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We could create 'The Dull Thread' where only dull things are discussed? Or no one replies b/c it's so dull? Then we can have a dull moment, or several.Never a dull moment.
Since I've shown you empathy, compassion, and concern in many other posts, the fact that you default to the hurt, resentful feelings of how other people have made you feel, that just cements what I said. The ability to separate feelings of past experiences and your own insecurities, from reality and what you know is true of other people (that I am not a harsh, uncaring person), is part of what you can learn through good counseling and therapy. Just to be clear, I was not being harsh or unfeeling to you at all. I'm not that kind of person. Your posts consistently exhibit someone who experiences frequent highs and lows of mood, conflicted thought patterns, and indecisiveness. You sometimes wonder aloud in your posts if this is normal. It is not normal. Therefore, I really, sincerely hope that you get help. Not that I view you as some broken, crazy, weird person. I don't. I don't hold such stigmas of mental illness, having suffered from them myself, and having lived and worked and been close to countless people with the same struggles. I view these people as human beings like any other, who are struggling and fighting a battle, and who need help to learn the tools and skills to get through them.I am not surprised at your answer. It is how I thought you'd respond if you did. A 'you have something really, really, really, really wrong with you, & dude, you need to see a therapist to fix you' kind of response. I hope you don't mean it like that when you give routine responses like that. You probably don't mean it like that. I believe since you are a Christian you don't mean it like that. But it sure comes off that way. A 'I don't understand your issue, you're too messed up for me or anyone else to get, & we're not even gonna try, & a therapist can fix you.' It comes across as not really caring, & not really caring to understand & learn.
I understand harsh truth is needed. Sometimes people do need to get help. But I believe encouragement should go with harsh truth. I found a ton of optimism & hope & 'where are all these good thoughts coming from I couldn't possibly have imagined' in my post' but there was not a sign of you read that in your post. Not even a 'I think a therapist would be good for you because blah blah blah. It'd be so amazing for you if they could figure something out for you.' Or any kind of questions or nothing.
I'm sorry I'm pushing back in your response. Let me explain: When I was growing up, when I was little, the next door neighbors told my parents I was weird, they needed to get me to a shrink. My parents were appalled at the rudeness. Maybe if the neighbors hadn't been so rude, & approached my parents with kindness, a wanting to see me do well, & not a 'he needs fixing & only a shrink can do that' kind of attitude, maybe they would've got me help early on & things would've been different & better. But my neighbors didn't. They did it wrong. I'm sorry to say this, but without the encouragement in your post, I can see some of the same wrong attitude, the same wrong approach. There's no tenderness. There's no empathy. Tell me I need to go to a shrink all you want, but without hope & optimism, it's only inviting push-back.
No, I have no intention of canceling. I am very interested in meeting him. I want to hear what he has to say. I want to listen. I want him to listen to me. I want him to understand where I'm coming from. I don't want him to make jokes about it, & for him to think it's insignificant or it's no big deal (& maybe it is no big deal, but again, without showing an understanding, it only provokes pushback b/c it comes across as rude). But maybe it'll be very good. Maybe it'll be very encouraging. I do need to understand not everything can get addressed first appointment, it may take some time to feel like I'm benefiting. But I really do want to go.
I do appreciate the response.
This is great advice. Thank you. I told a coworker not that long ago who was moving on & kind of nervous about it, that you wouldn't have applied & they wouldn't have hired you, & you wouldn't be quitting & moving on, if you didn't think you could grow & benefit from it. I need that same attitude I tried to give her.
Office manager -no, not really my thing. I went to school for accounting. I want something more related to that. My current job gets into it a little bit, but I want more of it.
Certifications or additional training - absolutely, great idea. My buddy is always finding ways to get certified from courses! He says I should to & you say it too!
Yes, exactly.If I may offer some input here, I think she was concerned about what you shared and she was trying to urge you to keep your appointment. I don't think she was trying to imply that you are a lost cause or can only be fixed by a shrink. I've read several of her other posts, and she has a very positive view of therapy/counselling. I think she's reminding you and urging you, because she thinks it will really help you.
ok fine. I have nothing to say. You shared what you think & that is what you think.Since I've shown you empathy, compassion, and concern in many other posts, the fact that you default to the hurt, resentful feelings of how other people have made you feel, that just cements what I said. The ability to separate feelings of past experiences and your own insecurities, from reality and what you know is true of other people (that I am not a harsh, uncaring person), is part of what you can learn through good counseling and therapy. Just to be clear, I was not being harsh or unfeeling to you at all. I'm not that kind of person. Your posts consistently exhibit someone who experiences frequent highs and lows of mood, conflicted thought patterns, and indecisiveness. You sometimes wonder aloud in your posts if this is normal. It is not normal. Therefore, I really, sincerely hope that you get help. Not that I view you as some broken, crazy, weird person. I don't. I don't hold such stigmas of mental illness, having suffered from them myself, and having lived and worked and been close to countless people with the same struggles. I view these people as human beings like any other, who are struggling and fighting a battle, and who need help to learn the tools and skills to get through them.
We could create 'The Dull Thread' where only dull things are discussed? Or no one replies b/c it's so dull? Then we can have a dull moment, or several.
I won't deny sometimes these things you are born with, but it really does make me question, was there someone to teach him masculinity? Did he have some kind of trauma? Was it 'passed on' from his parents / parent? I don't know, I don't know, but I don't think it's healthy.
It's like an otherwise perfectly functioning adult still not potty-trained & needing diapers. That's how I compare it. That's what I thought of. That's what I saw.
That'd be no fun.Would be nice if everything just worked out in life.
I know Genesis thru Chronciles.Bored me has been trying to memorize the order of the Bible books just for the heck of it.It's really not as easy as it would seem.
If everything worked out well in life, that'd also include fun in life working out too.That'd be no fun.
AbsolutelyWould be nice if everything just worked out in life.
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