What Sins Do Women Struggle With?

[GraceSavedMess]

Not trying to dig my nose into other peoples' business, this is purely curiosity. I have two main Christian fellowship groups. One is a men's bible study group, the other a Christ based fraternity. As I've developed friendships with my Christian brothers, we've been quite open about our personal pitfalls- whichever specific sin we find has an especially heavy dominion over our lives, that we keep returning to over and over. For both friend groups, I noticed porn was the most common. About 9/10 of the guys struggled with it, and possibly more since some in the other tenth may not have had the courage to talk openly about it.

I started thinking about the fact that maybe some sins are more common for one gender than the other. I'm not saying of course that there aren't plenty of women struggling with lust. But when I look at all the Christian girls in my life, most of them appear so pure sexually, and there's no way that the same number of them are struggling with porn as is the case with us dudes. Yet many of them have such a sound faith and humble attitude towards Christ, one that I can't imagine a person could have without a deep personal struggle with sin and awareness of their own failure to live righteously.

One of my fraternity brothers and I were hanging out one on one and checked in on each other spiritually, how we were doing fighting our sex and substance related issues, and he randomly asked me what I thought girls struggle with. We both felt that there was no way every one of our Christian sisters was struggling with sex, drugs or both at the same rate we were.

So my question is- what sin (not sexual or substance related) do women often find themselves fighting that is probably not as common for men?

 

[exitstageright]

No,I do not belong to the "Sin Police".From my experiences,with Christian women,the most sin that I have observed is...….lying. I just cannot trust anyone who lies to me.

 

[Job3315]

Not trying to dig my nose into other peoples' business, this is purely curiosity. I have two main Christian fellowship groups. One is a men's bible study group, the other a Christ based fraternity. As I've developed friendships with my Christian brothers, we've been quite open about our personal pitfalls- whichever specific sin we find has an especially heavy dominion over our lives, that we keep returning to over and over. For both friend groups, I noticed porn was the most common. About 9/10 of the guys struggled with it, and possibly more since some in the other tenth may not have had the courage to talk openly about it.

I started thinking about the fact that maybe some sins are more common for one gender than the other. I'm not saying of course that there aren't plenty of women struggling with lust. But when I look at all the Christian girls in my life, most of them appear so pure sexually, and there's no way that the same number of them are struggling with porn as is the case with us dudes. Yet many of them have such a sound faith and humble attitude towards Christ, one that I can't imagine a person could have without a deep personal struggle with sin and awareness of their own failure to live righteously.

One of my fraternity brothers and I were hanging out one on one and checked in on each other spiritually, how we were doing fighting our sex and substance related issues, and he randomly asked me what I thought girls struggle with. We both felt that there was no way every one of our Christian sisters was struggling with sex, drugs or both at the same rate we were.

So my question is- what sin (not sexual or substance related) do women often find themselves fighting that is probably not as common for men?

Thank you for posting this question. I really think many relationships/marriages could be saved if both ends were this open and honest in asking that kind of question in a safe environment.

I believe most women struggle with the spirit of Jetzebel.

 

[salt-n-light]

Not trying to dig my nose into other peoples' business, this is purely curiosity. I have two main Christian fellowship groups. One is a men's bible study group, the other a Christ based fraternity. As I've developed friendships with my Christian brothers, we've been quite open about our personal pitfalls- whichever specific sin we find has an especially heavy dominion over our lives, that we keep returning to over and over. For both friend groups, I noticed porn was the most common. About 9/10 of the guys struggled with it, and possibly more since some in the other tenth may not have had the courage to talk openly about it.

I started thinking about the fact that maybe some sins are more common for one gender than the other. I'm not saying of course that there aren't plenty of women struggling with lust. But when I look at all the Christian girls in my life, most of them appear so pure sexually, and there's no way that the same number of them are struggling with porn as is the case with us dudes. Yet many of them have such a sound faith and humble attitude towards Christ, one that I can't imagine a person could have without a deep personal struggle with sin and awareness of their own failure to live righteously.

One of my fraternity brothers and I were hanging out one on one and checked in on each other spiritually, how we were doing fighting our sex and substance related issues, and he randomly asked me what I thought girls struggle with. We both felt that there was no way every one of our Christian sisters was struggling with sex, drugs or both at the same rate we were.

So my question is- what sin (not sexual or substance related) do women often find themselves fighting that is probably not as common for men?

In my view, we have the same issues, except when it come to things that are relational to men. That's why you have alot of the feminist movement going on.

Women biblical are discussed the weaker vessel (body no mind), and more innate to nuture. Even the most independent of woman are reminded monthly of our built nature when it comes to ranging estrogen levels and menstruation. This is a very significant part of how we not only manuever ourselves as a woman, but also the expectation we have when we are connecting with men. My body, body of a female, forces me to think more inwardly.

Because men are the stronger vessel, have more testosterone, and don't deal with the same bodily burdens monthly, they are more naturally built to be more of a leading role. If you see how women normally will act around men, we acknowledge it in the way we approach men, we dont try to overpower them in mannerisms. A man body forces them to think more outwardly.

In turn our expectation is that they don't belittle us, but rather uphold us emotionally and treat our built nature to nurture as something of value, and protect such as a treasure. Its a delicate dance of the man respecting and supportive the women need of space to focus inwardly, and the woman respecting and supporting the man's need of space to focus on things outwardly. Its most shown in a relationship/marriage setting, but even among friends, you can see that sort of environment.

The problem lies where they don't do such. Where women are more of objects, or where women are expected to be both the leader and the one being lead simultaneously. When men themselves desert that leading role, and then look on other men to be the leader for them (so effeminate themselves). When that crucial role is distorted, thats where you see the temptation to sin as a woman. By dropping that acknowledge to men, all those roles and mannerisms drop. In hindsight, what makes a woman is their relation to man. Sever that tie, and im more like a blank canvas that can be reinvented to anything. When a woman get to such a dissociative state of mind, that's where you see the struggles, and inner conflicts, and the array of sins manifest.

I think feminism wraps that array of sins that are gender based to women quite neatly. Thats my take.

 

[Shempster]

The main one is the one promised as a curse to Eve. "your desire shall be for your husband".
The original language seems to indicate that her desire is the desire to control her husband, not to want him close.
They do this because they are normally right and they know it. But, they force their stuff on us trying to dominate us when they should be using gentle, subtle ways to help us rather than using manipulation and nagging.
Lucky for me, that is the way my wifey does it. That is how I know it is true. And I have learned more from her than a thousand books could try and teach me.