When does this get easier?

[cobweb]

My son has Asperger's Syndrome. I know that I should be grateful that he has the abilities that he does have and that he is healthy and can communicate with us.

Somehow I still feel like I am grieving the loss of something. I know that I shouldn't be, but I am. While we only recently recieved this diagnosis, he is 8 years old and I have always known that he was "different".

Why can't I just accept this and move on? Please tell me it gets easier.

 

[Tea]

Blessings and peace to you and your family.

Yes you will go through a grieving period. All families go through this. It is accepting the regocnising the lose of a healthy child and all that goes with it.

Life will get easier, and you learn to cope with the changes. Seek help and knowledge, and read, read read.

Prayer is a mainstay too.

Peace,
Tracey

 

[RedTulipMom]

It does get a little easier to ACCEPT it after awhile...my son was dx with PDD-NOS (Autism Spectrum Disorder) when he was aboutr 33 mos old , its been almost a year now since the dx...its still frustating and sad sometimes..but i am adjusting

 

[cobweb]

I think I am starting to accept it better. This is who he is and that isn't likely to change. I think that mentally I am ok with that now. I love him and this is a big part of who he is.

I'm not saying that I feel like crying or banging my head against the wall sometimes, but I think that I have really done some deep introspection over the last few days, and I feel better about it.

 

[CarrieAg93]

Your grieving process is perfectly normal. I am a speech pathologist and have been in meetings where parents were given the diagnosis of autism. Even the most "prepared" parents are in shock. Make the most of the resources available to you. The more you learn the easier it will get. There might be a support group in your area. Hugs and good luck.

 

[Lena75]

My hubby and I were prepared for our son's diagnosis of autism YET we still had hope that maybe he was still normal in some way...just kinda behind, yanno? I remember feeling sadness too but at the same time I had this peace of mind. Like ok, now we know with what we're dealing with...let's do what we can asap! I suggest talking to another mom or dad or even a group. Attend workshops. Workshops I found very educational and helped alot. I also made a new friend who lives nearby. She has an autistic son as well and I was SO amazed at how much we have in common!! Once I started talking to her, I didn't feel so alone. Our stories are different yet the same. If that makes any sense.

It does get easier with time. I would never change my autistic son. I've had days where I think, "What would he be like if he were normal?" Nevermind...I love him just the way he is! God gives us our special needs children to teach us something. Boy have I ever learned alot with having our autistic son!!

 

[cobweb]

I'm still working through this. I sat down and posted a new blog about my feelings today. It made me feel so much more at peace.