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Well there's your problem.
It's figs you're after. FIGS. Why can't you FIG-ure that out?
Same thing to you too #bella
I love gettting RessePieces at the movie theater btw. I rotate between that & popcorn. Yes I like getting snacks at the movie theater. Sue me.
Hmmm, will you stop in Michigan?Joking aside, I'll be back across the pond soon enough. First stop is Chicago again for more of that deep deep pizza. You're more than welcome to come along, I'll see if I can help you out a bit.
I've been meaning to visit a few people from CF anyway.
Hmmm, will you stop in Michigan?
I've been craving deep-dish pizza! Michigan is famous for pizza itself, btw. There's Detroit-style, plus Domino's & Little Cesar's both were founded in Michigan.
We tend to get overlooked by Chicago & New York style.
It'd have to be in Michigan, probably, then.Oh, probably. I like to flow quite freely when I visit the states. In fact I will for the sake of trying an original Domino's.
As a person who has done several New York stints, I can safely say that pizza is NOT one their strengths. I think most aspects of their cuisine are grossly overrated. I'll pass most of it over for cheap "street meat".
I've got to give it to them on the IPA front though. New York breweries are of universal class. Especially Other Half and Hudson Valley.
It'd have to be in Michigan, probably, then.
Michigan has its own craft breweries if you like that kind of stuff. We have Bell's & Founder's in West Michigan.
I wish someone would help me marriage prepare. Maybe it's a sign I won't get married.We all do. But refuting negativity with truth really works. You’re training your mind and dispelling lies.
I wrote scripture based affirmations for everything I wanted to achieve, prayed for, and received from the Lord a few years ago. I’ve watched a lot of it come to pass. Things I’d forgotten about. But I wrote everything down and kept a record.
I have moments too. I reinforce my mind with messages that edify and strengthen. I read a lot of self-help and Christian books. And I expect attacks in places of weakness and purpose. I stand in prayer against it and have others doing the same. I’m a big proponent of prayer requests.
When I was serving and spending a lot of time at church I felt the absence most. I don’t know why but I suspect the culture was the culprit. I didn’t feel the same at the synagogue. There was less separation and breaking into groups. The community worshiped and dined together and were very welcoming.
Marriage preparation isn’t my calling but I’ve undergone it. I think the process should begin at home with parents and the Lord’s assistance. They lay the foundation and He fine tunes it as we age. We shouldn’t promise the world and fail to tell believers how to secure it.
I’ve done the same with my daughter and we view mate selection as a shared event. It isn’t something we do in a vacuum. My family’s involved and so is @cara-mia. I seek their input on prospects. I could opt to go it alone because I’m older. But it’s nice to know I don’t have to. They want to get involved and keep me accountable.
I volunteered to be the wedding coordinator. The person was stepping down and the director offered me the position and the interview went well. As luck would have it, the coordinator was in my bible study and the head deaconess. She filled me in on the job and the challenges I’d face and encouraged me to turn it down. That was the Lord’s intervention. Maybe it would have been too much. I don’t know.
You’ll love it. Watchman Nee is very good too. The Spiritual Man is a must. But read her first.
Same thing to you too #bella
I wish someone would help me marriage prepare. Maybe it's a sign I won't get married.
I don't believe you have moments too. Not you.
I've achieved a lot, God's given me so much, but this remains unanswered.
I'm so confusedNot exactly. My circumstances were more extreme. Since you’re new I’ll explain.
My family prepared me to be an overachiever and a wife. In that order. I wasn’t explicitly told to marry. But their emphasis on ladyship and examples of biblical headship and submission had a huge impact.
My ideal was birthed in childhood. The traits I find most attractive are things I witnessed firsthand. We had a true patriarch whose presence and leadership were well regarded. We respected him deeply. I didn’t know at the time he’d become my standard. I’ve never met anyone like him. He was quite the gentleman.
When I began engaging online I connected with others like myself. We valued tradition and wanted relationships along those lines with men who desired the same. We shared our knowledge and encouraged one another.
Deportment was a big deal. We wanted to be soft and surrendered. We wanted to meet our companion’s needs and serve them. And we began honing our skills to do so. We didn’t pursue men or lead our relationships. We gave them the reins.
Being in their company was wonderful. They were a striking difference from the norm. As time passed I developed a desire to settle down. I met someone who presented an opportunity to do so.
Then God showed up and pulled me back. He led me to a synagogue to begin the process of my homecoming. I was destined to be there. They were meant to help. I’ve felt a draw to Judaism since my teens.
My homecoming required significant changes. I relinquished a lot. I lost those connections and formed new ones. But I never encountered others like them. It was an unmet need for years. My homemaking community comes close.
My life has a different trajectory. The Lord worked with me for several years. Marriage wasn’t a priority. But He made it clear I needed to settle down. My spouse is part of my destiny and His plan. I gave in.
It doesn't changeRight now. This moment you’re single. But tomorrow isn’t now. Who knows what’s on the horizon. Only God does.
ETA: I’ve begun to meet Christian women with a similar mindset. The Lord led me to a few last year. It was a long drought and I value their companionship. The absence of examples and gentle prodding (when necessary) has taken a toll. I’ve changed a lot but I’m addressing it.
The homemaking community provides the private setting I lost with women who value domesticity and a slower pace. Femininity is a mainstay and we’re given tools to improve our home keeping.
I haven't really been following the news....needed a break......Are they allowing international travel yet? I think Canada's still closed to us.I'm just waiting for things to calm down a bit on the COVID front. I've been hunkering down over here since it pretty much started. The UK took a bit of a hammering.
Hence why you hear me talking of my travels a lot. I miss it - BUT, *shrugs* I've got to be sensible. Especially since I've had respiratory issues in the past. (You can blame my farming years for that one.)
I'm so confused
It doesn't change
I haven't really been following the news....needed a break......Are they allowing international travel yet? I think Canada's still closed to us.
Also, I didn't realize you were 30!I was thrown off by your signature picture. You're my age, boy.
I'd be more willing to meet up then if you come here. Let me know.
Kind ofYeah, what did you think I was? A deadbeat? Lol.
hopefullyInternational travel *for us* is banned. We were really late on the draw, so now we're paying for it. BUT, the vaccine rollout is going very well, so it's not for much longer now. We've just got to control these variants and allow the vaccines override them.
Hmm, okay.My upbringing prepared me for marriage. It was influenced by what I saw. When I returned to God I was content as a single. I didn’t have a longing for marriage. It wasn’t my family’s focus and I didn’t hear the same at church. Marriage was a choice. Not a must.
God helped me understand the marital covenant and what it means. I’ve learned the value of companionship from a Christian perspective.
But sometimes I drag my feet.
It's hard to answer b/c I never dated.What’s your type? Tell me about her please.
Kind of
hopefully
She's shy. She's a church girl. She's conservative. Family is big to her. She has experiences w/ mental illness or disability. Animals <3 She also values intellect.
Those ones for sure.
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