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Ya'll are being kinda mean.
Ya'll are being kinda mean.
And a lot of men are going MGTOW..
No surprise really..
Women are getting more and more open about being picky, yet they are also getting fatter and fatter.
166 pounds is obscene.
You think a woman weighing 166 pounds is obscene?
You think a woman weighing 166 pounds is obscene?
So not only is it unattractive but unhealthy as well
Depends on the height..
Especially when we're talking about averages. And in a climate where women are getting more and more open about their disgust for shorter men.
Unhealthy, perhaps. Unattractive... well that's subjective. I don't think it's very kind to be so broad-brushed.
Well it's interesting which is why I asked. Have you considered that, if anything, your experience as well as theirs to shorter men is just natural? We all have our preferences, so I don't think someone should be blamed because they prefer a taller partner, thinner, whatever, tons of subjective variables that appeal to the individual differently.
I think it's something worth considering because things like that are easy to dwell on when if we're honest with ourselves we probably do the same thing to others.
That's the thing though. If I have my own personal preferences I'm just being a pig and I need to change. Yet women can just be as open and honest about what they want all day and they're just "empowered".
We both know that isn't always the case. I imagine the overwhelming majority, if not all, women here would disagree with that statement.
Most people have had negative experiences with people of the opposite gender being unfairly critical, unkind or lacking understanding of a person's feelings, insecurities or whatever. But to assume that's the majority of either men or women is wrong.
I agree that in certain circumstances things go too far, but I still do believe the majority of both men and women are reasonable enough to understand the subjectivity of attraction. That shouldn't, however, be misunderstood as someone being unreasonable if they find the fact you tell them you don't find them attractive because they're overweight to be upsetting. Subjective or not, it'd suck to hear that just as I'm sure it would suck to hear someone wouldn't want to date you because of your height, your hair colour, your skin colour, your job or career type, your level of education, all sorts... but that comes down to managing disagreements or parting ways amicably. You can part ways without giving a detailed run down on why you don't want to be with them or the things you find objectionable and if that's what happened to you then I'm sorry, that sucks, but not everyone is like that, not even close.
Although if I were famous I'd have to keep my mouth shut on preferences or risk a huge media campaign against me, while female actresses can tell the whole world how much they despise shorter men, and how superior taller men are. Once that happens Buzzfeed will make an article gushing about their bravery and how that female is empowered.
When it come to media, and feminism (the one who wants a monopoly on social justice and body image problems) it's the case.
Although if I were famous I'd have to keep my mouth shut on preferences or risk a huge media campaign against me, while female actresses can tell the whole world how much they despise shorter men, and how superior taller men are. Once that happens Buzzfeed will make an article gushing about their bravery and how that female is empowered.
I mean just look at how post tenebras lux is defending women and another poster in this thread said we were being mean.
Not always, but yes there are some very vocal examples. I am not a fan of people like Sharon Osbourne. She was on a talk show I think I saw a clip of and yes that was pretty terrible and a definite double-standard at play, but not all women are like that, no where near, so that's why I take fault with the assumption that it's either a) one and the same across the board or b) even close to being like that with the majority of women.
Yes you're probably right to a certain extent, but that's just the media world. Controversy sells and until very recently in the grand scheme of things, the tables were turned.
I'm as against the extreme examples of feminism that take it way too far as you are, but to suggest it's systematic and symptomatic of all women is disingenuous.
What did Sharon Osbourne say? Lol.
Something incredibly distasteful, violent and clearly illegal if acted upon. However the nature of it, if said by a man, would definitely have caused a lot more commotion(not that her saying it didn't, though).
It wasn't good at all and her co-hosts just sat cackling away.
But the distinction here is that the majority of women aren't like that at all.
It's just disappointing that we even need to have this conversation. Not a fan of 'white knights' and hate that I'm coming across as one myself probably, but the fact I find a lot of those same extreme people equally as distasteful as you do is insulting to the women I know who are nothing like that to be compared. That isn't right at all.
Because the moment we sink to the same level as those we condemn, who are we to even be annoyed, let alone try and take the moral high ground?
I am not condemning women for having standards, its good they do, but why am I not allowed that same privilege? Why are my wants and desires in women viewed negatively while if there were women in this thread saying they are only going to go with a man taller than them, flowing with money, and many other things of the sort, that they would get no backlash at all. But if I say I don't want to go with a women who weighs more than me I'm the one with the issue, but if a women says I'm not going with a so called loser, shes thought of as having standards and self respect. It's ridiculous.
I don't think you're a white knight. Not sure if you're short though, if not I just don't know if you can understand my worries in this current climate is all.
Nope I'm 6'1 but rest assured my saddle bags have likely put off more women than your height
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