When did you marry?

[horuhe00]

When did you marry?
Now that you look back, did you marry at the right time? Or do you think you should have married sooner/later than you did?
Why do you think that?

 

[redwing030]

We decided to get married the September after I graduated college. Actually, the day that I graduated, my husband decided he wanted to go back to school. I think seeing me graduate made him realize he had just been treading water the past 7 or so years since he'd graduated high school. So once he had made that decision we decided to get married so that I could move outta state with him when he went back to school. So it's kinda funny, as soon as I finished my 4 years of college he started on his.

Now being married and knowing how wonderful it is we wonder why we ever waited, although I'm glad we didn't get married while I was still in school. I think that would have been too stressful at the time. So I'm very happy that we got married at the time we did.

 

[Peter]

I am still being married. Does this count? Almost 19 years ago my wife and I said "I do." But we are still being married. And in the end we hope to be married.

Rdr. Peter

 

[~Nikki~]

We married out of school and loved it!

I don't think we should have married later - we married seven months after we met and about four and a half months after we started dating. It might seem relatively fast but I'd been waiting all my life (well all 29 years of it) for Mr Right and when he turned up I knew it was him!

I'd like to have met him sooner but probably neither of us would have been ready for marriage, so God's timing was spot on!

 

[Oblivious]

Neither of us was in school. It was the perfect time, no regrets!

 

[LiberatedChick]

We got engaged whilst we were still in school but didn't marry until we'd finished...well actually about three years after finishing. We didn't want to marry earlier because we thought it was important for us to finish school, get jobs and move out of our parents houses before we married. During that time we did lots of research into prices and services of local companies to give us ideas of what we wanted for our wedding and who we could get to supply it...I ended up with piles of brochures lol. We did plan to get married a year earlier but in the end couldn't because of having to move out of a furnished flat into an unfurnished flat and hence needing to buy furniture and get settled again. I'm actually so glad we didn't marry a year earlier though as it was during that year my grandad died and, to put it simply, I didn't take it very well at all. I wouldn't change when we got married at all, it was just right for us.

 

[IceCrystalH2O]

I didn't even meet my husband till after I graduated....so had I gotten married while in school it would have been to the very WRONG guy... I am glad we got married as fast as we did though (three months after we first met) I think in some ways it helped our marriage.

 

[snoochface]

We got married when I was 33 and my husband was 45 - so yeah I'd say we were "out of school".

It was the perfect time for both of us. Our lives prior to meeting were not so great, really. Together, we supported each other through some very hard times and it all just really seemed to fit perfectly. I know how cliche this will sound, but it really did (does) feel like all the bad stuff we had been going through previously led us to each other. We don't regret anything we had to go through because it led to something really wonderful in us finding each other.

As for timing... we had only been dating six months when we got married. We had originally planned to be engaged longer, but my dad was dying of colon cancer and, as the youngest of four daughters (and the only one not married) it was very, very important to both me and to my dad that he be at my wedding. We had to push up the wedding date a couple of times because of my dad's health, and then finally we just knew he wasn't going to make it. We decided on a Monday to get married that Saturday, and I got the flu on Wednesday! But we threw together a wedding in five days, and we got married in my parents' living room, with my dad on the couch to give me away, and a neighbor/friend we had lived across the street from for 30 years who was a minister married us. So while I would have liked to have waited a little longer, I still think the timing was perfect because my dad got to be there to see me get married and to give me away. He died four days later, so ... bah, it makes me sad. This was supposed to be a happy post!

 

[Mirelys]

We got married my first semester of college. It was a blast having my husband in some of my classes, though it wasn't great for attendance...
"I don't want to go to class today."
"Me neither."
"Let's skip."

When he's done with his term of enlistment, we'll be students together again, though he'll be a junior and I'll be in graduate school so it won't be quite the same.

 

[jd032700]

My husband and I married during the Christmas break of our Senior year. It was great getting married when we did, but honestly, if we had it to do again we would probably have gotten married earlier. I think we wouldn't have had the problems with crossing boundaries that we did.

 

[romaneagle13]

I didn't date at all when I was in college. I worked part time, went to school at a local community college and lived at home. I had no interest in dating, nor did I have the time. It wasn't until a few years later when I was 27 that I met him. We met ONCE in person (he lived 450 miles away from me--I had been friends with his flatmate who introduced us when I was visiting their city on a business trip). We exchanged emails immediately afterwards, then phone calls and online chats. Three weeks later we got engaged over the internet. No sex or romantic attraction at first. We never even kissed until we saw each other again--after we had made the decision to marry--just after that one meeting!

Fast forward to the present--married 5 and half years and counting! Best thing I ever did. Proof that God works in mysterious ways. Our Lord reigns!

 

[Munchkinprincess]

I met my husband as I was finishing my senior year in HS. As soon as we got to know each other I knew he was the perfect man for me. He was only my second serious boyfriend, but I didn't care. We started dating in June, we were engaged by September and were married by November. I wanted to wait a while-we couldn't find anyone who would marry us because we were so young and my parents not only didn't like my husband but didn't want me to get married so young-but my dear hubby didn't want to wait. SO...here we are four years and almost four months later and we are happier than we have ever been. I do wish we had waited, just so I could have had my parents there (they didn't come to my wedding) and also so I could have had a big church wedding, but for the most part I'm happy we got married when we did. Granted it was much more difficult in the beginning and I wish I had gone to school, but God doesn't care whether I have a college degree (which, by the way, I am planning on getting) or a high school degree. He just cares that we are happy together and that we live our lives serving Him. And we do!

 

[artzy]

We were both out of school when we got married. We wanted to be financially stable before embarking on this marriage journey.... and I'm glad we made this choice.