what's a BAD date?

[Gimpy]

One night I was out to dinner with a rather tall slender young lady.
Dinner had just been served, when she asked me how I felt about her.
I said I thought I liked her. She looked at me with hurt eyes. I felt for her so I took her hand and tried to explain that realtionships take time to develop. She suddenly began screaming like a wild banshee that my life belonged to her, as she attempted to make my hand an accessory to the table with her steak knife.

 

[SandyLou]

hmmmm. . . . you seem to be attracted to violent women. . . . . do you happen to work at a max security uhhhh, center?

 

[Gimpy]

Lets just say I do work in security

 

[eatenbylocusts]

One night I was out to dinner with a rather tall slender young lady.
Dinner had just been served, when she asked me how I felt about her.
I said I thought I liked her. She looked at me with hurt eyes. I felt for her so I took her hand and tried to explain that realtionships take time to develop. She suddenly began screaming like a wild banshee that my life belonged to her, as she attempted to make my hand an accessory to the table with her steak knife.

Come on. Are these really true? If they are I don't think dating is good for your health.

 

[jcj3803]

Come on. Are these really true?

Gimpy = bad leg => pulling your leg (figuratively).

 

[Gimpy]

would you like to hear about another of my bad dates?

 

[SandyLou]

personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

 

[eatenbylocusts]

What I have found annoying is when you think you're having a good date, he even tries to kiss you goodnight, but then the calls and emails fizzle out to nothing. The one guy I almost felt like it was God making sure I didn't invest more time with someone who appeared fuzzy in his spirituality, but the other just completely befuddled me.

 

[Princess Pea]

When, after several conversational dead-ends and numerous glances at his watch in less than an hour, he says, "Can I go now?" (I said yes.)

Or when he (different guy) says he's taking you home now because his ball game is coming on ...

Or when you run into his ex-wife. Yeah, that's an awkward one.

 

[Princess Pea]

personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

But the stories are so much fun to tell! Honestly, sometime that's the only good part of the date ... "well, this will make a good story some day ... "

But back on track. When there's a lack of eye contact, an obvious lack of enthusiasm, forced conversation, bad behavior of any kind ... those are all pretty good signs that this thing is going nowhere. I keep telling myself I haven't found Mr. Right yet, but I've gotten awfully good at recognizing Mr. Wrong early enough to prevent him from doing any harm.

 

[Gimpy]

personally I'd rather we get back on topic with some honest insights about how you KNOW a date is not going well. . . . but then, that's just me wearing the OP button ~shrug~

Oh, ok

 

[jcj3803]

When, after several conversational dead-ends and numerous glances at his watch in less than an hour, he says, "Can I go now?" (I said yes.)

LOL! (Sorry!)

Or when he (different guy) says he's taking you home now because his ball game is coming on ...

That might not be such a bad sign. If you are in the early stages of dating, it might mean that he is not so enthralled with you (yet) that he wants to keep doing his own thing, so to speak. I mean if a guy were willing to drop everything to spend extra time with you on a first or second date, that might mean he's "blowtorching" - ready to confess undying "love", which burns out in a couple of weeks - or very needy.

Slow and steady seems better than "I love you, I love you, I love you!" and *POOF*

I'm not sure I explained what I mean very well. Does it make any sense?

 

[Princess Pea]

LOL! (Sorry!)



That might not be such a bad sign. If you are in the early stages of dating, it might mean that he is not so enthralled with you (yet) that he wants to keep doing his own thing, so to speak. I mean if a guy were willing to drop everything to spend extra time with you on a first or second date, that might mean he's "blowtorching" - ready to confess undying "love", which burns out in a couple of weeks - or very needy.

Slow and steady seems better than "I love you, I love you, I love you!" and *POOF*

I'm not sure I explained what I mean very well. Does it make any sense?

Sure, I agree 100% with the slow and steady approach. And even ditching me in favor of a ball game would have been OK if he hadn't TOLD me he was ditching me for a ball game! Or if he'd warned me in advance that it would be a very short evening because there was a ball game he wanted to watch ... or scheduled the date for a different night ... or invited me to watch it with him ...

Anyway, the ball game incident was about six weeks into into a 6-month relationship, and turned out to be a sign of things to come. The "can I go now" incident, on the other hand - that was a first date. And a last.

 

[OhhJim]

If you find yourself wanting to get away, it's a bad date. If you find yourself looking forward to seeing him/her again, it's a good date. I've had a couple of first dates where I suddenly came to the realization that scrubbing the grout in my shower was a fascinating alternative, and I couldn't wait to go do it.

 

[Gimpy]

 

[OhhJim]

To be fair, my dates probably felt the same way about me!

 

[HopeandFaith4God]

Good Afternoon everyone,

First, I think a Good Date would leave you with a sence of yes I caught him kinda feeling. Second, I think that if there was no feelings of any kind that you were thinking (this guy isnt for me) that to me would be a bad date.

I really think that people rush into things to fast these days and without just being friends first . I also feel that you have to be friends first before anything eles . Get to know each other before you take that marriage step . Maybe there wouldnt be so many divorces now adays . People can actually be living a happy and full life with there partner with Jesuses help through there church. So, I guess what i'm trying to say there is no good or bad dates I think its all up to us how we handle it from the beinning. (Faith) God Bless

 

[SandyLou]

. Get to know each other before you take that marriage step .

HUH?????
who was talking MARRIAGE???

I must've missed something - I was talking about a first or second date. . . . if there was a trigger for you that set off that lil alarm that says "YIKES where's the door?"



or, in Gimpy's experiences, "call 911"!

 

[Gimpy]

HUH?????
who was talking MARRIAGE???

I must've missed something - I was talking about a first or second date. . . . if there was a trigger for you that set off that lil alarm that says "YIKES where's the door?"



or, in Gimpy's experiences, "call 911"!

LOL I think some people are in a hurry to get married.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

LOL I think some people are in a hurry to get married.

Ok, not really in a hurry to be married, but to know I'm heading that way with the right person, I am so ready.