What's the advantage of doing it first?

[chaz345]

I didn't say that you did. I was just adding my two cents. *shrugs*

Sorry if I came across as snippy. I guess I'm just a little touchy because every time I've discussed divorce and how it should maybe be a LITTLE more difficult in most cases, the minority situation of abuse comes up as a reason we can't or shouldn't even be a little more active in discouraging divorce, let alone doing anything to make it a little more difficult.

 

[ido]

Sorry if I came across as snippy. I guess I'm just a little touchy because every time I've discussed divorce and how it should maybe be a LITTLE more difficult in most cases, the minority situation of abuse comes up as a reason we can't or shouldn't even be a little more active in discouraging divorce, let alone doing anything to make it a little more difficult.

'Sok - I get the same way about comments that generalize that all divorcees are money-grubbing and lazy and just trying to leach off their ex-husbands.

 

[DZoolander]

I dunno man...

You know - for all of the talk that I hear about frivolous divorces - I've never come across one in personal experience. I've never met anyone that said "You know, I just have had enough of how they put the toilet paper on wrong...and I just can't take it any more!"

MOST divorces that I know of were pretty dire - and included some form of abuse or another or infidelity. To be honest - I can't think of one that I have personal knowledge of that didn't.

 

[ido]

I dunno man...

You know - for all of the talk that I hear about frivolous divorces - I've never come across one in personal experience. I've never met anyone that said "You know, I just have had enough of how they put the toilet paper on wrong...and I just can't take it any more!"

MOST divorces that I know of were pretty dire - and included some form of abuse or another or infidelity. To be honest - I can't think of one that I have personal knowledge of that didn't.

Agreed. I only know of one and eveyone who knows this couple is calling the wife and telling her what a huge mistake she is making.