what's a BAD date?

[SandyLou]

How do you know it either IS or WAS a bad date?

not really looking for specific horror stories (altho that might be a fun thread. . . ). . . (and no, I'm not looking for over-ripe fruit*giggle* )

 

[Gimpy]

I usually know when she jumps out of the car on the way home and starts throwing rocks at my car. That makes it pretty clear.
joking
Actually, its just in the body language and when she starts answering your questions in one word sentences or says nothing and looks the other way when you express an opinion. Its pretty clear.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

I had initiated correspondence with a local guy on a Christian dating site and we started emailing quite a bit. He suggested we meet for coffee. I really enjoyed our communication so I was pretty excited. When I walked up he was sitting hunched over and not looking happy which was my first clue. I think we talked for about 2 hours, but the majority was strained. Also, I barely recognized him because his pictures that he had posted were at least 5 years old and he weighed at least 30 pounds more. At the end he handed me a business card and told me to call him if I ever needed an escort somewhere??????

 

[RDouglas]

What's a bad date?

I'm not a big fan of April 15th.

Oh wait, that wasn't what you meant

 

[SandyLou]

actually the 15th isn't a BAD date this year. . . . it's the 17th!

nice to know you've never experienced a bad social date though - good 4 u!

 

[SandyLou]

When I walked up he was sitting hunched over and not looking happy which was my first clue. I think we talked for about 2 hours, but the majority was strained.

TWO HOURS????
Sorry, I'm shocked it was that long!

Sounds like you are saying something similar to Gimpy (minus the rock throwing). . . body language means a lot.

 

[Gimpy]

I like it better when they throw rocks. Takes all the guessing out of the date.

 

[KarrieTex]

I am one of those girls who will leave him sitting at the table if it is really bad.

Though honestly if there is no laughter.

 

[Gimpy]

I am one of those girls who will leave him sitting at the table if it is really bad.

Though honestly if there is no laughter.

What if he comes following you whimpering that you are his only chance?

 

[KarrieTex]

What if he comes following you whimpering that you are his only chance?

Hmm, he better duck then because I have a wicked right hook and since I have been working out it's just that much potent.

 

[SandyLou]

good for you, Karrie! There have been (MANY!) times I wished I had the nerve / vehicle to leave the table.
My first (and sadly often experienced) clue is a guy who does nothing but talk about himself and has no interest in me, my interests, life, or opinions. I used to attract the "only talk about my ex" type ~ guys who obviously weren't past their prior relationships. Thinking I should carry a portable sign "Therapy 5 cents". . . . . .yeah. . .that's when I go into the "bored body language" mentioned above. As a Christian with the MERCY gift I feel the need to stay and let the guy talk but . . . call it what it is - and that ain't a date! *giggle*

 

[PassionateOne]

How do you know it either IS or WAS a bad date?

oooooo....I've got a good one!!!!

This happened about 14 years ago. 1st, the guy was 1/2 late to pick me up......he shows up at the door (gym bag in hand and asks to use my shower, because he didn't have time to take one at the gym). I should've closed the door on him, but I was already to go out and had been waiting.

We go to dinner and he keeps trying to put his hand on my knee at dinner....I finally told him after 5 attempts to keep his hands to himself or take me home.

We went to this club in LA, because he was a PR person for the 'stars' and I wanted to meet some (that was really the only reason I went out with him and God 'paid' me back for it! )

The club was fine, I just was a little frazzled, by this point, and wanted to go home anyway. On the way home, he again, tried to put his hand on my knee in the car, I then told him.....if he didn't stop trying to touch my leg, I would break his fingers!

We get back to my place and (of course) he left his gym bag in my apartment and not only did he rush inside of the apart., BUT he went over and plopped on the couch and patted the couch for me to come sit next to him.

The guy was alot shorter and smaller than me, so I pretty much YELLED for him to get out of my house!! I could 'take him' if he tried anything with me.

Anyways, that's my 'bad date' story!

 

[soccerdad66]

oooooo....I've got a good one!!!!

This happened about 14 years ago. 1st, the guy was 1/2 late to pick me up......he shows up at the door (gym bag in hand and asks to use my shower, because he didn't have time to take one at the gym). I should've closed the door on him, but I was already to go out and had been waiting.

We go to dinner and he keeps trying to put his hand on my knee at dinner....I finally told him after 5 attempts to keep his hands to himself or take me home.

We went to this club in LA, because he was a PR person for the 'stars' and I wanted to meet some (that was really the only reason I went out with him and God 'paid' me back for it! )

The club was fine, I just was a little frazzled, by this point, and wanted to go home anyway. On the way home, he again, tried to put his hand on my knee in the car, I then told him.....if he didn't stop trying to touch my leg, I would break his fingers!

We get back to my place and (of course) he left his gym bag in my apartment and not only did he rush inside of the apart., BUT he went over and plopped on the couch and patted the couch for me to come sit next to him.

The guy was alot shorter and smaller than me, so I pretty much YELLED for him to get out of my house!! I could 'take him' if he tried anything with me.

Anyways, that's my 'bad date' story!

Uffda!

I usually try to schedule first dates so they don't last more then an hour or so. That way if it's ackward and one or neither of us want to be there, then it's easy to leave.

If we happen to really like each other, well, then you just can keep it going.

 

[SandyLou]

Uffda!

I usually try to schedule first dates so they don't last more then an hour or so. That way if it's ackward and one or neither of us want to be there, then it's easy to leave.

If we happen to really like each other, well, then you just can keep it going.

soooooooooooo. . . . . what determines "you don't want to be there"?

 

[Gimpy]

I will never forget the time that girl tried to stab me in the neck with an ice pick because I didnt want to stop at her old boyfriends.

 

[PassionateOne]

I will never forget the time that girl tried to stab me in the neck with an ice pick because I didnt want to stop at her old boyfriends.

:o

 

[jcj3803]

Started corresponding and eventually phoning a woman from match.com. She seemed nice, pretty voice, nice description (but no pic), so we agreed to meet at a local mall. I figured there were restaurants there we could go to and if it went sour, I needed some new clothes anyway. How's that for contingency planning?

I was waiting at the mall when a woman walked up and identified herself as my date. NOTHING at all like she had described herself.

Lest you think I'm Shallow Hal, I have dated women who said they were plain looking or overweight. I'd rather have honesty and make a decision based on that than be blindsided.

She asked who I was, and foolishly I did not say she had the wrong guy. She immediately grabbed ahold of my arm and wouldn't let go. I wasn't sure what to do so off we went.

It was getting close to dinner, and since she had driven a fair distance, I thought I'd at least buy her dinner. She ordered a meal I would have had trouble finishing (and I can eat!) and sucked that thing down in about 10 minutes. At that point she pulled out a sheet of paper and started reading me a poem with a hero rescuing a damsel in distress.

I thought that she was at least creative but when the description of the hero started sounding eerily like me, I knew it was time to bail.

I said I needed to go and offered to walk her to her car since it was now after dark. As we walked down the row her car was in, she stopped and said she couldn't find it. I thought, "You're taking a cab, because I am not driving anywhere with you."

Turns out her car was just a couple more down and as I turned to say goodbye, she literally jumped on me to kiss me.

I dodged, said goodbye, headed straight to my car and swore off online dating for a year.

 

[Gimpy]

Well, there was the one I didnt know was a bad date until 2 days later when I found a beautifully wrapped package on my door step. After opening it I discovered a rattle snake, but fortunately I dodged its deadly fangs and chopped its head off with my hunting knife.
Later I found out she hated all men, especially those she fell in love with. She thought they deserved death because those were the most dangerous to her.

 

[Gimpy]

Ok, if you dont like the last one I have others.

 

[MN John]

Keep spinning them Gimpy! I'm entertained!