What's wrong with you?

[JoeyArnold]

"Why are you so down today? Why aren't you talking much? Why are you in a bad mood? Why aren't you your usual self? What's wrong? You're bumming us out with your demeaner, your mood. It's affecting the rest of us." Said my friends today. I replied, "Why are you guys so quick to assume? Things are not exactly different. I'm in the same mood as I'm always in pretty much." My friend responded to that with, "You're lying."

 

[casey86]

The one thing I've learned from the times I have been social with people I know is that we are most of the time anything but ourselves when we are not alone. When we are around people whether we know them or not we always try if even just a little harder to say the right words or do the right things to avoid the quick judgement of others. There is nothing wrong with you. What seemed to happen in your situation was quick judgement in fear that your friends' current comfort zone was jeopardized by you not being in the same mood as them. We can't read minds and we can never always know when we should be more careful on our expression when around others. Don't let this bother you. There is hardly ever if any a completely comfortable social situation in the world today because of our sinful inheritance. If everyone truly knew Jesus I believe there would never be an uncomfortable social experience because no one would be quick or even at all judge or assume someone is putting their comfort zone in danger.

This is common and shouldn't make you worried or confused. We can't satisfy everyone always. That only exists in a perfect world which we know this world is anything but that.

 

[JoeyArnold]

By you not being in the same mood as them.

I really thought I was in the same mood as they were.

 

[casey86]

I really thought I was in the same mood as they were.

Moods can change instantly and its never our job to try to satisfy anyone by having to try to be someone that someone else expects you to be. If we have to do that then we aren't being ourselves. It seems they were being selfish at that moment. I never open up to people like that and say they are bumming my mood. Its just rude and inconsiderate to be that way. Don't let it bother you. Most people pretend to be someone else when they are around others or at least not be their true self so its nothing to try to figure out.