important to think about as far as finding another person to share your life with, especially at a young age. It opens you up to heart ache, and adds more complications to your life. Most likely everyone you meet in school, or at a young age, are not going to be in your life when you get older. everyone will eventually go off in different directions. there's still college in the future, and jobs, even your best friend will most likey move off to another town and you may even do the same.

Also remember the Bible tells us to honor our parents, they want what's best for you, and since they've been young at one time in their life, they speak from experience.

 

[andrea_andrea]

thats true GraftMeIn, i do honour them... but its so fusterating befause im talking to guy friends and my family freaks out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there just friends and there like dont have sex and etc.... BUT i talk to this one guy the most and hes gay!!!!! and they know hes my best friend i dont date best friends or ne guy friends... just wish they would undertsand that im 15 =not 5 and that i know what they have benn telling e for years is still in my brain andi dont entend to have sex before im married... i know that ts wong i jusy wisht they would know that im still a virgin! and that i DO NOT do sexual favours.. there just worried and its just sooooo fustating @ times.

Bye and God Bless!
-Andrea

 

[toad_ster]

first off, dont want to get into a debate...about the divorce rate. And I am not making any excuses, yes 50% is high. But that number does count people that have been divorced like more than once. There are some people that have been divorced 2 or 3 times...so that number is a little misleading. But even with that factor playing into affect it is still pretty high (I forgot the actual number).
and just restating what everyone else has stated already:

a) honor your parents, even though you may not understand why they are doing this to you, chances are they have problem been down the same road before. The reason for them making the rules is that they care for you, and are watching out for you, protecting you (even though you may not even see it).

b) The only reason you should be dating someone, In my humble opinon, is if you are interested some time down the road to marry that person. Otherwise you will be setting up yourself for emotional heartache.

c) I cant htink right now...im like tired, but I am not. anyway. I will be praying for ya

 

[DaveKerwin]

Andrea,

you are too young, just accept that and chill out!

show your parents that you can be mature, and let them see that and grant you the right to date. if you seem too wild to them, then guess what, they don't want you sitting in the basement with some young guy. whether or not they are old fashioned, they know whats up, and they remember being young. so sit back and relax, you have better things to worry about than boys!

saying a quick prayer for you, since this that is what this forum is for.

 

[GraftMeIn]

Andrea I know what you're saying about guys just being nothing more than friends, even my parents to this day still think there was something more to friendships that I had when I was young, even though there never was. It seems kind of silly at times, lol!

You're right it can get frustrating, and your parents only want to protect you. hang in there, and be patient. Place it all in Gods hands, He will cause everything to fall into place, when the time is right.

 

[andrea_andrea]

u guys r rite but if we dont date how r we going to find the person that we are ment to be with"? one question.......... my cusion r married and they met when they were 15 and dated when they were almost 16... so r u ppl saying that we cant date untill were thinking of marrage or what? im still confused
Bye and God Bless
-Andrea

 

[KeepTheFaith15]

i heard that when people get married at a young age that the likely that they get divorced is strong then if you wait till your older. maybe i heard wrong or maybe im making this up because thats what i thought i heard i get things all jumbled around so yeah....wait girl have fun loving god and enjoying life god will send you the right guy at the right time....

 

[Athlon4all]

You should only date if you feel like the Lord is teling you to find your future husband. Only date if u plan on marrying.

 

[foxybrown]