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Thanks to those who have prayed! Feeling a bit better today and I was able to get flowers to five different neighbors.
I had an aquarium years ago. For a new tank it's best to choose fish that are described as 'hardy'. That means they can tolerate the toxic chemicals that build up while the bacteria in the filter are multiplying, and playing catchup to breakdown all the toxic chemicals.Sad news: my aquarium crashed. Only survivor is my snail. Water tested horribly. I felt horrible, depressed the past few days but feel normal today. I think I added too many fish too quickly & the water got bad fast.
I'm back to the waiting game of waiting for the water to get good again. May be a couple weeks to a month which feels like a long time b/c I've been trying to get an aquarium going since May. Next time I either won't add so many fish at once or research how to get water ready for a big fish addition.
Right. I had a betta for a month & a 1/2. Water was testing good w/ 0 ammonia, but then I added 3 tetras & a snail. & I think they added more ammonia than what the tank was set up to handle. Plus I accidentally netted by betta out of the water for a minute & that added even more stress.I had an aquarium years ago. For a new tank it's best to choose fish that are described as 'hardy'. That means they can tolerate the toxic chemicals that build up while the bacteria in the filter are multiplying, and playing catchup to breakdown all the toxic chemicals.
I chose Zebra Danios because they're known to be hardy, even though I really wanted Cardinal Tetras. I also changed part of the tank water very regularly. Be careful during water changes to make sure the temperature of the replacement water is an exact match to the tank water and has been dechlorinated.
Once the tank (filter) has matured, and the bacteria in the filter have caught up with the rate of waste production, you can add more fish. Test the water regularly, change part of the water regularly, and leave it a few months before adding more fish. Even when the tank is mature, you'll still need to change part of the water regularly to stop nitrates building up.
Another important thing is don't overfeed! Any unconsumed food will contribute to the build up of toxic chemicals in the tank.
Also, be careful with the filter. You don't want to do anything that damages the bacteria that have colonised the filter media, because then the ability to process and eliminate waste will be degraded, and you'll be back at the beginning again. For example, if it's a sponge filter, don't wash it out in chlorinated water. If you feel you must clean the filter, then squeeze it a few times in water that you have removed from the tank (during a partial water change). And don't let the filter dry out, it's full of living organisms and they might die. If you need to replace a sponge filter, consider cutting the filter in half, replacing half, then replace the other half a month or two later. Same applies to filters that are porous rock. Don't wash the porous rock filter media in chlorinated water, don't remove it from the tank for long periods, or let it dry out.
Good luck with it!
Success or failure depends on tank size, how well the filter is working, how often you are doing partial water changes, and how much food is going into the tank.Right. I had a betta for a month & a 1/2. Water was testing good w/ 0 ammonia, but then I added 3 tetras & a snail. & I think they added more ammonia than what the tank was set up to handle. Plus I accidentally netted by betta out of the water for a minute & that added even more stress.
If the tank had no fish left, I might have just left the water as is. That way the bacteria that you want to colonise the filter have plenty of waste to eat and multiply. By removing most of the water, you may have removed most of the ammonia, so there is now less driving force for the filter to become colonised with bacteria that can break down these toxic chemicals to nitrites and nitrates. Also, if you leave the water as is, the reduction in ammonia and subsequent increase, peak and decline in nitrite will be more obvious. If you record all these things, then you can see when it's right to start adding fish again. Remember, ammonia and nitrites are the most toxic. Nitrates are less of a problem, and can only be removed by water change. Nitrates are also plant food, so they will support any real plants you have in the tank, but it also means algae may grow. Patience and time is your friend here, although I appreciate that you feel you've already waited a long time, since May.So I emptied most of the water & refilled. Ammonia is testing in the 1-2 range. Hopefully it doesn't take that long to get down to 0 & I can try a betta again.
I started with Zebra Danios. They're quite hardy, and none of mine died from tank pollution. The only one that died had some kind of weird genetic mutation. It grew far bigger than all the others, and eventually became sick. Make sure you buy fish from a reputable shop. They're more likely to be healthy, and less likely to be carrying parasites. Once you have added some fish, you can change a proportion of the water regularly. Changing 1/4 of the water once or twice a week should help keep your new fish happy. Once it's settled down a bit you can partially change the water less frequently, but keep an eye on nitrates, and test for ammonia and nitrites if you add more fish.I haven't had much luck w/ this. (first betta I put in a day after setting up tank, second betta water was close to being good but not quite, then this most recent one) If my next betta dies, I think I'm just going to get a bigger tank & do a normal community aquarium.
My tank is 5 gallons. I've seen some sources say a betta & a snail are the only things that should go in a 5 gallon, other sources say differently; plus my friend has a 5 gallon w/ a betta, 4 tetras, & 2 loaches & it's been that way all summer. I decided after this recent episode, if I want to try tetras too someday, I should just be safe & get a 10 gallon. Either way, it seems like I handled the addition incorrectly.Success or failure depends on tank size, how well the filter is working, how often you are doing partial water changes, and how much food is going into the tank.
If the tank had no fish left, I might have just left the water as is. That way the bacteria that you want to colonise the filter have plenty of waste to eat and multiply. By removing most of the water, you may have removed most of the ammonia, so there is now less driving force for the filter to become colonised with bacteria that can break down these toxic chemicals to nitrites and nitrates. Also, if you leave the water as is, the reduction in ammonia and subsequent increase, peak and decline in nitrite will be more obvious. If you record all these things, then you can see when it's right to start adding fish again. Remember, ammonia and nitrites are the most toxic. Nitrates are less of a problem, and can only be removed by water change. Nitrates are also plant food, so they will support any real plants you have in the tank, but it also means algae may grow. Patience and time is your friend here, although I appreciate that you feel you've already waited a long time, since May.
One thing you could try when the ammonia is back to zero, is to add a small amount of fish food every day. If the filter has been colonised with bacteria, then ammonia should not get too high. It will take a little while for the fish food you add to break down, so you need to give time for the ammonia to increase.
Try reading this:
Can I Use Fish Food to Cycle My Tank? (and How It Works)
I started with Zebra Danios. They're quite hardy, and none of mine died from tank pollution. The only one that died had some kind of weird genetic mutation. It grew far bigger than all the others, and eventually became sick. Make sure you buy fish from a reputable shop. They're more likely to be healthy, and less likely to be carrying parasites. Once you have added some fish, you can change a proportion of the water regularly. Changing 1/4 of the water once or twice a week should help keep your new fish happy. Once it's settled down a bit you can partially change the water less frequently, but keep an eye on nitrates, and test for ammonia and nitrites if you add more fish.
Another thing to bear in mind is that your fish breathe the same air that you do, because it's pumped into the water via the bubbler. If you redecorate, then some of those paint fumes end up dissolved in the aquarium water.
It might help if you tell me your tank stats. How large is your tank? What filter? Do you have gravel?
Post a picture if you like.
Praying that you will be able to get things figured out. It's a process. I had a goldfish pond at one time. Not the same as an aquarium but similar. Sounds like @JustSomeBloke has some useful advice and experience.I'm back to the waiting game of waiting for the water to get good again. May be a couple weeks to a month which feels like a long time b/c I've been trying to get an aquarium going since May. Next time I either won't add so many fish at once or research how to get water ready for a big fish addition.
That's quite a small tank. And with small tanks it's generally more difficult to keep the water chemistry stable. Mine was 8 gallons, and I wished I'd bought a little larger.My tank is 5 gallons. I've seen some sources say a betta & a snail are the only things that should go in a 5 gallon, other sources say differently; plus my friend has a 5 gallon w/ a betta, 4 tetras, & 2 loaches & it's been that way all summer. I decided after this recent episode, if I want to try tetras too someday, I should just be safe & get a 10 gallon. Either way, it seems like I handled the addition incorrectly.
Yeah, it's probably mostly the water quality that's the problem. But if you mod your filter you can make it much better.I have the 5 gallon aquarium PetSmart brand kit from PetSmart. I've been getting my fish from PetSmart. It seems like the issue is more my water hasn't been good than bringing in 'bad' fish, tho I think I'm going to get my next betta from the local fish store (very reputable in the area & been there since I was little) just to try something different.
You need to keep checking water quality, especially for the first 6-12 months, until the tank has matured, and you have confidence that the biological filter and its bacteria colony is removing pollutants. If you have even the slightest suspicion that pollutants may be increasing, then immediately change 1/4 of the water, as that buys a little more time for the biological filter and its bacteria colony to get on top of the pollution problem. And try cycling with fish food first, as it's less heart breaking than having all your fish die.Once ammonia gets down to zero, I'm going to add fish food every couple days & make sure ammonia stays zero. I should've done that before adding the tetras. Also should've done partial water changes every couple days w/ them in it. I tested for ammonia once w/ the full tank & it was only .25 so thought that was okay.
Until the tank has matured, and you have plenty of fish surviving as evidence that it's mature, then it's always a bit of a guessing game as to where you are in the nitrogen cycle, and the only clues you'll get will come from testing or your fish dying.Hopefully it doesn't take too long for ammonia to get down to 0. I'm testing positive for Nitrates & my aquarium seemed okay when I had my betta a month & 1/2 before adding the tetras. It's not like it's a brand new tank.
Very true! I'm glad that you help me to see things different.Who's to say? Maybe that will come through him.
I'm so glad! That's exactly what I have to have in a relationship is someone that I can connect with and talk to for hours on end.We have an amazing connection and we're friends too. We'd be pals if we didn't like each other. I can talk to him for hours. We spent 9 hours on the phone when we reconnected and 4 last night. I haven't done that since cara.
that's good that you have laid out the expectations. I was just reading about a news article of someone who put together after 2 weeks of dating a dating contract. 17 pages long. They met on tinder. She was dating three guys a week during the pandemic and had decided to take the risk. She ended up falling for a guy that was in law school and he could appreciate the contract that she made and actually a year later they are still trying to keep that contract for a dating relationship. The contract was very cute with what she laid out and she was inspired because she went through a toxic relationship before.When we discussed expectations I asked him to put it in writing. I wanted something to reference. He laid out his vision and broke it down into
There's so many times I say it's impossible because historically I never leaned some way.
So who's to say that I couldn't become a different person professionally if we are the right matching team. It sounds like you have a good fit.
That's good that you have laid out the expectations. I was just reading about a news article of someone who put together after 2 weeks of dating a dating contract. 17 pages long.
I'm using them to structure various tasks in a 3D medical emergency scenario. I only have them working with game objects at the moment, but by Monday I'd like to have them working with JSON files on a 3rd party asset.Working with state machines in the engine has been one of the biggest headaches and hurdles I've had in game design. Getting built-in animations to overlap, as well mouse-controlled animations to work in unison has been a major challenge, and the tutorials don't help much.
What are you using them for exactly?
Sounds interestingHe wants to arrange a shoot when he comes. I'm not a fashion stylist. Guess who's styling? He wants to build my skills.
Sounds really busy. I'm surprised, you usually decorate by the season? I've not met many other people that do decorations for each season.The past few weeks have been a blur. Staining the deck, painting the ceiling in the master bath, putting up fall decorations, taking the cat to the vet for health issues etc. Oh, and work. We've been swamped, but I suppose it's better to be needed than not
Sounds really busy. I'm surprised, you usually decorate by the season? I've not met many other people that do decorations for each season.
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