What's The Toughest Thing About Being Single?

[JoieDeVivre]

I don't really mind being being single most of the time. My parents aren't dropping hints they want me to get married soon [I'm in my mid-20s], my friends never make me feel like a third wheel even when I'm among couples nor do they tease me about being single all of my life, and my church friends actually think it's great that I'm single since I have more time for the ministry.

The only 'tough' thing about being single is that some people [non-Christians especially] don't believe that one can be single AND be happy at the same time. When I tell them I'm perfectly happy being single, they give me this you've-got-to-be-kidding look. What is it with today's world that singlehood and happiness seem to be mutually exclusive concepts?

 

[BlueDragon]

lol, I'd have to say the toughest thing about being single is the waiting...

waiting is just as hard, if not harder, when you know something will eventually come...but it's that much more difficult when you don't know when it's coming...

Just like the week before that last day of school or work always seems to take 7 years to get to the end, it's that much worse...

But fortunately, It's still a fairly happy time knowing that the day will eventually come - so it's not all bad...spending time with friends, family, and church helps pass the time better and keeps things moving along nicely

 

[Didymus]

you says being married solves all your problems. i envy my single freinds at times because they can do what they want when they want. Of couse a husband is handy when the toilet is clogged ).
I think you have to submit to God s will for life and of you never marry He knows what is best for you. my sister is in her late 40 s never married and she is miserable because she feel sshe has been cheated of life.

 

[BlueDragon]

who said being married solves all your problems?
I don't think I did...
if anything, it brings more problems...but still...those problems are all welcome to me when the time is right...
As long as God is central, the problems can be solved and worked about to make things what they're truly meant to be

 

[Didymus]

I guess the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

 

[Wide-eyedWithWonder]

  It's great to be in a relationship/married, but I don't feel as though I have part of me missing while I am single.  I think that's the big problem with people - they think the void they feel can be filled by another person, when only God can fill that void.  I am perfectly content and happy in my singleness.  My life is simpler and I can spend my time growing closer to God and developing friendships with many friends. 

 

[Lbiagm]

I feel left out because of it at times.

 

[AngelAmidala]

I'm like lbiagm...my friends tend not to call me up to hang out and do stuff, because they're going out with their significant others and I don't have one. But when I am with them, I don't get treated like a 3rd wheel, which is nice.

My sister on the other hand, who complained all her life about feeling like that now treats everyone else like a 3rd wheel when she's with her guy.

 

[the_man]

Today at 10:24 AM Didymus said this in Post #5

I guess the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

Heh, yeah, but it's not grass, it's artificial turf 

 

[Lbiagm]

nice to know i'm not alone.

 

[fieldmouse3]

The toughest thing? Not having anyone to cuddle with.

 

[oncewaslost]

the toughest thing for me is the feeling of being left out since most of my friends have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

 

[gunnison]

Hey- how do you use this thing

 

[Glenn316]

Something that drove me crazy was when friends or church members would ask "So, when are you going to get married and have kids???" Like that was the end all or be all of life

 

[pinPoint]

like i said on you're top post in Single Ministry. The society is like a disease it will eat you up. The most hard thing about been single is really 2 things. (1) Waiting And (2) Standing For Truth. Waiting- it can be hard to wait especially when you see other couples, or two ppl mingle,etc. But waiting comes with nice side effects... like patience.. waiting for the Lord to write your love story. Isn't that like the most romantic thing ever!!??? The Ultimate Romance Creator writing/molding/creating your love story... i think its so neat. Standing for truth... again ppl will think you're nuts/crazy whatever you wanna call it... thats the society. Stand firm with the Lord and He shall amaze you. -- thats just my two cents.

pin~

 

[AnnMercy2]

The hardest things about being single for me is the loneliness and waiting. But each day is getting better and better with the help of the Lord. I fully believe that I'm getting stronger and stronger each passing day, some days it hurts more than others, but for the most part I am happy with me and the Lord. But I am human and it is going to be hard sometimes. But those hard times are the times that I have to lean on the Lord and remind myself that he is truly the only one I need and if he see fit to give me someone then that is all the more great.

Anna

 

[wvmtnkid]

The WAITING!!! I am telling ya, some days it seems like everyone else in the whole wide world is married or in a relationship but me! I know that is not true, but man, some days it sure feels like it.

Also, I have people that I went to high school with and were really good friends with at one time. They got married and now they act like they don't have any thing in common with me because I am not married. It's like they just don't know what to say to me or how to have a conversation now. Kinda strange if you ask me.

 

[vibrant]

feeling like an oddball.

at university everyone knows how the play the game... they're not completely inexperienced but know the fine art of flirting and dating. i, on the other hand, am a complete rookie so it's daunting to even think about entering. it's almost expected that you're supposed to have dated someone, at the very least, in high school.

i'm ever so glad i refrained though since i totally was not ready. God is constantly working on me to make me ready, so i'm not complaining. as someone said, i first want to fall in love with God before i fall in love with a man.

 

[jesusis4me]

Personally, after 10 years of marriage, I've been single for 1-1/2 years, and I love it, I don't think I will ever marry again

 

[speechless]

The hardest thing about being single for me.... is waiting! Not having someone to tell you love them, and knowing they love you equally. Not having someone to cuddle, so you "feel" loved.... and of course emotional support!