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Based on your upbringing or personal beliefs?
My grandparents were the same way. They didn't hang on every word the priest said or believe he was perfect. I was raised Catholic. But when I attended a nondenominational church I saw that behavior. Not quite a guru but pretty close.
I don't entrust my spirit to everything or everyone. I do my own thinking. Because religious people often have fixed viewpoints that align with their theology. They have difficulty considering possibilities outside of that parameter or admitting they're uncertain.
The inability to say I don't know is a sticking point. No one knows everything. When you start in filling in the blanks to make things fit I'm out.
The fact she now has someone doesn't make you more awkward or emotionally guarded around her now?
My family was in the parish for decades. I went to the same school my aunts and sisters attended. That allowed me unlimited access to the rectory. I visited the priests often. We'd eat and talk about faith and other subjects. They were ordinary men who loved God. Perhaps that's why I was never enamored.
Gretchen Rubin has an interesting test on personality tendencies. She breaks them down into four categories: Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel. They're based on our response to expectations.
Outer expectations (a deadline, a “request” from a sweetheart), and
Inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, keep a New Year’s resolution).
I'm a Questioner and selective Upholder with my companion and certain situations where tradition is ideal. I'm not that way with friends.
- Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations
- Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense, so they make everything an inner expectation
- Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
- Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
You and @Tone can listen to an audio version of Pride and Prejudice.
Rrrriiigghhht...
Since you hung out on a fashion thread... *jinxes your team*
I don't get it...
I couldn't take a romance novel right now, especially one that you are so fixated on. Are you trying to drive me mad...er?!
Moi? Never.
Rrrriiigghhht...
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