What's on your mind?

[kittysbecute]

I'm not crying, you're crying!

 

[Multifavs]

@Multifavs

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Hahaha I like that!

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

I'm sorry for all my depressive posts. I'm going to stop posting them since I've beaten my dead horse until it became glue, used the glue to repair my beating stick, and continued to beat.

I should start applying what my therapist taught me.

 

[PeachieKeen]

I'm sorry for all my depressive posts. I'm going to stop posting them since I've beaten my dead horse until it became glue, used the glue to repair my beating stick, and continued to beat.

I should start applying what my therapist taught me.

Good for you for seeing a therapist. I know that'd be helpful for me too but I'm a coward.

For the record though, I never mind your venting.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

Good for you for seeing a therapist. I know that'd be helpful for me too but I'm a coward.

For the record though, I never mind your venting.

Yeah but I think I should just reserve my venting for the depression forums instead of Singles. I'm starting to think that you guys don't know what to do with me anymore and I can take a hint. I'm going to try to be more positive from now on.

 

[leothelioness]

Yeah but I think I should just reserve my venting for the depression forums instead of Singles. I'm starting to think that you guys don't know what to do with me anymore and I can take a hint. I'm going to try to be more positive from now on.

The Singles forum is not the most compassionate place for venting. Anytime I used to post about something that bothered me and just wanted someone to listen I got labeled a complainer. There was even a CF Singles Award called Best Complainer that was given to me which really hurt my feelings. I have not shared anything personal here again.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

The Singles forum is not the most compassionate place for venting. Anytime I used to post about something that bothered me and just wanted someone to listen I got labeled a complainer. There was even a CF Singles Award called Best Complainer that was given to me which really hurt my feelings. I have not shared anything personal here again.

I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserved better than that. I know you've been hurting from things I may or may not understand both in the past and in present. Jesus told us to bear each other's burdens and show each other tenderhearted compassion. In a perfect world, that would be easy. If empathy becomes a chore, then we have completely missed the point of Jesus's teachings.

If you ever feel down, just know you can hug this wolf for some fuzz therapy.

 

[Toro]

The Singles forum is not the most compassionate place for venting.

Im sorry that happened to you Leo, I do pray that it no longer hurts you at all and know there are some people you can talk to here now or at least found someone to talk to outside of here. Unless of course you have learned to take it all to God and thats an even bigger blessing than a shoulder to lean on.

I'm sorry for all my depressive posts. I'm going to stop posting them since I've beaten my dead horse until it became glue, used the glue to repair my beating stick, and continued to beat.

I should start applying what my therapist taught me.

I agree with Peachy, Im not bothered by your venting but I do pray for you Way.

 

[CodyFaith]

Just watched this video and concluded that other dog people like myself are amongst my favorite types of people.
That's all, carry on.

edit- realized that sounded pretentious haha. Did not intend... just saying that my heart can relate to those who really love doggos

 

[Multifavs]

@Wayholka and @leothelioness, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened to you guys. Venting doesn't bother me and I understand how you'd want to vent. If you ever need to talk with someone, I'm here for you.

For me it seems like there are problems outside of Singles. Oftentimes when I post a prayer request or ask for advice outside of Singles I get at least one post accusing me of not having enough faith or doing wrong or something, so I think I'm going to stick with posting those things in Singles from now on.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

For me it seems like there are problems outside of Singles. Oftentimes when I post a prayer request or ask for advice outside of Singles I get at least one post accusing me of not having enough faith or doing wrong or something, so I think I'm going to stick with posting those things in Singles from now on.

Accusing someone of not having enough faith is the surest way of decreasing another person's faith in God. It teaches them that their best is not good enough.

 

[Toro]

@Wayholka and @leothelioness, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened to you guys. Venting doesn't bother me and I understand how you'd want to vent. If you ever need to talk with someone, I'm here for you.

For me it seems like there are problems outside of Singles. Oftentimes when I post a prayer request or ask for advice outside of Singles I get at least one post accusing me of not having enough faith or doing wrong or something, so I think I'm going to stick with posting those things in Singles from now on.

Yes, many that bare His name need to be reminded about love. Follow the law all you want, if you do not love..... you have nothing.

1 Corinthians 13:13

1 John 3:18


I too need a reminder at times but yes..... if we are out done in loving actions by those that are unbelievers where do we stand seeking forgiveness, mercy and love..... yet returning none to our fellow brother or sister or even more, those that are lost as we were?

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

This is what I love about Singles. We're like one big happy family if we do bump heads from time to time.

 

[Paulie079]

I'm sorry for all my depressive posts. I'm going to stop posting them since I've beaten my dead horse until it became glue, used the glue to repair my beating stick, and continued to beat.

I should start applying what my therapist taught me.

There's nothing wrong with venting. I do think it can be easy to use social media to passive aggressively vent problems with other people (something I used to do a lot), and that itself isn't a great habit to get into, but that's never what I've seen you do. The only thing I would say is that it is one thing to talk about your struggles and another to say negative and deprecating things about yourself. It is entirely easy to believe a lot of lies of negativity and to repeat them to yourself over and over again, but I always encourage people to make an effort to break that cycle of negative thinking about themselves, even in the cheesiest of ways. You don't need to feel bad about posting about your struggles, but I would encourage you to work on breaking the cycle of negative thinking.

The Singles forum is not the most compassionate place for venting. Anytime I used to post about something that bothered me and just wanted someone to listen I got labeled a complainer. There was even a CF Singles Award called Best Complainer that was given to me which really hurt my feelings. I have not shared anything personal here again.

Dang. CF is savage sometimes. I must not have been around because I don't remember that. But hey, know that there are people here, myself included, who care about you and what is going on in your life.

 

[leothelioness]

I'm sorry that happened to you. You deserved better than that. I know you've been hurting from things I may or may not understand both in the past and in present. Jesus told us to bear each other's burdens and show each other tenderhearted compassion. In a perfect world, that would be easy. If empathy becomes a chore, then we have completely missed the point of Jesus's teachings.

If you ever feel down, just know you can hug this wolf for some fuzz therapy.

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Thanks, Way. You are so right. I think we often lose sight of the fact that we as brothers and sisters are here to help one another. Jesus would not have done any less than that for us.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

I also want to say that I'm actually thankful for this forum. It really opened my eyes to see that I'm not the only one with problems like I grew up believing. It's really great that I interact with people who shake the notion that I'm dealing with perfect people who want me gone but instead shows me that I'm dealing with genuine human beings who are hurting just as much as I am.

I think the most important part of following Jesus is being honest with ourselves with the fact that we all have problems despite how we portray ourselves in public. Once we start being honest about our own brokenness, we can help others with their brokenness out of humility, not pride.

 

[leothelioness]

Im sorry that happened to you Leo, I do pray that it no longer hurts you at all and know there are some people you can talk to here now or at least found someone to talk to outside of here. Unless of course you have learned to take it all to God and thats an even bigger blessing than a shoulder to lean on.

I have. If something bothers me the first thing I do is pray. I MIGHT seek advice from others, but I know where that has got me in the past and you can't really trust people anymore, so I usually just pray about it. I may ask others to pray for me as well, but it's very rare that I do.

@Wayholka and @leothelioness, I'm so sorry to hear what's happened to you guys. Venting doesn't bother me and I understand how you'd want to vent. If you ever need to talk with someone, I'm here for you.

Thanks, Multi.

Dang. CF is savage sometimes. I must not have been around because I don't remember that. But hey, know that there are people here, myself included, who care about you and what is going on in your life

Yeah, it was pretty crappy, but it just taught me to be more cautious.

 

[Multifavs]

Here at Singles we are friends, and you are all loved.

 

[Rigatoni]

Had my brother and nephew stop in for a few minutes. I didn't expect that today; it's always nice to take a break and spend time with family. Plus, I also got to bust out the ol' Nintendo 64 again.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

The Singles forum is not the most compassionate place for venting. Anytime I used to post about something that bothered me and just wanted someone to listen I got labeled a complainer. There was even a CF Singles Award called Best Complainer that was given to me which really hurt my feelings. I have not shared anything personal here again.

That is awful Leo, and am really sorry about it.

I think people should vent here, because that's what friend do, we listen.

Sometimes people might not post back because they don't have the words too say or don't want to say the wrong words but there is always someone here who will listen and chat.

@Wayholka you need to vent, and I think the venting is good for you in a way because then people can talk to you and say well actually i've felt like that, or that has happened to me etc Although I do thing at times you talk about yourself and autism in such a negative way that is upsetting to see someone who is talented, kind and damn right cool think about themselves like that. Venting can be a balancing act at times, sharing struggles but not bring oneself down if that makes sense at all