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whats too much?
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EmSchmem
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There isn't a clear line but typically when someone is asking this question they're trying to see how much they can get away with. The more appropriate quesion is what will be best for a God centered relationship? My husband and I couldn't be alone anywhere in a house or a parked car. We never touched any parts of bodies that we wouldn't touch a friend on (well except for kissing) and we had a lot of other boundaries specific to our relationship, including certain outfits we couldn't wear around each other (especially after we got engaged and things just go too tempting). We know couples however that couldn't kiss at all but didn't worry about where they went or what they wore. It jsut wasn't an issue for them.
I would say that if anything is leading to an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] or if "private" parts are being touched, you could easily be heading down a slippery slope that you didn't intend to go down. Also if you set boundaries don't look at them as "this is as far as we can go" but rather this is how we are respecting one another and we are going to proceede with caution everythine we are together as not to push the boundaries.
I would say that if anything is leading to an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] or if "private" parts are being touched, you could easily be heading down a slippery slope that you didn't intend to go down. Also if you set boundaries don't look at them as "this is as far as we can go" but rather this is how we are respecting one another and we are going to proceede with caution everythine we are together as not to push the boundaries.
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Lizzi4Christ
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There at least 5 other threads about this in this forum and perhaps in the young adults forum. I'm sure if you did some digging you would find some excellent posts on it.
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Another thing. You have to be smart after you set these boundaries. Don't put yourself in positions where they'll be broken. When my callers ask me how they can stick to their boundaries fo not having sex I tell them to go to Burger King. Who wants to have sex at Burger King?
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KristianJ
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Yup - there are plenty of threads on this with some good discussion - I'll post some links when I find them, but here's one over in Young Adults (even though you're under 18, you're still free to read the responses):
http://www.christianforums.com/t1583731-how-far-is-too-far-in-a-relationship.html
http://www.christianforums.com/t1583731-how-far-is-too-far-in-a-relationship.html
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Thanxs for your advice!! i just wanted your guys opinion! i have standards and i know what i will and wont do but i just wanted to know others opinions! thanxs
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Our youth group leader says the answer to any moral dilemma is WWJD - what would Jesus do? IMHO we should set ourselves that standard and try our best to achieve it, so courting couples shouldn't do things they think Jesus wouldn't have done.
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