What to do when 1 or both of your parents won't leave you alone?

[sk8brdkd]

Normally, when I get home from work, I either go out right away or, lock myself in my room.

Today, I got home from my first job. Needed to do some work on my laptop before heading to my 2nd job. I ate lunch, packaged an item that I sold on ebay, then went to the post office and came back home to finish working on something.

For an Entire hour, every 1-3 min, my mom came up to me, karen, do you want this coupon? karen, what do you want to do w/ this paper? karen, do you want to keep this box? karen, have you seen the black scissor? karen, look, this is why you need to use the shredder to tear papers up (of course, i know exactly why....), karen, do you want these coupons? karen, look, i got a 2nd coupon for dog bones, do you want them? etc. etc....... I couldn't deal w/ it. I wasn't able to concentrate or get anything done plus i'm exhausted and I told her all of this when I initially got home. But, she continued in her rant showing/asking/telling me things that didn't matter. I kept my cool on the outside but, I finally said to her, listen, I'm going in my room and this is the only place where I can have peace and quiet and have no one bother me.

They wonder why i don't like ot hang out in the kitchen or the family room w/ them even though I've told them before why.

Although I got 0 done of what I needed to get done in that hour, I am exhausted right now and am going to rest before I have to leave for my 2nd job in 40 min.... Not much of a breather but, its just frustrating trying to deal w/ them when they won't stop.

 

[seashale76]

My mother is exactly the same way. Moving out is always an option. It helps tremendously.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

here's a hard fact: if you're working 2 jobs to live at home with your parents, it will likely take at least 3 jobs to earn the money you'd need to live in a place by yourself; how much time would you have then? let's say they decided to put you out so you can find out what a struggle it can be to provide for yourself; what would you do? where would you sleep? how would you eat? there's a waiting list for most homeless shelters btw

if you can't be patient with them because they are your parents and love you so much they'll put up with you to hep you, think about how hard your life would be if you had to suddenly pay for your own food, rent, electric bill, phone bill, transportation, etc. - that should help you to be more patient with them.

Deu 5:16 KJV
(16) Honour thy father and thy mother, as the LORD thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Eph 6:2-3 KJV
(2) Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise) ;
(3) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

 

[Odetta]

Your parents are doing you a favor letting you live with them - I'm assuming you're over age at this point. They also clearly want to spend time with you. If you want to ignore them completely, move out. Otherwise, don't be rude.

 

[--CTR--]

Did you say hello to your family when you arrived home? They may be your parents, but they're also human. Talk to them, and then let them know that you need some alone time to complete some tasks and that you don't want to be disturbed.

 

[Gentle Lamb]

I see a common thread in the responses people give you which is to be nicer to your parents, etc... I kind of had the same problem where I didn't want to be around my parents and deal with the verbal abuses (it's been visceral at times). I started praying for God to put love in my heart for them and that helped immensely. Try making time to spend with them each day, just listening to them and being present with them. It does sound like they just want to spend time with you and stuff. We do have 2 ears and one mouth because we are to listen more than we speak. There's nothing more valuable you can give to a loved one than your time and your ears to listen and a shoulder to lean on. Try working on building a more positive relationship with your parents in this way and pray for the love and patience to do so. It's a lot of selflessness involved, which is what the Father wants of us. Try to remember that Jesus came to serve not to be served, and that may help this become easier for you. We do not have easy situations for sure, but sometimes it is us that needs to change before anything in the situation will change, because God wants to stretch us out and strengthen our faith. It is all part of the relationship with God. Draw your strength from the Lord, He is always there for us and understands us more than we know

 

[Quasicentennial]

I suppose leaving a sticky message on your bedroom door or sending you an email to your laptop is silent and written communication, so that you can reply in your 1 hour break time convenience, plus written communication is more memorable and more organized and relevant to the subject as your parents will try to keep subject short and precise in their comments, especially to your boss if your task is delivering the local newspapers to a selected map bordered area where you are a walker being paid for that area(s) - just for example's sake.;'*':.,

 

[BFine]

Not much time at home when working two
jobs... for some reason I was thinking you
were rooming with a friend???