What Would You Do?

marezee · Mar 23, 2008

...if a level 3 sex offender moved into your neighborhood??

We received some disturbing news last week...
a level 3 sex offender moved into the house directly across the street from ours. We are planning on getting some cameras with a live feed to a hand held unit so we can monitor the boys in the yard, but is that enough?
I normally do not allow them to be outside by themselves anyway, but what do i do if i have to go to the bathroom?
I'm sick with worry now.
And our school is just a 5 minute drive from our home.
It just makes me sick.

bliz · Mar 23, 2008

First, see if you can find out what kind of sexual offense this person was convicted of. Sexual offenders, like most criminals, tend to stick to one kind of offense. An offender who rapes women may an unwelcome addition to the neighborhood, but he is not a major risk for your kids.

Regardless, it never hurts to add some security to your yard and home. Personally, I'd add a dog - one that attaches to families and is very protective without being overly agressive. Plus, one of good size. A dog is better protection than a lot of other options, inside and out of the house. A dog with a great growl who will obey commands causes a whole lot of people to think twice.
Plus, they are a nice addition to the family.

clycleader · Mar 23, 2008

Level three offenders are the most likely to re-offend. UGH. I previously worked as a probation officer (for juveniles) and according to statistics the level threes are the worst. Sorry. There's a website it lists the offenders and their offense. It will include lots of helpful information. I'd bring my kid/kids into the house if Ihave to come inside. Here's the website...
http://www.familywatchdog.us/

marezee · Mar 23, 2008

I do not want a dog, although that would be a deterent.

Thanks for the website cycleader.

http://www.familywatchdog.us <staff edit>

It states he had sexual contact with a child...it doesn't say what age or gender.
very scarey!

clycleader · Mar 24, 2008

Here's another info site that I have used to answer some of my questions before. It's out of Wash. State, but gives a bit of info on the levels of offenders.
http://ml.waspc.org/FAQ.aspx#Level3

clycleader · Mar 24, 2008

I agree. Very scary!So sorry that you have to deal with that kind of stress. Being a parent is hard enough without other frightening people in the area.
At least you know what he looks like. Warn your kids about the stranger danger stuff if you haven't already.
I saw on Am most wanted one time a woman who went around posting pictures, discriptions etc of the guy all around the neighboorhood. At schools and everything. In a way, it was overboard, but in another way, it helps inform parents so that it can't happen to another child.

TexasSky · Mar 23, 2008

marezee said:
...if a level 3 sex offender moved into your neighborhood??

We received some disturbing news last week...
a level 3 sex offender moved into the house directly across the street from ours. We are planning on getting some cameras with a live feed to a hand held unit so we can monitor the boys in the yard, but is that enough?
I normally do not allow them to be outside by themselves anyway, but what do i do if i have to go to the bathroom?
I'm sick with worry now.
And our school is just a 5 minute drive from our home.
It just makes me sick.

Is it legal to be that close to the school?
In our city zoning laws prohibit them from living so close to schools or churches.

TexasSky · Mar 24, 2008

Double post.

marezee · Mar 24, 2008

clycleader said:
I agree. Very scary!So sorry that you have to deal with that kind of stress. Being a parent is hard enough without other frightening people in the area.
At least you know what he looks like. Warn your kids about the stranger danger stuff if you haven't already.
I saw on Am most wanted one time a woman who went around posting pictures, discriptions etc of the guy all around the neighboorhood. At schools and everything. In a way, it was overboard, but in another way, it helps inform parents so that it can't happen to another child.

I haven't really talked to the boys about this yet.
They know not to go with strangers though.
We got this info from our school...they send out mailings when they are notified by the police, and post pictures in their lobby as well.
I am not sure about the law and where these people can and cannot live. Evidentally he can live there because he is. And the woman he is living with gave up her children for him. Child protective services took them out of the house and sent them to live with their father.

Birbitt · Mar 23, 2008

I do not have any advice for you on this matter as I don't even know what I would do if this happened near us except for what I already do....so I can't help you there but we will pray for you family to stay safe and that God will give you the wisdom you need in this situation.

Birbitt · Mar 24, 2008

I do not have any advice for you on this matter as I don't even know what I would do if this happened near us except for what I already do....so I can't help you there but we will pray for you family to stay safe and that God will give you the wisdom you need in this situation.

TexasSky · Mar 23, 2008

What is a "level 3"?

marezee · Mar 24, 2008

Birbitt said:
I do not have any advice for you on this matter as I don't even know what I would do if this happened near us except for what I already do....so I can't help you there but we will pray for you family to stay safe and that God will give you the wisdom you need in this situation.

Thank you!!

marezee · Mar 27, 2008

Birbitt said:
I do not have any advice for you on this matter as I don't even know what I would do if this happened near us except for what I already do....so I can't help you there but we will pray for you family to stay safe and that God will give you the wisdom you need in this situation.

thank you!

marezee · Mar 27, 2008

we talked to our boys about this man.
i don't think they really understand though.
we told them that he was a "bad man," and that he would hurt them.
I also told them that we would not leave them alone in the house or the yard.
anyway, last night Nick (our 5yr old) said he was afraid that the bad man would get him.
I felt terrible that i instilled fear in Nick.
I just told him to pray to Jesus for protection.
He said "God please don't let that bad man get me. Amen."
I think that covers it!

MyaShane · Mar 27, 2008

marezee said:
He said "God please don't let that bad man get me. Amen."

Aw Marzee that would just break my heart, too! You were doing what you thought was best for them though! Keeping them safe is the most important thing in this and I'm not sure how you could have approached the subject with your boys without instilling some fear in them. for your boys' safety!

marezee · Mar 29, 2008

MyaShane said:
Aw Marzee that would just break my heart, too! You were doing what you thought was best for them though! Keeping them safe is the most important thing in this and I'm not sure how you could have approached the subject with your boys without instilling some fear in them. for your boys' safety!

thank you so much for the encouragement and prayers!!

FaithLoveHope9 · Mar 29, 2008

Praying for you! This is very scary... Too close for comfort.

Alexus · Mar 30, 2008

I would have told my children too. I think being scared is awful but it is better then what could happen if they were lured by him into his house.

I wouldn't let my children play in the front yard at all. Even if I was there. I would be worried he could be videotaping them as they play or fantasizing etc through his curtains. I am a very paranoid person.

I think it is disgusting that he is allowed to be there! I hope and pray that he is only there for a very short amount of time.

clycleader · Mar 30, 2008

I think you did the right thing too. It's better (I think) to have the boys be a bit afraid rather than not knowing about him.

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